Counter-Cougar Thinking

I dont know many men my age [46] who DONT have sexual problems with their wives, or girlfriends. Men who dont exercise, smoke, and eat whatever they want usually ens up w/big beer bellys and no stamina!!! THEIR WIVES HAVE BEEN COMPLAINING FOR YRS!!!!!! The women LOOK their ages, yes they do....I exercise, dont wear sneakers, baggy mom jeans, and have a 25 yr old haircut!!! Just take a look @ EVERY SINGLE ELEMENTARY SCHOOL WHEN THE KIDS GET OUT.... Someone called these moms asexual fatties......MANY, MANY LOOK MUCH OLDERTHAN THEY ARE... Their husbands look the same. Im still overweight, but my husband cant finish what he starts in the bedroom...HIS SMOKING HAS FINALLY CAUGHT UP W/HIM, and he knows it...PLEASE!!! Try going to your 25 and 30 yr h.s. reunion, no surprise there. I enjoyed sex in my 20s...My husband probably did, too....It seems to be the same w/every woman I speak to....ITS NOT THE SAME....GREAT SEX doesnt happen in my world that often. The younger guys are toooooooooooo young for me. [although they are nice to look at]...My sons 25 yrs old...his friends, EWWWWWWWWWW!!!! They are soooooooooo YOUNG!!!!!!!!!!

I'm gonna be 51 in November... & yes... I still love sex!!!!! The only difference is... when I was 25- all I had to do was look at a man & I could get it.... now.... I gotta look at a man... a really long time.... before he gets it.... that I want it. hahhahaha Ok- Truth be told- men 20- 30 years younger contstantly let me know their "available" for my pleasure... and some- I have enjoyed tremendously... but- then their moms call and cuss me out.... which kinda kills the good time I had.... I find the women to be more judgemental than the men my own age- who would rather be watching baseball. Men my age are couch potatoes... & most hate to dance or be in a nightclub with loud music- so- I fully appreciate a younger man who enjoys an older woman.

And- yes- I am in shape- 34-24-34 130pds & i am sporting complete Bi-latteral titanium hips!

I think it boils down to the fact- if you enjoyed sex in your 20's... then odds are good your gonna enjoy it until the day you die.

The main cause of death from sex after menopause in Victorian times was Bright's disease from untreated urinary tract infections. Before antibioitics, UTIs were routinely fatal as the infection ascended from the bladder to the kidneys. President Wilson's first wife died of this.

I believe these authors will look back at this article sometime in the future and cringe with embarrasment at their arrogance and stupidity. Newsweek paid them for this nonsense? !

I am 64 and having sex 1-5 times a day or nignt. So I don't see the problem. Just stay in shape and do it while you are young don't wait until you are 60 to get into shape. If you enjoy sex just find a partner who enjoys it too. Too many people just say it hurts to have sex, well enjoy.

I am 51 and have a boyfriend that is 15 years younger and sex is great. We are happy and it just keeps getting better. I keep in shape with eating right and exercising.

Borderline insane? WTF? Guess we are not good at math either and certainly cannot acheive orgasim after age 50.

What a disappointment that this type of thinking is so persistent in 2009 and is sanctioned by Newsweek.

Sadly, 50% of the women over 50 are alone. Truth be known, women are indeed "borderline insane." It seems the prettier they are the more insane they are. 60 years ago the majority of Americans (men, women, black, white) gained 2-4 pounds in their 30's and 40's and lost 2-4 pounds in their 50's and 60's. Today the majority of Americans gain 30 pounds in their 30's and more in their 50's. It's not due to hormones or laziness just overeating. Americans eat too much, plain and simple. My 54 year old girlfriend runs 3 miles a day and is in great shape (5'2"/110#'s)....and she is insane! :)

I am over 50 and what i miss most is the toutch off another person being held and holding someone its not so much the act of sex its everthing around it the build up to it and the aftermath the holding and talking

I really hated this depressing, degrading article. It is written to make over 50 year old women feel more unworthy and invisible than ever. A cougar-type attitude, a rocking bikini bod and well lubricated vagina will make our lives happier & problem free? It sounds to me the writers, and I can not believe actual women wrote this dumpster-dung that they want us all to be 25 again and they feel sorry for the masses who are forced to look at or cellulite and wrinkles. For shame. Newsweek.

"Even if a woman maintains a size 4..." WHAT??? I was NEVER size 4 and NEVER lacked quality male attention. Why is this about weight, which is mentioned throughout the article? Sex has NOTHING to do with ones size, age, looks or anything else. For every woman out there, regardless of her size, age, looks or anything else, there are many, many men out there who crave THAT type of woman. Why do you think that there are so many successful BBW websites out there.

