Knocking Yourself Up

I would love to be around when this selfish female tells her sone that his DAD Iis a turkey baster.

WOnderful way to raise a child, great going girrrlllsss.

travis325 you seem to have it together. maybe you should start a class to get the slackers in line. You have a lucky family.

Hey let me say one thing after eight years in a marriage with a man who turned out to be controling and jealous and accused me being unfaithful over and over again. If I expressed my feelings I was riduculed. When I planned a night out on our 5th anniversary, the first time either of us had taken the inative His response was that was the stupidest thing I ever thought of....Walking in the mall I always walked in the wrong direction according to him....Eating out another wrong doing using the wrong utensils.... Going to colllege was the a time wasting edeavor for me in his eyes....and the final straw when a shed a few tears for an old friend I hadn't seen in ten years who had recently commited suicide, yep his first thought I must be in-love with a dead man. I fianally came to the conclusion that my biggest wrong doing was to marry him....That was the end of the life that I had once thought I wanted with being married....I realized that staying married or even marrying someone who does not litterally make you happy is more devastating then staying with them for the childsren's sake inspite of everything eles.... At least my children learned that first of all you don't have to tolerate people who don't respect and honor you and are ok showing you real love....My kids know that you can achieve your life long goals for yourself and be happy at the same time.....I'm all for the parenting on my own.....My kids are doing just fine they do know that if you want something in life you better be ready to work for it and work damn hard because nothing comes for free in life their is always a cost.... I removed their rose colored glasses years ago....

"i.e., feminist men"? What are you saying? That men need to be "women" to be good fathers? Real men are good supporters of the family. You don't need to destroy a man's masculinity to achieve equality. Men are men and women are a woman, that???s the way nature has operated up until the twentieth century. My wife is my equal but I will never ever consider myself a ???feminist???. Maybe some people are just not tolerant enough to have a family.

I think this is a great idea. Maybe not for everyone but deffinatly a solution for some. It is nice to know that there is someone to give you some helpful advice. I am only 25 but know that I really want to be a wife and mother. For me they don't need to come in that order. I have put plans in motion to be out of debt in the next 3 years so that I can be ready for whatever paths happens first.
I have decided that if I have not met that special guy and started the process naturally by the time I am 30 that I am going to seriously pursue either adoption or a sperm bank. I have already discussed this with my family and they support me 100%.
I understand the view that fathers bring something special to the raising of a child and I agree. I also think that if you have supportive brother/s or father that can impart their wisdom and be a strong male influence that you still come out ahead of the pack.

I am a liberal, feminist woman, but I too, have reservations about this opting to 'go it alone' as a single female parent. It strikes me that this is like giving up the idea that there can be equality between the sexes in intimate relationships. I'd say yes, men are important in raising kids--fathers interested in healthy relationships with their wives and children--i.e., feminist men. I think what these women are possibly saying in their actions is that they've given up trying to find this kind of man. I know that in my relationships, the thought of having a child has always come down to the thought that there would never be an egalitarian relationship between my partner and I, let alone an equal partnership in raising a child..... I think we need to increase the ranks of truly strong, intelligent men who understand human rights and needs. Otherwise, what separates us from female animals in the wild raising their young on their own as they have done for eons?

I guess if you already think its o.k. to kill "your" baby then there's nothing wrong with proceding down this road. Can anyone say, "Narcissistic personality disorder "? Shame on you!!

If you think you can kill "your" baby I guess there nothing you feel that is wrong here. Shame on you!! Can anyone say, "Narcissistic personality disorder"?

I just love how all of the people opposed to women having babies on their own, are married and have either married "Prince Charming" or are "Mr. and Mrs. Staying Together for the Children." Is there a cheap flight to your world, because I am tired of living in reality.

Honestly, does no one here actually care about what this article is saying? This discussion board is not a place for everyone to tell their life stories of how great their childhoods were being raised by single parents. There is no debate as far as I'm concerned...so what if women are opting to have children out of wedlock. Does it really, in all honesty, affect anyone other than the woman and her child? A family is a family, no matter who it consists of, married or otherwise.

i'm 55 now, male, and was raised with my sister an brother with no dad...... it hurts, all of us still today and we're all grown and live seperate lives, we keep in touch and we love each other,...i was the oldest so i had to be the tuff guy ,that would take care of everybody else...... mom worked two jobs, sometimes three,. just to keep a roof over our heads and something in our bellys.. she really had happiness, or a man ,cause she was either at work or to tired... us boys, never got to go fishin with dad , or we never had a dad to fix our bikes,..and never had a dad to tell us what a good job we did on someting .... i don't care how much money you make and how good you got it in life.. mony don't buy love .. and praise .. i know that woman can go to the sprem bank, if you would like to have a baby.. there's plenty of them that are already born that need attention and love ... adopt one ...

I am the child of a singel parent. My mom became pregnant with me at 28, she was had not goneto college and was working jobs that didnt pay a lot. However, my mom was strong and knew what she was getting into. She knew that my father would not stick around, and knew that she most likely could not count on getting a dime from him. She was able to talk care of me, go to college starting when I was 2, and raise a strong, driven child. Did I miss having a father around? Yes, however I knew that he was not going to be the best person for me to have in my life. Mom had discussed with me the disadvantages I was going to have by not having a father around. My mom made sure that I had male influences in my life. My grandfather took over the role of dad for a while. I did the boys things (gardening, playing ball). I did feel different when it was Father and Daughter days at school, when those happened my mom came. I never really yerned for father and felt empty. I went to school, graduated in the top 10 of my high school class. I am working full time in accounting in a great corporation and going to school full time for my business and accounting degree. I feel that I am well adjusted. There are many single moms that choose to have children on their own that turn out fantasticly. I do not know how people who have not had to make the choice to be a single mom, can sit there and criticize those who are taking care of their children. I do not want to be a single mom, because I know how hard it is. I watch it everyday. My mom did not get a chance to live her life after she had me, her every waking hour was about me, there were no babysitters so she could have fun. However, if it comes down to having a baby or not having a baby I will have one no matter if I have a partner or not.

I am also a single mother of son by donor insemination. I have thought about the consequences of his not having a father and am still not sure if it will adversely affect him. I had a father who pretty much abandoned his family and I was still able to live a successful, happy life. I have been in numerous relationships and wanted to find a good man to have children with and have come to the conclusion that there is a huge shortage of the type of man that would make desireable husbands and fathers. From some of the comments I've read about this article, it has only confirmed my conclusion. Frankly, I think a child is much better off with one parent, in many circumstances. Anyone who claims to think otherwise, is only speculating.