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  • Posted By: JeremiahA @ 05/23/2009 10:53:24 AM

    "Sex is justified, even sanctified, as soon as, but only as, it is a vehicle of love. Thus love is not understood as a mere side-effect of sex; rather, sex is a way of expressing the experience of that ultimate togetherness (marriage) which is called love."--Viktor E. Frankl

    Policy differences will continue to exist on this and other related topics as long as a majority of the left/liberals continue to view sex as only an inconsequential act used to satisfy one's own selfish need and contiune to view children as property of the state, which in effect dehumanizes infants to the point where they are seen as objects by narcissistic young women.

    And these differences will continue if euphemisms are continuously employed by the pro-abortion side. They wish to be called "pro-choice," not "pro-abortion." However, for example, if you state that a man has a right to kill his innocent neighbor, are you more "pro-choice" or are you more "pro-murder"? Personally, I detest the thought of abortion but I also understand that it may be the only option in some cases, and so I do not try to hide my guilt by claiming I am pro-choice. I am guilty of being a pro-abortionist, even if I want to limit them.

    • Posted By: Psychoword @ 05/24/2009 8:54:50 PM

      I take some issue with JeremiahA's comments about the lack of distinction between "pro-choice" and "pro-abortion". I will state, clearly and irrevocably that I am, as it relates to my own moral position, pro-life. However, as it relates to the government's intrusion into a woman's private decisions, I am pro-choice.

      I feel confident in saying that this distinction is at the core of the stalemated battle between pro-life and pro-choice fanatics. I am a deeply rooted Christian follower, and as such, I value the sanctity of all life, even that which has no legal rights of its own (i.e. an unborn fetus). If given the opportunity to discourse with a woman who was in the midst of making this decision, I would argue the merits of keeping the child, or at least, giving the child up for adoption if this woman could not take care of the child herself.

      Likewise, I feel a great deal of remorse for all those women who have chosen to end the lives of their unborn children, because I have no doubt that, for a normal person in today's society, the emotional repercussions of abortion are extremely difficult to deal with, not to mention the spiritual issues. I pray often for those who walk this path to find their way back from the post-abortion struggles that almost all women face.

      I cannot, however, condone the government's necessity to interfere on such matters. Such a decision is, at its core, between the woman, her partner, the child, and whatever god she believes in. If the woman (and her partner, ideally) feel an abortion is absolutely necessary, they have the ultimate right to do so, because, legally, the woman has a legal right to her own body.

      I, of course, understand the counter-argument, which simply states that the unborn child should have rights as well, and to that end, without the fetus's consent, an abortion should not be allowed. Taken further, this would ultimately outlaw abortion, because without exception a fetus will never be able to voice any opinion.

      This is where I feel that the law must tread murky waters and realize that an unborn fetus can have no rights, because to have rights is to say that it can manifest those rights through decisions. A fetus cannot express anything, for good or for ill. It lacks, for the most part, even the simplest behaviors that infants possess to aid in the survival process. We know that a fetus can feel pain, and that, to some extent, it can respond to external stimuli, but it is difficult to see enough evidence to call a fetus a sentient being. The spiritual part of me knows that it is aware, but the scientific side of me feels differently.

      That being said, the law has to err on the side of favoring the woman's rights to those of the unborn child. As I stated above, I could never agree with this decision in my own life, as my moral compass points me in other directions. However, in a legal standpoint, I have to believe that the woman's rights supercede the fetus's, and a

      • Posted By: Psychoword @ 05/24/2009 8:58:59 PM

        (continued from above)

        as such, I favor a pro-choice stance in the legal sense.

        I apologize for anyone I have upset with my points, and would welcome any feedback to my position.

        • Posted By: JeremiahA @ 05/28/2009 12:27:18 PM

          I believe I agree with most everything you wrote, though still "pro-choice" remains a misnomer. As you said, pro-choice is the idea that a woman has a legal right to her own body.

          However, this right of life and liberty already existed. A woman may choose to accept or reject medical treatment, medication, or whether she would like a tattoo on her body. A woman has many choices, but the term "pro-choice" is specific to only one issue...whether a woman has the right to terminate a life inside her...whether a female has a right to life and liberty while an unborn female does not.

          In other words, the expression "pro-choice" does not address the issue of freedom to choose for women but rather a woman's right to an abortion. Therefore, "pro-abortion" is the truly accurate term.

          Political correctness, I feel, interferes with the ability of the member's of a society to compromise or come to an understanding. Accuracy in speech and action are vital.

