Why I Froze My Eggs

I much prefer the idea of freezing eggs over freezing embryos. If eggs are abandoned or unneeded, there isn't the ethical dilemma over what to do with them. I wish that couples undergoing infertility treatments would also consider fertilizing only some eggs to become embryos and to save the rest as eggs. This would also help fertility clinics who have the problem of storing abandoned embryos and don't know what to do with them.

This goes against common sense and nature. There are good, natural reasons why women are less fertile as they age. Too many are sold on vanity-oriented services cater to the whims of the affluent and self-centered. Are we becoming a bunch of Frankensteins? In the long run the victims are the children and ultimately society.

First off I must say after reading this artilce it is kind of cool that you can have that done. But for someone that is this age and have not found Mr.Prerfect they need to stop and realize that there is no perfect man. Every man have his flaw. Cause no one on earth is perfect. Now what she need to do is look at herself and say what am i doing to not get a man. Trust me there are some good guys out there you just have to find them may it be young meaning 20's or old in the 40's you take your pick. Maybe you need to lighten up and enjoy life and someone will come to you just before you know it.

Thank you for writing this wonderful article. We need more brave women like you discussing egg freezing. I am a divorced 40 year old woman who is in the process of stimulating my egg follicles for egg freezing. I am scheduled to retrieve my eggs this Sunday on MOTHER's Day!!

Thank you for writing this wonderful article. We need more brave women like you out there discussing egg freezing. I just turned 40 years old, I am divorced and I am currently taking the hormones to stimulate my egg follicle growth for egg freezing. My egg's are expected to be retrieved this weekend on MOTHER's Day!!

Wait, Rachel Lehmann-Haupt is 'selfish" because she wants to have her own biological child with a partner she loves? Stop the presses, someone put her in a zoo because she is WEIRD. Parents who moralize like this are insufferable. You cannot call the author selfish because you yourself were thinking of yourselves when you decided to have a child. Unless you are a Vulcan and are overcome by some animalistic, overwhelming impulse to procreate every few years, you made the calculated decision to have a baby. That's what most parents say: I "want" to have kids and condemn others for not making all the "sacrifices" they made---well, heck, in that case Ms. Lehmann-Haupt should have just dropped out of school and married some random guy with a decent job the first chance she got. What an awesome solution to a complex and nuanced situation.

Only when egg freezing becomes I reliable technology will women catch up with men economically. The fact that women must devote enormous amounts of energy to balancing work and family sets them back. And I absolutely do not mean to imply that there are not fathers out there who are doing tremendous jobs with child care. Nor do ai mean to imply that taking time to raise children is not worth it. Only that men have the option to have heir own biological children well into their 40's and 50's, or later, and so have the luxury of putting career first, as many career driven men do. Why shouldn't women have the choice? I absolutely do not believe that it is selfish to (1) want to wait to have children with Mr. Right, so that your children do not have to suffer through a divorce, (2) to want your own biological children (how many men or women in the prime of their productive years chose adoption over having their own children - I can think of one and (3) to want to raise a child when you are secure, both financially and other wise in your job so that you are comfortable taking the time necessary to stay home with your child.

Society absolutely will evolve in this direction.

The discussion of fertility, including natural birth vs surrogacy is a heated discussion among women, especially surrogacy. Surrogacy being egg donor and uterus, or uterus with biological egg and sperm from bio. couple, or just egg donor to bio uterus. It gets pretty complicated both physically, ethically and monetarily. As a women, I would NEVER, NEVER give up a child for adoption. I would however have no problem in carrying another child that is not mine (a donor egg and sperm) for the biological parents for a price. I would have no problem in charging a huge premium to women, who want it all., but who CHOOSE to put off childbearing for selfish reasons. Get real, a women's body is not meant to bear children successfully past 35. For those who wait, I say too bad, pay up, or adopt if!

I am Mr. Right if you are Mrs. Right. Kids are easy, I have two. Six is fine with me. But you have to be Mrs. Right. Yes yes yes, I get it. It took me a while, but I do get it. We have to be in love love love. Yes there must be clear communication lines between us, but all the communication difficulties go away when there is a deeper connectivity between us. The deeper we go, the easier we speak without words and our words will have more meaning and love and happiness will grow, not wane. Can you connect with me? Can I connect with you? Do we bring meaning to our lives? Do we bring meaning to one another? Can I make you feel as if you matter in this big bad world and can you do the same for me? I do not know, nor do you until we meet. Where is my Mrs. Right? If by the serendipitous law of destiny or luck or statistical mathematics you see me and I see you then all is right and we illuminate together. If not, then life just goes on and on and on .... I am hotmail or yahoo by the same name above. Take your pick. I hope to talk to you soon and be patient. Vince

In todays world, we have many options and it is up to us as individuals to decide whats right for us. Everyone is entitled to their own opinioin and decisions, if one decides to do something against the norm, its frowned upon and judged considerably. I say, do what your gut feeling tells you. As a single woman, I would consider freezing my eggs. That seems a more viable option then sitting at home, twiddling my fingers and waiting for Mr. Right to come knocking. Reality of today's society makes me think like this and thats my opinion.

wow, this is crazy. I come from a very very traditional mexican cultural environment. Women are expected to stay a virgin until the wedding night and it is not even a thing to discuss; it just happens, no one is surprised by it. I asked my mom once while chopping onions "so, did you have sex before you got married?"

mom: "yuck! no!"...." but I did planned on leaving town and getting pregnant if I became older and couldn't get married because I didn't find the right person. Later, maybe come back. Or just raise the baby on my own."

She and my dad got married when they both were 26 which is very late for our culture. I was born a year later. I am amazed by her way of thinking. Where she's from it is a big shame to have a baby wthout a dad. But she didn't care. She had her career in her pocket, she was confident, and even if she had to walk the walk of shame she wouldn't sacrifice having a family ... or a baby in this instance.

I think that even if I had been a bastard child, with such a way of thinking I would have grown up to be the same stiff-necked and confident person I am right now. Maybe she softened up once she got married because she got someone to protect her. But I got a soft heart after her.

society has run amok... the selfishness in these comments is overwhelming...hardly anyone cares about family values anymore...was actully nice to see a few commemts from peopel who do... hey ?? When these cryogenic "Moms" go to sperm bank to fertilize their frozen eggs do they get a free toaster for opening an account ???

Call me selfish but if I wanted a child I would have one with or without a committed relationship. In my first marriage I thought I had a committed relationship and found out I didn't after the four children. Any way like my mother used to say, can't count on a relationship being forever so go for it while you can.