Year of the Cougar

I'm disappointed in Newsweek for printing this article. The tone of this is misogynistic, agist, catty and bitter. The author is probably from a culture where baby girls are devalued and given up for adoption or worse. Women have been verbally abused by men for centuries, and the term "cougar" is a last-gasp trash culture attempt to make attractive older women feel gross, dirty and ashamed for being in loving relationships with younger men. Reproductive limits may be an obstacle for some older woman/younger man couples, and that can be devastatingly sad for both individuals. Honesty and trust are the most important ingredients in all relationships. Age is the least important consideration.

I agree with Bella and Sierra, your article is insulting and naive. Hollywood is finally starting to reflect what's happening in real life. It's a good thing that older woman/younger man relationships are finally starting to become acceptable, the way older man/younger woman relationships have been. Every guy I've dated in the last 10 years has been 5-10 years younger than me, and I'm definitely not going to stop dating younger guys! And Bella is right, younger guys are much better in bed. And yeah, it's insulting for you to imply that a relationship between an older woman and a younger man is automatically doomed.

I agree with Bella and Sierra, your article is insulting and naive. Hollywood is finally starting to reflect what's happening in real life. It's a good thing that older woman/younger man relationships are finally starting to become acceptable, the way older man/younger woman relationships have been. Every guy I've dated in the last 10 years has been 5-10 years younger than me, and I'm definitely not going to stop dating younger guys! And Bella is right, younger guys are much better in bed. And yeah, it's insulting for you to imply that a relationship between an older woman and a younger man is automatically doomed.

"Just a fad and extinct?" Give me a break! Sounds to me this author has some insecurity issues - how old are you btw..? Younger men and older women have been a thing, for many, many years. It is nothing new it is just now that people are more aware of and accepting of it. I tell you one thing, younger guys way surpass older men in the sack, when it comes to longevity and desire, hands down. Maybe this is why the author of the above article feels disdain for the reality of the attractiveness of younger men, older women?...can't compete? Better get used to it, it's not going any where.

Cougar a "media-driven fad"?? And then you indicate that if you are in a relationship it won't last? What a naive, insulting and ignorant point of view. One thing about us "cougars"--if that's what you insist on calling a woman in a loving relationship with a younger man--we know how to keep our men, thank you very much. And by the way, this image of cougars "on the hunt"; is a load of crap. It's always the younger guys that approach me, not the other way around. So maybe the media isn't driving this, maybe it's REFLECTIING what is really happening in our society. Sorry Ramin, the older woman - younger man relationship is here stay.

Cougar a "media-driven fad"?? And then you indicate that these relationships won't ever last? What a naive, insulting and ignorant point of view. One thing about us "cougars"--if that's what you insist on calling a woman in a loving relationship with a younger man--we know how to keep our men, thank you very much. And by the way, this image of cougars "on the hunt"; is a load of crap. It's always the younger guys that approach me, not the other way around. So maybe the media isn't driving this, maybe it's REFLECTIING what is really happening in our society. Sorry Ramin, the older woman - younger man relationship is here to stay.

So Ramin thinks that cougars are a fad. Please, spare me. Although I don't care for the term "cougar" particularly, I do like younger men better than older ones. I am 54, widowed, in great shape, great health and look much younger than my age. Most of the available men of "appropriate" age are fat, bald and looking for someone to take care of them in their dotage. While women are required to look their best their whole life, men let themselves go to seed, and still expect to get someone 20 years younger than they are (I have decided that men are eternal opptimists). Just tell me one good reason why I would want someone like that, when I can enjoy the company of a yournger man with a fresher perspective? Oh, did I mention that those same old guys aren't quite what they used to be in the bed? Or, that many of them are on prescriptions that kill their libido, and/or their ability? Please. My husband was 12 years older than me, and was the only older man I ever dated. I took care of him until he died. That's enough care giving. I'm thinking Ivanna Trump had it right when she said: "I'd rather be a baby sitter than a nurse."

Why the label? Why am I a "cougar"? I'm a woman. I love men -- ALL men. And I'm looking for my soul mate, a whole relationship, not just a sexual partner. On what basis should I cut out an entire section of men (say, age 18 through 30) as male human beings I could meet, fall in love with, and perhaps build a life with? Who thought up that rule? If it ever made sense, it doesn't any more in this day and age. If looks are the reason that people don't want to be with someone, looks don't have an absolute relationship to age, as someone else pointed out. I do prefer younger men or men who have a youthful attitude -- I'm 38 years old, and I'm still taking on life, not even close to slowing down. What turns me on in a man is kindness and respect to others and a desire to change the world positively and a man who is a hard worker in what he loves to do. I'm looking for a man willing to be a father (I have kids). I know many young men . . . maybe even mostly young men . . . who fit all those bills. Many single men my age and older are jaded by selfishness and bitter to women (sorry, I'm only talking about the ones I've met, I"m sure there are many who aren't). I find younger men more genuine than that.

Ugh, if I'd known I'd have to re-type my original post because it would disappear since I hadn't as yet had an account on here, I'd have cut/pasted it. Okay, as I was saying, for centuries we've accepted the fact of much older men paired with much younger women. All along I've been interested in younger men with the gap between our ages increasing as my age does. Why do I like younger men, because usually they're in better shape, they're not as yet jaded, haven't put on tons of weight, hair growing out of orifices that should have no hair, haven't as yet had a chance to add up tons of issues, idiosyncrasies,baggage. Plus there seems to be a lot more fun value to younger men.

I'm sure the person who wrote this was happy the way things were because he's probably one of the above. Well, guess what, the tables have turned and the times are here to stay, so deal with it.

What the heck, where is my post?

Am a 44 year old woman my boyfriend is only 21 , did I persue him NO.. he was the one that insist and things have been great.... the title shuld read...." WHY YOUNGER MAN PERSUING OLDER WOMAN" and Am still getting looks and all the guys that will like to go out with me are between the age of 21 and 30 no older than 33... is is US or THEM.... WHY ARE YOUNGER GUYS LOOKING FOR AN OLDER WOMAN FOR A RELATIONSHIP?

I'm nearly 30 and my boyfriend is 19. Its definitely the healthiest, most emotionally satisfying relationship I've ever had and we plan to marry one day. I'm sick of the media hype surrounding relationships like ours and painting it as something taboo. It is what it is. Move on people.

I think calling women who date younger guys cougar is just a matter of jealousy. I'm divorsed from the only marriage in my life that today makes me feel that i've wasted 13 years of my life.I'm 35 and have been told i look 26 or so many times so i guess i'll jus go for it no matter what people think- it's my life after all!!!!Right now i'm dating a guy that 23 and i'm loving it!!!!