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  • Posted By: S2McH @ 09/12/2009 12:57:30 PM

    I believe this works in an interpersonal setting. I believe that where someone gets something for seemingly nothing that it rather breeds contempt by the recipient for the giver. Where people are given access, or allowed in by faceless decision makers, there is very little gratitude, or likelihood of engendering this 'pay it forward' emotion. My example is overseas U.S. military commissaries. Where usually the access to enter and purchase is usually denied all but those carrying valid U.S. military identification, I was on a base where foreign nationals or indirect family members (in-laws, etc.) were granted admittance and freedom to purchase whatever they could pay for. These people who were observed and encountered while shopping or going through the pay registers were rude, showing no sign of gratitude, and treated everyone with whom they seemed to be competing with for foodstuffs (of which there were plenty) with contempt.
    As a member of a community where homes became rental property and were leased to Title VIII recipients, those homes and their near free use of them did not engender gratitude by the residents. They treated their neighbors and those from whom they rented with comtempt, as if getting in to that housing situation allowed them to treat others so, and that those who had allowed it were weak and foolish.
    So it goes generally with those who get something for nothing from a faceless entity. They abuse what they have, are not sated, make more demands, and show far more than simple disrespect for those that provide, or who would say "enough."

  • Posted By: ChaoticReality @ 09/12/2009 2:18:17 AM

    well more likely to get somewhere being nice in general then being really particular

  • Posted By: boredwell @ 09/11/2009 10:36:22 PM

    Ah, but then, as Oscar Wilde astutely observed: "No good deed goes UNPUNISHED!" Monarchs tried handing out titles, lands and daughters in marriage either in gratitude for a deed well done or to insure, via the exchange, the recipients' gratitude. Gratitude was no guarantee to prevent rebellion or breaking treaties. Then there's "biting the hand that feeds you." Madoff's investors had gratitude while Bernie enriched them. History has shown that gratitude is a commodity that can be bought and sold. The best economics is E CAVEAT EMPTOR.

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