  • Posted By: moriarty_1 @ 05/20/2009 10:52:00 PM

    To all those for pro life why don't they support the cost of prenatal care and raising the kid. Some people just aren't born to be parents. Those supporting pro life aren't any better at parenting nor are willing to burden the cost themselves. Even in the bible it supports abortion (see old testament). In this economy they can't even support themselves yet they want to support pro-life. LOL... They even bash on Octo-MOM. This is totally bs, and decisions should be made by the women afterall she is carrying the fertilized gametocyte. If parents raise the kid up improperly there could consequences like deaths to innocent bystanders but do people care about the consequences. Let alone some of these moms are on welfare and it's the burden to taxpayers. Maybe all those pro-lifers don't mind donating a large percentage of their income to raising these kids or subsidizing the parents of kids. Where is the financial or fiscal responsibility? But the truth is pro-life or pro-choice comes down to sex and all actions have consequences...

    • Posted By: bjsassy @ 05/21/2009 9:06:34 AM

      moriarty - I am not very knowledgeable on the Old Testament. Please find the scripture or quote about abortion being just fine and dandy.

      BTW, pro-lifers and pro-choice people do subsidize many parents and their children. According to the National Center for Health Statistics, 39.7% of unmarried women gave birth in 2007. Many of them will need assistance through welfare, food stamps, Medicaid and subsidized housing. In addition, 40% of households do not pay taxes at all. It is a disturbing trend, but these women chose to give birth. They were not coerced.

      • Posted By: moriarty_1 @ 05/22/2009 1:15:18 AM

        @word1032
        Exodus 13:1-2 The LORD said to Moses, 2 "Consecrate to me every firstborn male. The first offspring of every womb among the Israelites belongs to me, whether man or animal."

        Exodus 22:29 "Do not hold back offerings from your granaries or your vats. You must give me the firstborn of your sons. Do the same with your cattle and your sheep. Let them stay with their mothers for seven days, but give them to me on the eighth day."

        • Posted By: bjsassy @ 05/22/2009 8:25:03 PM

          Now those two quotes are quite a stretch. It isn't even close. I am not one to quote the bible, but I did come upon this:

          "And if men struggle and strike a woman with child so that she has a miscarriage, yet there is no further injury, he shall be fined as the woman's husband may demand of him, and he shall pay as the judges decide. But if there is any further injury, then you shall appoint as a penalty life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot, burn for burn, wound for wound, bruise for bruise."
          Exodus 21:22-25.

          Children were valued in those early biblical times. They were not aborted.

  • Posted By: word1032 @ 05/22/2009 2:31:24 PM

    moriarty, Please read the whole context, this means to use for His service..............

    Ex 13:13 And every firstling of an ass thou shalt redeem with a lamb; and if thou wilt not redeem it, then thou shalt break his neck: and all the firstborn of man among thy children shalt thou redeem. 14 And it shall be when thy son asketh thee in time to come, saying, What is this? that thou shalt say unto him, By strength of hand the LORD brought us out from Egypt, from the house of bondage:
    (redeem) <padah>. means to "rescue" preserve for His service so they would pass on the knowledge of what God did for them. something people today have forgotten even though we have it written down.
    Don't be ignorant.

    Ho 4:6 ¶ My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.

  • Posted By: word1032 @ 05/22/2009 2:06:43 PM

    reisbergsgal said,
    When the Bible speaks of stoning your child to death for shaming the family, or selling one of your wives, or sacrificing your animals do you take that literally?

    Only ignorant persons would take that literally today seeing that we are not under that system of law today.....................Heb 7:12 For the priesthood being changed, there is made of necessity a change also of the law.

  • Posted By: word1032 @ 05/22/2009 2:01:08 PM

    Rich Monk said,
    Take religion out of the equation,

    Rich, this is what got us into this mess to begin with.
    Don't be ignorant.

    Ho 4:6 ¶ My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge: because thou hast rejected knowledge, I will also reject thee, that thou shalt be no priest to me: seeing thou hast forgotten the law of thy God, I will also forget thy children.

