A Mother’s Day Uprising

I don't have kids but I have helped raise a few and I think it more selfish to have kids when you are not ready for them.

If you ever find yourself in divorce court, you will see exactly that in action. Because in court, and this is important to remember, "all women are victims, and all men are predators". And that is exactly how the system will treat you the second you walk thru the door and without knowing the first thng about you, your wife, or your situation.

deesgusted, you seem to be a very angry person. what do you do to contribute in your household and with your family that makes you so angry?

As a single father, I take offense at your whiney post. Most dads that I know are, in addition to the primary breadwinner (and gee, that must be because of the 'glass ceiling', huh?) are also heavily involved with their kids and take them to doctors appointments, parent-teacher meetings, etc, etc. What we don't do is constantly grouse about our lot in life, complain insessantly to our friends about how 'stressed' we are, and lay around watching Lifetime, Oxygen, or some other woe-is-me TV channel 24x7.

Quit your b*tchin and get a grip.

Thank you both. I've been kind of shocked reading some of the ultra-hatred on this comment forum. Even though most of us don't know what we are getting into when we step into parenthood. Single or not, It's a weird world that we all try and make the best of and yes we are human. How about we all give everybody a break or maybe a helping hand when it looks like someone cerebellum is about to pop from stress.

Mostly wonderful, LOL! I'm right there with you; my 15 yo is "mostly, uh, wonderful" and I would probably be berated unmercifully if I said that in front of my mostly wonderful female friends. We moms (and women who aren't and are bitter about it) are WAY too hard on moms who make mistakes and get tired. Let's give each other a break, and while we''re at it we should give dads like YOU a break and bring them into the fold. Viva good-enough parenting!

Happy Mothers Day to you, too. You've been both. God bless you for that.

The ruin your life with kids OR ruin your carpet with dogs is my favorite line/joke ever!!! I got my tubes tied at 30 - 4 months before I met my husband. We have 3 dogs, and yes, we got new carpet in June last year. Personally, I think getting new carpet is fun and enjoyable. AND I think having kids not only ruins your life, but probably your carpets, too, as I see at restaurants how kids trow/drop food all over the floor.

Um, leave him? We make our own choices in life, and children learn by what they see and hear. Not only should he man up, but you need to get a backbone. Honestly.

ever been a mother?

ever been a parent?

no AND no?

well then, SHUT UP and go about your life that is devoid of priorities and responsability and please continue to act with such disregard for women and mothers, im sure its really helping your relationship/sex life alot...

with that out of the way, my mother was/is independent, gave birth to me at the age of 21 while married to a drunken sailor... left him knowing he would never help (and he never did, no child support, no physical support, no emotional support... only emotional/verbal attacks from 3,000 miles away), moved us across the country, put herself through college while working full time and raising me. now she makes a six figure salary, has another child from her second marriage (my little sister who is 10) and is doing it all over again, with a smile on her face to boot.

apparently mommy wasnt around for you to appreciate all the things that they do and accomplish while your still hanging on her teet you ungrateful little man....

now, take the bottle out of your mouth, pull up your training diapers, and go to your room and think about what you said.

Sounds like most irresponsible college kids I 've met, especially the frat boy types. I know you're here to try to smear women (seriously, I bet you don't get many potential partners male or female with an attitude like that), but what you're describing here is a very immature yet HUMAN tendancy. Not a female tendancy, not a male tendancy. It is human. You've proved this by showing that you are exactly what you are complaining about repeatedly on this board.

Sounds like you married a boy. Which is unfortunate. I would unplug the PS3 and chuck it out the window or into the sink if I had to ask repeatedly for help with an overflowing workload while my partner sat around playing whatever game after a hard day of NOT being at work .And yes, I was laid off for months last year and terribly depressed about it. Still I didn't sit around playing games, visiting the beach or going shopping while there was work to help with at home. Neither have any of the family oriented neighbors I've had who have also been laid off in the last year or two.

Tell Boyo to pick up a mop or a cooking pan and get cracking. Or help with the kids' homework. Better yet, schedule an errand so he HAS to sit at home and fuss with a to-do list for a change. If only our obligations stopped when a job did! Then I would have actually enjoyed unemployment 4% more...

Is he unconscious of what needs to be done? If someone else did it when he was growing up, he might be. Can you ask him what he likes in his home environment, e.g. supper, clean sheets, and then give him the frequency and duration of those jobs and ask him which ones he wants to do?

Is he unconscious of what needs to be done? If someone else did it when he was growing up, he might be. Can you ask him what he likes in his home environment, e.g. supper, clean sheets, and then give him the frequency and duration of those jobs and ask him which ones he wants to do?

I had a very difficult time having my children and definitely relate to & sympathize with your position. It took over 8 years and a lot of heartache. I would not change having them for anything & love them more than anything. My response to these posts is due to posters who are attacking the moms with horrible and ignorant comments. The best things in life don't come easy and have to be worked at. This generation is expected by ourselves and others to do everything and perfectly at that. All I would think would be the best family situation for husband, wife and especially the children is for the parents (mostly failing on the father's side) to work together and a family and have appreciation for all that is done. Instead many of todays men wants to do as little as possible, take advantage that their wives will break their back to keep it all going and then feel they have the right to belittle and complain.