Knocking Yourself Up

I also have a problem with old Jim Flint. Do you also feel the same way about two parent households where both have to work full time to make ends meet so their child is in daycare from 7:30 to 5:30 every day? Or does the fact that I pay for it myself make it all ok. Is it only the FREE part of the single mom scenario that bothers you? If that's the case than all of your boo-hooing about noone having the time to spend with their children is crap. Both of my daughter's parents work and when we are not at work we are ALL ABOUT HER!

I am a single mother of two children via divorce. If I had a crystal ball I would have used a turkey baster as well. There is something to be said for not having to deal with custody battles , power struggles and jealous exes using the kids as pawns. My children are the highlight of my life and I say good for those who are mentally, emotionally and financially prepared to go it alone.

It is the height of folly to throw a convention, as old as history, to the wind because you were unable to form a meaningful relationship with any one of the string of suitors during the two and a half decades afforded you. You have now created a situation where your child will never experience a relationship between a husband and wife as you knew it. So from what will your child gain the knowledge of how to have a meaningful relationship when they are trying to find someone? From nowhere. So a generation of kids born from single-parent homes is going to try and form meaningful relationships that they saw elsewhere but never experienced and are surprised to find they cant.
If one gender is genetically adapted to have and rear children shouldnt they feel obligated to question any idealism which is contrary? The ones that do not will be faced with the same evolutionary pressure as those that do.
So what are we teaching our children when we illustrate how insignificant a meaningful relationship is in life, that even children can be borne outside of it?
Buy cats now for in the future they will be in great demand. For it is the curse of women that they must live with their consequences long after men have passed away and their children have forgotten them. I dont think a turkey baster is going to quell that.

Everything you ladies have said is absolute bull! Boys need their Fathers to be there not there mothers, because they can learn how to truly be a man from a man. By living the way you have accepted you will cause a endless chain of young men with doubt about women who really don't care and care for themselves and their own selfish needs. It takes two to build a Castle not one.

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Please. I love the "Male Reader" who calls these women stupid, yet can't spell "desirable" or "definitely." They're smarter than you, apparently, and obviously don't need your grammatically incorrect support to live their lives the way they want to.

I applaud all of those single mothers out there who are single mothers because they chose to keep their child rather than have an abortion. That's called taking responsibility for what has happened and actually putting the needs of another above your own. In a society today that tells us that our needs (more like "wants") MUST be met and if they aren't, then forget everyone else, I think this is a true act of selflessness, something that is more needed in this world. However, as for single women wanting to get "knocked up" so they can have a child, I think that this seems more selfish than selfless. A more selfless act would be looking into adoption, although having a father around for the adopted child would still be best. It seems to me that to get yourself pregnant so that you can be a single mom is more about the mom than the child born. Yeah, they may be financially stable, but again, there are many studies that show how important the role of a good father is in the raising of children. From the viewpoint of Sloan, she wanted HER needs met (again, more like wants), so she had a baby, instead of thinking more about the child's needs (actual needs). That sounds selfish. I want a baby, so I'm going to have one, whether it's best for the baby or not.

I am a male product of a single mom environment and a lower economic class and the end result ,most people would say, is a case of great success. I am twenty-nine and have educated myself through grad school. My upbringing was not easy. My biological father was non-existent and my mother remarried a couple of times to abusive men. Although, I did have some positive male role models in my life through my mother's brothers. They weren't always around but they did have a good influence on me and my siblings. Throughout time it seems that there have been a significant percentage of men that have abandoned their children and left women to raise them to adulthood quite successfully. I don't think that it's an issue of whether a single parent, man or woman, can raise a child successfully but more an issue of whether that parent has the tools and resources to care and love them. Meaning adequate income, proper education, and a healthy living environment that allows the child to explore and grow safely. Granted, I can agree that two dedicated, loving parents is better than one, and is ideal, but the world is not this way and if a woman has the means to succeed in bearing and raising a child than why not? Is a man any less capable of raising child alone?

Waiting is foolish! The problem with marrying some one that is smarter than smarter than you just to have more intelligent kids is they may end up leading and you may end up following for the rest of your life. Chose your own destiny or somone else will chose it for you! Either find a "volunteer" you know to do the job or opt for a bonafide sperm bank. My cousin had two sons via artificial insemination before settling on marrying an attorney, and they all turned out great. She has a Ph.D. in nursing too! and a president of a nursing college! It is rediculous to wait until you find someone right as generally people don't wait for Mr. Right, they wait for Mr. Right Time (thus not necessarily the right guy!!!). And then when it is the right time, they just grab the closest person near by and start making babies and a marriage, with a fifty/fifty chance of marriage survival. This can be disasterous for the successful woman turning forty! Why wait for any commitment from the perfect man, just show him the color of yours, and Cosmopolitan says that is all that is needed to seduce a guy!

It is amazing! We, the people of the world, are very desperate to have someone listen to us.. we have so much to say about ourselves and about what we want others to do or not do! So much to say about each other's opinions.. All of us, who can post to this or any other discussion, have to feel very grateful that we are acually free to express ourselves through most media.. Unfortunately, not many are listening.. Hopefully those who do listen, do have enough power to make a difference that will benefit a positively considered set of different points of view, as opposed to limiting them.. Isn't this a great planet in which to live? Will you help us keep it alive and well? Who will take care of the children without parents? They need parents and love too!