  • Posted By: gloriamundi @ 05/21/2009 3:24:36 PM

    In the comments thread following the Minneapolis Star Tribune "Editorial: Obama's abortion 'common ground'," on May. 20, 09 at 7:04 pm I posted "It is not a debate unless your opponent uses civility, logic, context, factual accuracy, and addresses your legitimate points. Every single experience I have had with the pro-life contingent has shown that they are not capable of debate. When I try to participate in comments threads with these people, I end up feeling brutalized, date-raped, and blamed for it all over again! The essay I wrote on the topic is published on newsvine." The following post by dankoz on May. 20, 09 at 8:58 pm WAS A FIRST in that dankoz was the FIRST pro-lifer on a comments thread to address a comment I made WITHOUT ATTACKING ME! YES! He actually showed empathy for me and was willing to admit his frustration with the Catholic clergy's support of the war and of the mechanisms that increase the divide between the poor and the wealthy in this country!!!! Maybe dankoz is one of the rare Christians actually following Christ! Don't you other pro-lifers see that your approach is what polarizes the debate and drives women to Planned Parenthood, which unfortunately doesn't really offer options! Like others were saying, nobody is "pro-abortion"! We all agree that it is a tragic last option when the other options are likely to perpetuate poverty or tie a woman to a man she is better off without. Pro-lifers just absolutely need to quit screaming and implying "Murderer!" and work on mitigating the social ills that cause a woman to want an abortion!

  • Posted By: word1032 @ 05/21/2009 8:50:17 AM

    DHAMPTON100 said:
    On another note, it bothers me when people use the Bible to justify their decision to try to tell other people how they should conduct themselves in this life.

    JESUS MUST REALLY BOTHER YOU.
    Joh 17:17 ¶ Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth.

    • Posted By: reisbergsgal @ 05/21/2009 11:32:17 AM

      Jesus DOES REALLY bother me becasue of people like you. The Bible should be INTERPRETED - never taken LITERALLY. When the Bible speaks of stoning your child to death for shaming the family, or selling one of your wives, or sacrificing your animals do you take that literally? Is it all wrapped up in "thy truth?" Please!

  • Posted By: Rich Monk @ 05/21/2009 11:27:53 AM

    Sorry about the gramatical errors, my keyboard broke and I am using the online keyboard. Proof read!

  • Posted By: Rich Monk @ 05/21/2009 9:57:54 AM

    Take religion out of the equation, us logic, and facts to arrive at a basic proven assumpsion. Everyone wants to see and feel what sex is all about when you were, or are in your teen years. Give all females access to the best Birth control available. The modern day sexual revolution started in the 60's, has let the " Gennie", out of the bottle and it is not going back! Ass long as males want to sex with females than society has an ethical and moral, and compassionate duty to protect females of all ages.

  • Posted By: word1032 @ 05/21/2009 9:42:35 AM

    DHAMPTON SAID:
    This is entirely a woman???s decision meaning ???no men allowed???.

    HAMPTON,
    WAS THIS ALSO ENTIRELY A WOMANS DECISION?

    Ge 3:6 ¶ And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.

    GOD COMMANDED ADAM NOT TO EAT OF THE TREE AND HE WAS WITH HER BUT HE DIDN'T FULFILL HIS ROLL AS THE HEAD.
    JUST LIKE YOU WOULDN'T TELL SOMEONE THEY WERE WRONG, THEY BOTH WERE IN THE TRANSGRESSION............. ...Ro 5:14 Nevertheless death reigned from Adam to Moses, even over them that had not sinned after the similitude of Adam's transgression, who is the figure of him that was to come.
    1Ti 2:14 And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

    Just like men today who don't have the wherewithal to stand up and do the right thing.

  • Posted By: word1032 @ 05/21/2009 9:13:30 AM

    DHAMPTON100 said, after making this statment: who died and made you GOD?
    Worse yet, you support politicians who consistently exhibit racism and closeted homosexuality behavior. Some are even pedophiles!

    Dhampton,
    What gives you the right do condemn the homosexuals and pedophiles and not the abortionist?
    Who is being the inconsistant hypocrite now?
    God says they're all wrong and you say you are a Christian, (probably a "baptist" or "methodist" etc. etc.)
    1Co 6:9 ¶ Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,
    10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

  • Posted By: word1032 @ 05/21/2009 8:42:32 AM

    moriarty_1 @ 05/20/2009 11:04:20 PM said;
    1 Samuel 15:3 "Do not spare them; put to death men and women, children and infants, cattle and sheep, camels and donkeys.'
    "All these pro-lifers just use verses to make their own claim when in fact the bible does neither say or proclaim prolife of babies.


    Moriarty,
    God destroyed them because they did not reverance Him, just as persons today.
    read the whole account:
    De 25:17 Remember what Amalek did unto thee by the way, when ye were come forth out of Egypt;
    18 How he met thee by the way, and smote the hindmost of thee, even all that were feeble behind thee, when thou wast faint and weary; and he feared not God.

