Love Me, Love My Bank Account

I have friends who married for money and while they live comfortable lives, it is no bed of roses. They are usually alone and loney because the spouse is never home, or if he is, he is emotionally detatched. They have all the material items that money can buy but no love and companionship. They are constantly being made to feel that they have less value in the partnership. I have tried to teach my daughters and grandaughters that it is important to gain your own financial independence. You then have the ability to make better choices throughout your life.

Can this be described as feminism or sexism? As a 34 year old male who has had both a divorce and a co-habitation situation ended when the women left me for wealthier, older men. One recently, which may be why this article hits home. The kicker is I make over 150k a year, but that, apparently, still wasn't enough. And as a still-hunky ex-college linebacker, I'm pretty sure the testosterone driven traits weren't at issue. So where does this article leave me? Disillusioned and utterly without any trust or respect for women in terms of relationships. Way to empower women through espousing subjugation as the answer. Now for me get to work developing my mysogyny and pre-nups...

Were this article about men marrying attractive women, I am fairly certain that there would have been a number of comments along the lines of, "Lose weight and take care of yourself and you'd have no problem" yet I have not seen a single comment acknowledging the fact that men have a fair amount of control over their earning potential.

I also find it interesting that women who marry with financial considerations in mind are labeled as "superficial." In today's society, which is set up for dual income families, a woman who someday wants to raise her children herself (hardly a superficial consideration) would be wise to marry with money in mind (among other considerations, of course).

Look, the man doesn't have to be rich, but he should at least earn about what I earn to maintain my standard of living. I happen to make a very good income. I don't want to be dragged down financially because the guy can't do what I can do. I divorced my first husband because I became overtly resentful that I had to be the breadwinner as well as the housewife. Talk about the man making himself useless in the relationship. I ultimately learned that marrying the nice guy without the nice paycheck turns the nice guy into a leech.

I just want some equality. Earn a good income, just like me. Share the housework proportionately to income.

It doesn't matter that I own my own home, 2008 truck, no credit card bills, a sleep number bed (dual chamber)...She still wants more.... Go kick yourself broad!

Wow...at least it is out in the open. In a recent survey done with American women, 75% said they would marry for money. Duh! That's what they've been doing since no-fault divorce was instated to provide socialized care for single women outside of the government.

They say women don't earn as much as men...hmmm...according to a study done for the government this year, if you compare a doctor with a receptionist, you're right. However, if you compare a doctor with a doctor, pay is even. Fifty (that is 50!) research projects were reviewed for their findings. All the talk about women making less money is in the semantics of if you want to blame your choices on victimization.

Men are raised to take financial care of a family (and family court backs this theme)...women have only been raised to take care of themselves, getting a job where they get money they only spend on their stuff. While this sounds harsh, think about it. If a woman were to support a stay at home man (not father, but man) who didn't work, but did the housework, it would only be a matter of time before she dumped the "slob." If a man is supporting a woman (not a mother, a woman) who has chosen not to work, but does the housework, we call that a homemaker (beautiful name isn't it? Much better than slob.).

So our society values financial input of men into a social society we accept and then we all step outside of that circle and want to bestow more money for women since they "make less money". So let me get this straight, we expect a man to take care of his wife (and children in some cases) on $60,000 a year working as an auto mechanic. She decides to divorce him and gets $20,000 a year in child support and $5,000 in alimony so they both have "equal pain"...at least that is what the courts call it. Now, we want to get her a job at McDonald's making $60,000 a year so she can make as much as a man? That is so weak...so, so weak, and yet that is what would have to be done in order to make the "completely made up" female pay deficit even out.

56% of those now going into college are female. Why? Because they can afford it. You ever see a scholarship or grant only available to men? Have we swung the pendulum too far? Are we holding men accountable for women's decisions? Is this even constitutional? 50% of marriages end in divorce, 70% of those requested by women. Now that the government takes care of them with their former spouse's income, what good is marriage? Marry for money is the new way to go. So I suggest, that men should only marry women who make a lot of money. How does that sound? I hope it sounds fair and equal to you. And if it doesn't, stop and think about your morals.

Why on earth shouldn't women marry for money? We're judged for our looks every day. At least men will keep their money in large part, but our looks fade. At least money is indiciative of work. What are looks? A trick of chance, worthless, and yet our identities are tied to what we look like. The day men start looking for strenght of character in women, then women will look for the same in men. Until that day, no fat balding man has any right to complain when he purchases a pretty pet, that the pet ate his food, bit him, and left.

Well, Im just going to get married. I am finishing a divorce from a selfish woman who did not want to educate herself, work, clean, cook, or do anything productive. She enjoyed spending the money I earned and did not fullfil her end of the contract. She gained weight, was lazy, complained all the time. I will never get married again. At least not to an American female. They are all screwed up.

Isn't it the woman who wants the right to kill our children? I f I don't have the right to protect my unborn "CHILD" not "FETUS" , Why give her one? WHY MARRY? Who are the sexist ones? Is it men or women? I'LL SAY IT AGAIN - IT ISN'T THE MAN WHO WAS CREATED FOR WOMAN's SAKE. Whether you like it or not Mr."or" Miss whoever you are, We as Christian's (another title is "AMBASSADOR'S" FOR CHRIST) We speak on God's behalf. I don't know what kind of BLASPHEMOUS religion you serve, But I will speak what The Good Lord Jesus Christ tells me to say. If you don't like it, read this, "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with satan? Or a believer with an unbeliever? Or the temple of God with idols? For we are the temple of The LIVING GOD. As God has said, "I will dwell with them and among them. I will be their God and they will be my people". Therefore, " Come out from among them and be separate says The Lord. Do not touch what is unclean and I will receive you...Let us cleanse ourselves from the filthiness of the flesh and spirit.". 2nd Corinthians 6:14-7:1. Women have just about every right they need to destroy a man's life.

This is why I never read Newsweek anymore. Of course both men and women consider the ability to provide for one another in choosing a mate. It's part of a character evaluation. These particular writers just have nothing new or insightful to say. This is just desperation on the part of Newsweek and the authors to create some sort of lame buzz.