I think what people are forgetting is that there just aren't enough quality men to go around. Are women supposed to just settle?

This article should not initiate a battle of the sexes. It is about single women choosing to raise a child independently. Regardless of anyone's opinion on this issue, a woman's procreation is her own prerogative. It is self-righteous to declare that God has decided that a single woman should not have children and that privilege is reserved for his chosen ones, the married ones as some seem to believe. Forgive me for achieving my doctorate before considering having a family. Carrying a child and giving birth is the biological right of a woman. In the instance of doing so via artificial insemination, and making a conscious and educated decision to raise a child alone, the woman doing so is one-step ahead of the game; she is PLANNING to have a child, and she is PLANNING on being a single parent. Most women who raise a child alone do not intend on doing so; they do so out of circumstance. Regarding education level and well-being of the child, there is no higher predictor of educational success than socio-economic level. I make the assumption that single women who pursue insemination as a means of pregnancy have the means to support a child on a single income. Artificial insemination for these women removes the ???part-time father??? variable in a child???s emotional development and gives the child the advantage of being wanted, loved, and economically stable.

In society today, more and more women are achieving higher education and plans for a family are delayed in favor of education, career, and financial stability. Unfortunately, biologically, our desire for children in not quelled and we find ourselves in our early thirties without children. The biological clock is real. Birth defects increase markedly in children born to mothers over the age of thirty-five. A woman???s risk for ovarian cancer is decreased with each pregnancy she experiences. If a woman is to have a child at all, it is best for the child and best for herself that she do so before the age of thirty-five. Women like myself find ourselves single at twenty-seven and under the pressure of a time-line to reproduce if we ever want children. Should we have an unfavorable relationship status, artificial insemination is a logical and viable option.

I THINK ITS A GOOD IDEA TO GO AHEAD AND DO IT ON YOUR OWN!!! NO TIES TO ANY MAN AND A BABY IS A BABY :) YOU WILL STILL GET THE SAME AMOUNT OF JOY OUT OF THE CHILD. I DONT THINK YOU SHOULD WASTE TIME WAITING AROUND FOR ANYONE. I SAY GO FOR IT !!
ERIN TRUMBACH

Since when is childbearing not a "right"? This isn't the 1700s. Women can have children if they want to. I don't even want to get into this further because then it'll just start an abortion debate...

This article should not initiate a battle of the sexes. It is about single women choosing to raise a child independently. Regardless of anyone's opinion on this issue, a woman's procreation is her own prerogative. It is self-righteous to declare that God has decided that a single woman should not have children and that privilege is reserved for his chosen ones, the married ones as some seem to believe. Forgive me for achieving my doctorate before considering having a family. Carrying a child and giving birth is the biological right of a woman. In the instance of doing so via artificial insemination, and making a conscious and educated decision to raise a child alone, the woman doing so is one-step ahead of the game; she is PLANNING to have a child, and she is PLANNING on being a single parent. Most women who raise a child alone do not intend on doing so; they do so out of circumstance. Regarding education level and well-being of the child, there is no higher predictor of educational success than socio-economic level. I make the assumption that single women who pursue insemination as a means of pregnancy have the means to support a child on a single income. Artificial insemination for these women removes the ???part-time father??? variable in a child???s emotional development and gives the child the advantage of being wanted, loved, and economically stable.

In society today, more and more women are achieving higher education and plans for a family are delayed in favor of education, career, and financial stability. Unfortunately, biologically, our desire for children in not quelled and we find ourselves in our early thirties without children. The biological clock is real. Birth defects increase markedly in children born to mothers over the age of thirty-five. A woman???s risk for ovarian cancer is decreased with each pregnancy she experiences. If a woman is to have a child at all, it is best for the child and best for herself that she do so before the age of thirty-five. Women like myself find ourselves single at twenty-seven and under the pressure of a time-line to reproduce if we ever want children. Should we have an unfavorable relationship status, artificial insemination is a logical and viable option.

Take a moment everyone, to look at this nearly extinct creature we call the Religious Fundamentalist.

In the past, they would have killed and tortured all who opposed them. Now they are reduced to name calling from behind an annonymous computer screen. They are a dying breed, and perhaps we should feel sorry for them as they are in their apperently painfull death throws.

Of course you could be like me and give a mighty thanks to everyone who fought against their tyrannical way of life. Goodbye insignificant fundies. The people have the power to outbreed you now! muhahaha!

I'm lovin you SINGLEMOMINGEORGIA! You are saying it just right. Here we have a world full of silly men who think they can knock up a woman, find another woman, and leave her with a child to take care of. The women need to sit at home with her legs wide open, right JIm Flint? Isn't that what women are here for? Playtoys for all the men who cannot keep it in their pants? Sorry to be so vulgar that this really pisses me off that there could a man whore in the world who finds entertainment on trashing on women. "You" really need to go home, give yourself a good, hard look in the mirror, and REALLY analyze what kind of person you are. You truly disgust me and such a poor disgrace to society. Crawl in a hole and die somewehre.