It seems as though the authors are buying into that ridiculous notion. Grow up, gals! Most of us have never been and never will be a size 4 or Helen Mirren, and whose to say that those are the women getting the attention or the sex anyway? I'm 5'10" tall and am a size 18. I'm also 47 and would never consider sticking botulism into my face to try to hide a few wrinkles. Who cares? Men certainly don't.

My mom will be 79 this year and she laments that she doesn't get to have as much sex as she wants. It's tough because while older men are touted as studs - or at least ridiculed for being ridiculous (think about Mel Gibson, Jack Nicholson, Hugh Hefner), older women are assumed to be either asexual or cougars. I think that many women 40 to 90 and beyond, just would like to get laid more often. There, I said it. And by the time we are in that age group, hopefully we have put our body insecurites aside and have figured out what we want and what we need.

I'm married, and have been for 20 years, so trolling around isn't in my world. But I am certainly at an age that if I WERE to want more quantities and types of sex, I would just go out and get it. I have nothing to be ashamed of. I am a sexual person - always have been, always will be - and my body is simply one of the endless varieties of the human form. Oh, and it's also 47, so I have THAT part of variety, too.

Men are easy. If there's one that wants a 20-something, then he can feel free to pursue that. There are plenty more in the sea, ladies, and I've found that few, if any, really want a size 4. Move on past the size-isms and age-isms and get real. I think that, by this age, most of us have already done so...I know that me and my girlfriends have!

I was with the authors the whole way until the last two sentences. They write that most American women over 45 are overweight, and that body image can affect sexual desire and self-esteem. Then they choose the svelte Helen Mirren as a role model? And she can still "rock a bikini"? I haven't rocked a bikini since my third pregnancy. And I could really relate to much of what the authors had to say until they utterly contradicted themselves by choosing another impossible "role model" for the average over-50 woman.

If they were going for older British actresses for us to emulate in order to feel good, why not choose Dame Judi Dench? I bet Dame Judi could not "rock a bikini." But she always looks wonderful in her choice of clothing for her less-than-slender body, and she has obviously not succumbed to any surgical enhancement (besides a skin peel, perhaps.)

Shame on the authors for writing an article which purports to understand the dilemma they describe and then falling into the same cultural trap they are supposedly against.

My jaw dropped when I saw the headline for this insulting, degrading, idiotic article. Who do these two women think they are to even frame a national magazine headline that way? They certainly do not speak for me or most other women I know. This article sets women back, they even started out defending it. Terrible writing, these two idiots don't even know enough to be ashamed.

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This discussion is a bit alarming, so I shouldn't expect...want...desire good sex after 50? How about fantastic sex after 55? The truth is that good sex is and always has been a matter of the physical, the emotional and the intellectual. And of course the right man. At the end of the day, age is always a matter of of mind for us women. If I feel young, it doesn't matter if my butt hangs down to a place behind my knees, or if I have bat-wings, which I do. But I still can laugh and be silly and snuggle against a warm heart. Attitude Ladies...ATTITUDE!!

First I'd like to say that finding a well-adjusted mate at any age is a challenge.
Second, why ask about women 50 years old? What about 60 or 58 or 67 or even 82???? Sort of limiting don't you think?And, thirdly: The article tries to stress that we shouldn't be comparing ourselves to all the famous sexy young women out there because of the time and money they have to spend on themselves...and then you end up implying that we should compare ourselves to Ms. Mirren - who has lots of money and time to devote to herself. Sort of pops your balloon.

DHAMPTON100- I'm 36 and my husband is 51. We've been married for 15 years. I've always been attracted to older men and it has nothing to do with my relationship with my father, which is fulfilling and connected. Please think about the attention you get from younger women as a compliment. Reserve your right to walk away, but don't assume they need their daddy - maybe they just like what they see and want to call YOU daddy. :)

I forgot to add this point: Women over 40 seem to have forgotten the difference between being a lady, having a sexual desire and just being a whore. Any woman my age, who has sex with some boy young enough to be her son leaves a lot to be desired. At 55, not often but every now and then, some young lady will tell me that she is attracted to me and that she finds older men attractive. My consistent response is that she should reconsider her opinion and seek out someone her own age and I walk away. What she is really saying is that her father failed to provide her with the protective secure feeling he should have and she is still looking for what she missed as a child. That, in my opinion does not a relationship make. I have two children, one 34 and one 30, I do not want another, thank you very much.

Todays cougars- as they are called are nothing less than a group of old-wrinkled women committing the acts of a pedophile. If my son brought, to visit, a woman my age or older than me I would be very disappointed. I would never comment but I certainly would not like it anymore than any father would like it if I showed up at his table holding the hand of his 30 years old daughter, talking about Im in love with her.