Fighting Over the Kids

my brother who molested when I was 6 NY courts gave temp Custody of my son and now is going to trial;
he was found guilty for second degree sexual assault from some one other then me. and has abused others to.
It is like they don't even hear what I am sating how can this be.
please any ideas who to call that may be able to help. I feel like I am getting no where real fast.
they are leaving it up to the child who is disabled. are they just going to what till something happens

my brother who molested when I was 6 NY courts gave temp Custody of my son and now is going to trial;
he was found guilty for second degree sexual assault from some one other then me. and has abused others to.
It is like they don't even hear what I am sating how can this be.
please any ideas who to call that may be able to help. I feel like I am getting no where real fast.
they are leaving it up to the child who is disabled. are they just going to what till something happens.

An old pedophile moved in your area , how do you like having your children around some one like that! The pedophile Dolores Leonard madison st., Sag Harbor NY who has abused her own adopted kids is living next door to you.
We must protect our children at any cost !
BEWARE!

All these no good for nothing mothers who alienate the kids from their fathers should be tied to a whipping post and whipped like the the scum they are !
Don't these worthless cunts see that the only ones that get hurt are the "kids" It's about time the Courts see thru all of the lies when a mother starts lieing in Court they just don't stop and after a while every one see's that! These women and I hate to call them women because they are lower then the lowest SCUM on this planet. They need to be jailed for the "alienation" and the mental damage they cause the children.

verylonelymom~ I find your discussion of Gardner interesting but certainly not contextually accurate, nevertheless we as individuals may choose words, sentences or parts thereof that suit or fit our position.

By the same token alienation which is the thrust of his main argument by your same contextual innaccuracy would be what ! The result of sexual abuse ! If this is the case, then we should have according to the doctrine by which you ascribe 73 million males who have produced 2.1 children of which 70 % sexual abuse their children. I can see why we need to chemically restrain a lot of children for many years from reliving these memories.
http://www.ipt-forensics.com/library/alleged.htm

I am currently going through my second round of judicial interference with custody, with orders generated without due process. Appointments of professionals with judges orders to steal whats left of my resources and a GAL that wouldn't know or tell the truth if it got up and bit her. I am ashamed to see a legal system that has basically devolved into pimping women and children. As for my legal position there is nothing I can do, they can do and say as they please, manipulate law and throw me in jail if I can't comply. What did I do wrong, nothing, nada, I just happen to be a divorced dad with a vindictive Psychotic former spouse who lives well on my involuntary socialism and abuses the children along with the GAL.
As for the ABA report, it is a can of political worms that are there for the benefit of itself, it has no standing under scrutiny. Anyone know a lawyer that can help, I need one soon and quick ! Especially to prevent these people from alienating me from my children.

A link here that dispels the argument.
http://www.mediaradar.org/docs/RADARreport-Myths-of-ABA-Commission-on-DV-Summary.pdf
I suggest you download it and see for yourself.
The originating site is www.mediaradar.org.

Yes its very sad that some of these law gaurdians like Steve Ranallone here in Westchester county really don't care about the children and lie for the one perant whom consantly puts him up to it he lied to the Appellate court last year even after calling me and knowing that the children were in school after I got sole custody last Sept/07 he lies to the children telling them to say what ever your mother tells you to say
even after the mother lied to the law gaurdian abd he knew that he still went to Appellate court and lied for her there is a good reason why the Judge gave me sole custody after 2 year trial. The mother was brought up by an abuser her self that old lier molested her and the brother both were adopted, maybe thats why people like that can do horrible thing to children. The mother had kidnapped the kids from me and their home and why do I as a father have to pay the price of being alienated from my kids who love me and want to be with me.

How true it is that a mother could turn the kids against their father even when it was proven in court that the mother has no credit to her claims that she has lied over and over 3 years now to the court , cps , law guardian forensic doctor whon been influanced & possibly bribed she commited fraud by forging the deed to our home and putting the home for sale with her fraud of a mother how is a realestate broker (Dolores Leonard ) stole kids money from their bank accounts violated number of court orders

With regard to deshepard... You must be living under a rock. Come and jopin the 21 century, where the momeyed spouse gets the kids. Here in Westchester Cnty NY we have law gaurdians like Therese Malach Esq and Tammy Goldberg, who are all for the men and the money, and could not care less about the children. Smoke another cigarette Malach!!!

With regard to deshepard's comment of 8/28/08, Where do you reside. You seem to be living under a rock... come to Westchester county NY, ans meet the likes of Therese Malach Esq. and see how many families she has destroyed due to her bias against women/ the non-moneyed spouses.