  • Posted By: at651 @ 05/21/2009 4:24:02 AM

    One way to common ground would be to allow people to vote on it. Why is this forbidden? Why are people forced against their will to fund it? I am, through insurance. One of his first acts was to allow taxpayer funds for overseas abortions. Mind-boggling.

    An meaningless, foolish speech from an evil little bastard.

  • Posted By: cbkc @ 05/21/2009 1:38:04 AM

    Not a Fundamentalist, nor a religious person, rather an open one.; though more right politically...and left socially(typical American I've found)...however when is the country going to realize that it's not about teaching abstinence or contraception?/??...as both have been taught for years and neither have worked. If one want's teens to think about consequenses the best course of action is honesty, as it has always worked the best. Contraceptives are not fool-proof. All of them are 97-99% effective with PERFECT USE; and 92-94% effective with NORMAL USE. Gross misconception that using a condom will prevent unwanted pregnancies...sometimes a condom and birth-control pills aren't even enough. (to bad for the disclaimers on the boxes or Nuva Ring, Ortho Cyclin and Trojan would have bought me a car by now.)

  • Posted By: MadLibrarian @ 05/21/2009 1:13:20 AM

    People who have a fundamentally reliigious view of sex are not going to be able to find common ground with those who have a fundamentally secular view of it. There is no greater chance of finding common ground on sex in our vast, diverse, opinionated society than on abortion itself.

  • Posted By: moriarty_1 @ 05/20/2009 11:04:20 PM

    1 Samuel 15:3 "Do not spare them; put to death men and women, children and infants, cattle and sheep, camels and donkeys.' "
    Deuteronomy 32:25 "In the street the sword will make them childless; in their homes terror will reign.
    Young men and young women will perish, infants and gray-haired men."

    All these pro-lifers just use verses to make their own claim when in fact the bible does neither say or proclaim prolife of babies.

  • Posted By: MagicDragon @ 05/20/2009 8:20:05 PM

    Silly business! Shows how 'ill' America really is! Sex, the most natural thing in the world now politicized, pharmacized, religicized, and otherwise turned into a pathological act.

  • Posted By: bryony1 @ 05/20/2009 7:38:14 PM

    I hope that President Obama, in supporting adoption as well as abortion, will beseech adoptive parents to "adopt American" -- which includes every racial and ethnic group baby born here, not just the "ideal white, blond, blue-eyed" kind for white parents or the "light-skinned, 'good-haired' baby" for African- American parents. BTW, lightness of skin is favored among American-Asians and Latin Americans, too. Nobody has to go to another country to adopt a baby. Often, the authorities there make it much rougher and more expensive for Americans than can be justified in any way -- look at Madonna's problems. It seems hopeless that Madonna, wanting a black child, will ever want to take one out of a lousy American foster home instead of a foreign land.

    As for pro-choice/pro-life arguments, for each "pro-life" demonstrator, lobbyist and politician, I want to see documentation of their adoptions of the babies of women and girls whose minds they "swayed." and pharmcacy receipts of these give-'em-up mothers' purchases of birth control every month thereafter or hospital records of a tubal ligation, which permanently solves the problem.

    "Perhaps the left could start by conceding that sex is an activity best enjoyed by mature people in a committed, loving relationship. And then the right might concede that teenagers do have sex even if it's not in their best interests ..." Girls will often want to believe the bit about maturity and commitment, but teen-age boys whoop with laughter at such an idea and at the even more extreme idea that "sex is not in their best interest."

    And, while it's true that condoms are easily obtained, no boy or man wants to use them, whether they "might prevent a lot of heartache down the road" or not. If the girl refuses because the boy "forgot" to buy some, she's "spoiling the night" or "blackmailing" him. She's causing him excruciating pain, AKA "blue balls." "He'll "pull out in time." She's nothing but "a tease." It's always her fault, etc. This is the kind of education that needs to be taught, not just how babies get here scientifically, but how they get here socially.

  • Posted By: robynmaxine @ 05/20/2009 6:19:30 PM

    I absolutely love the idea of finding a common ground and not just because it's the American way to allow everyone the pursuit of happiness and free choice. This is a subject that has been fought countless times and may never have a true solution but isn't it worth trying to meet somewhere in the middle? If for no other reason than the physical and emotional health of the women who are subject to any decision that might be made on the matter. Unfortunately, I cannot imagine either side letting go of their monstrous egos to make a concession like that.

  • Posted By: IgnatiusMartinBord @ 05/20/2009 3:31:22 PM

    The unborn have no faces for us to see nor cries for us to hear. That is why it is so easy to murder them.

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