Sex & Love: The New World

Victoria Lautman, a single mother in Chicago, thinks of herself as a poster girl for the fortysomething divorced woman. At the moment, her 11-year-old son is the main man in her life. But she's definitely looking ahead. "At some point, when my son's a teenager, he's not going to need me," she says. "

If she actually believes her son won't need her when he is a teenager, she knows nothing of rearing a teenager. I pity her son.

It amazes me that there are typically more women in gyms, bars and other social environments than men. 30 years ago the ratio was at least 5 to 1. More women, divorced, single, or thinking about it is almost an unfair competition against simple minded men. I have seen the most devoted husbands act inappropriately (not stray- but just make a fool of themselves) when confronted with an interested, moderatly attractive women. The ones that are not devoted, needless to say, do far worse and it does not hurt that the women have realized that if they keep themselves in reasonable physical and mental shape they hold all the cards. After 30 years of marriage, many bars look like the type of "meat markets" that i recall in the mid 70s's except the people look they have a lot of mileage on them

so you get old and lonley and loose your sense.

And the three-date rule? Not a problem. "At our age," says Barna, "if sex presents itself, if you're comfortable with your partner, why wait for three dates? Just go for it."

and yet somehow we're supposed to tell the kids to wait till marriage. so they can get divorced, get old people AIDS and have random dry old people sex?

eww. old people AIDS