Under the list of things your batterer will say to you if you leave him or try to, #2 is "I'll tell the judge you're a bad mother; you'll lose custody of the kids." I used to think that was a threat.....5 months later I learned otherwise, and I'm not alone. There are literally thousands of mothers losing custody to their ex-abusers. NOT the "good" fathers who share EQUALLY parenting costs or cares. It's the dad's that want the mother out of their child's life to "pay her back" for leaving him. It's the abusive drunk ones who drink and drive with their kids, threaten their kids they will take away toys or pets. OH....and the #1 on the list of things your batterer will say to you is "If I can't have you, NO ONE WILL". Thankfully, I believed that one.

Under the list of things your batterer will say to you if you leave him or try to, #2 is "I'll tell the judge you're a bad mother; you'll lose custody of the kids." I used to think that was a threat.....5 months later I learned otherwise, and I'm not alone. There are literally thousands of mothers losing custody to their ex-abusers. NOT the "good" fathers who share EQUALLY parenting costs or cares. It's the dad's that want the mother out of their child's life to "pay her back" for leaving him. It's the abusive drunk ones who drink and drive with their kids, threaten their kids they will take away toys or pets. OH....and the #1 on the list of things your batterer will say to you is "If I can't have you, NO ONE WILL". Thankfully, I believed that one.

Gee you don't think that there are some women who make false claims of abuse in order to hurt their former spouse and/or get more money out of the divorce, do you? No woman would ever do that, would they?

From:
http://deceiver.com/2008/07/30/heather-millss-rep-confirms-abuse-tapes-were-imaginary/

Michele Elyzabeth, who was Heather Mills???s press rep for four years before she had enough, confirmed to Access Hollywood that her client never really had those video tapes of Paul McCartney being abusive toward her.

She told US news show Access Hollywood: ???I really don???t believe she did (have the video).

???I was close enough and I heard a couple of conversations. Now that I know what I know, I don???t really think that Paul really went after her for anything.

???She had basically nothing - she had tapes of her being in the studio with him, her being on the road with him, private moments.

???She told me a bunch of stuff??? (but) I don???t see him being a violent person.???

In case you didn???t follow the divorce mess too closely, Mills once claimed she had ten tapes that showed Sir Paul behaving badly, including one situation where he called her a ???one-legged bitch.??? (No comment.)

She threatened to show the sensational evidence to the court but mysteriously never did.

Now we know why.

After reading the above article, i would like to comment how abominable are the excuses and harsh decision court psychologists come up with to be able to deffend mother. I am a mother too, but i am a firm believer that most fathers in this Country have been treated in a very unfair way. First of all, with no offense to women these days, most who claim to have been battered do not make so much sense as in the past, when most women were skinnier, kinder, and willing to promote peace in the home. Nowdays, as revengeful and unreconciable as they are, they can squash their husbands, grind them into powder, if they want to! It is an awful tragedy to see so much condescendency by those who should give fathers a fair judgement as well. If they did so, children would automatically be happier, haven't they noticed it already?! Children do love their fathers dealy...sometimes more than the mothers due to the very fact that they are wise enough to see injustice being done to their dads. Lets not think that children do not perceive whose the bad guy most of the time!

The following excerpt is from: http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/242

Post-Divorce Parenting Mistakes and Strategies

The divorce rate in the United States is estimated by some statisticians to be close to 50 percent. What this means is that millions of parents in America and their children are wrestling with significant problems and needs.

Post-divorce parenting is fraught with danger, danger that you will inadvertently do damage on top of what the divorce has already done. To help you recognize mistakes you may be making and to avoid mistakes you're prone to make, Dr. Phil lists some of the biggest and most frequent mistakes those in your situation typically make:

Sabotaging your child's relationship with the other parent.

Using your child as a pawn to "get back at" or hurt your ex.

Using your child to gain information or to manipulate and influence your ex.


Uh... Dr. Phil, doesn't this sound an awful lot like parental alienation?

As for whether or not some women will lie about abuse in order to gain the upper hand in divorce/child custody proceedings, consider the following excerpt from:
http://www.wvrecord.com/news/202143-victims-of-false-domestic-violence-reporting-detail-experiences

"The release of a study indicating that most of the petitions for domestic violence protection orders may be used for leverage in a divorce or child custody proceeding comes as cold comfort to those who've experienced it firsthand."
"The first study was an analysis of all petitions for domestic violence protective orders filed in Cabell County Family Court during the 2006 calendar year. According the study, 76 percent of all petitions are dismissed."

Not long after this article was printed, the West Virginia state legislature passed a bill that will reduce false allegations of child abuse and neglect, domestic violence, and parental interference. Courts will be able to grant compensatory parenting time and even reverse primary custody in cases where a parent has a history of making false allegations of child abuse, neglect, domestic violence, and in doing so interferes with the parenting time of the accused parent.

Still think that PAS doesn't exist?

My favorite comment on the existence of PAS comes from a female commentator, Kathleen Parker, who said "anybody old enough to drink coffee knows that embittered divorcees can and do manipulate their children. Not just women, but men, too."

Parental Alienation is a form of child abuse, plain and simple. Anyone who states that this doesn't happen is either a liar or completely out of touch with reality.