'What Seems Insurmountable is Not’

Posted By: IslandNation @ 08/13/2008 2:24:27 AM

Comment: "I hope all gays will have those [legal] rights so that gay people can live authentic lives like everyone else. It should be the norm, not the exception. Then what happened to me wouldn't be happening to other people."

AGREED.

I have a gay father. No big deal now that they are divorced, but my childhood was more than unpleasant simply because my father was always lying to my mother, refusing consoling for fear of being exposed, etc, etc, etc. My mother entered a marriage out of love and with the intention of building a family. She didn't deserve what she got. By the same token, my father had almost 3 decades of sneaking around, lies, stress, etc that frankly he didn't deserve. He should have been able to live in a society and legal system which would have allowed him to have the partnership which would have made him happy. As to myself and my sibling - others had it worse with abusive fathers (ours was far from one), alcoholic parent(s), poverty, drug use and any number of ails which our parents / family didn't suffer from.

Still, that doesn't change the fact that neither of my parents deserved the marriage that they got.

Oh, and to any looking to read anything more into this post, please note that myself and my sibling both are happily married (in the male/female sense) with children, good jobs, etc. Neither of us is gay. Neither of us has ever had any interest in experimenting. In fact, perhaps as a result of watching our parents' pain, we have worked particularly hard on our own marriages.

But back to the starting point - everyone should have that right. It's the only way to protect them and others.