Knocking Yourself Up

This article gave me goosebumps. What an incredible step for women- it reminds me of folklore about amazon women. youknow? ... there could be a sister book with this about why Mr. Right/Prince charming doesn't show up for so many. Maybe we need a new fairytale for men. I'm 27 and have wanted a family all my life, but it's not happening so far, I've thought about this a lot. Hopefully it all works out, but if it doesn't I can still be happy and have my family - This alone makes me not freak out.

Screwed up kids don't just come from single parent homes

These women are stupid. Ultimately what they are saying is they want a man and they want family. However, while they can please themselves in the short run with a baby, most educated professional single men like myself don't want to deal with someone else's baggage. What these women don't realize is that they are shooting themselves in the proverbial foot by becoming single moms. They become the least desirabel potential mates. Men want our own biological children as a first option. If that is a medical impossibility, then adoption is definately the next step. Don't hate the messenger, these are the blunt facts. No way I'm playing daddy to some kid who's biological father won't step up to the responsibility.

Its a womens free choice to artificially impregnate herself with a complete strangers sperm?

Its a womens free choice to tell her darling son/daughter later in life... that her dad was nothing more than *** in a test tube... donated by some LOSER jerking off to a Playboy Magazine. Yeah... thats gonna go over
real big with junior now isnt it? Tell it like it is already, and stop sugar coating this Disgusting practice.


Its these same Feminist women that think its their free choice to have an abortion also. Is that what they call Murder these days? How far do you have to distort the truth, to convince yourself that what your doing is OK?

Its not OK... Your Boy is going to grow up popping prozac, hating Mom for resorting to a sperm bank, and wearing a dress down on Bourbon Street, because he secretly thinks he is really a woman...

There is absolutely NO good outcome for Artificial Insemination. So do us all a favor... and QUIT pretending like this is some kind of VIABLE alternative to a Father.

You have to be a Really Sick Bit-- to think this is anywhere close to being NORMAL. Think of the Child for a change, and NOT Yourself!

Would you want your own daughter to place some strangers jerked off *** in her womb, because she was too hard up to find a Real Man?

Tell it like it is People... Thats all this really comes down to!

Bye! Bye! and God Bless...

Oh thats right... You dont believe in God either...

Sad, Truly Sad

It doesn't bother me that some women prefer to be single mothers. It doesn't bother me that lesbians can give birth. I don't think that paternalistic so-called "family values" are necessarily a good thing. A lot of fathers are abusive jerks, the absence off whom would be a great advantage to their children as well as to the rest of the world. What does bother me is that, given the wide selection available to a woman through artificial insemination, the woman in the article chose as her deciding factors "a tall, handsome green-eyed actor (Favorite color: blue. Favorite pet: dogs)". If this is the typical choice, the human race is in deep doodoo. Tall, handsome- okay, nothing wrong with that ; a more physically attractive child always has a better chance in life, all other things being equal. Green-eyed, favorite color: blue- Not a bad choice in and of itself, but if the number of specifications is limited, eye color and color preference are probably a little wasteful. Favorite pet: dogs- again, not bad in and of itself, but maybe wasteful. Still, if mom has a dog, the wastefulness might be outweighed by the comfort of the environment. What really frightens me is that she chose an actor. Even if the description were "successful actor" it would not tell anything about the man's characteristics or abilities. Success in that field is notoriously dependent on random luck. In addition, there is little to imply that the father would be above the bottom third of the genetic gene pool (witness Mel Gibson). The saddest and most ironic part of it is that if she had chosen "computer programmer", "microbiologist", or "nuclear physicist", her child would be no less likely to have acting talent than the child of the father she chose. I would hope that a woman's access to technology that allows her the chance to make a rational decision regarding the father of her child would lead to a choice based on health and intelligence, but the choice of a tall handsome green-eyed actor who probably enjoys watching "Blue's Clues" but doesn't necessarily understand it doesn't strongly support that hope....Are we not men? We are DEVO!

These women should talk to single moms before grabbing the turkey baster. Who holds your hand during delivery? Who will be jst as happy as you are to be a parent? Will these women wonder whose eyes they're looking into? What about genetic history? How will they know whether or not their baby's father or his father's family has a genetic predisposition to heart disease, colon cancer, etc.? How will they explain where daddy is and why he isn't around?

Im so sick of people cheering this women on saying "Men are just mad because we can do it without them". At some point you're going to have to come to the realization that somewhere in this process MEN went to this sperm bank and gave their SPERM so that you could have this child.... you couldnt and arent doing it on your own!

I would not have my wonderful son if I had not gone this route. I chose to have a child by artificial insemination because I did not want to miss out on being a mother/having a child because Mr. Right hadn't come along. I will be 40 next month, there is a Mr. Right in my life now, but he doesn't want anymore children. I thank God every day for my son. It is the best decision that I have ever made. I would recommend this route to any late 30 somethings that truly want to be mothers and don't want to miss out.

Well Said. We have become a nation of "about me" people. Just look at all the screwed up kids there is out there.

I say more power to you! I am a single 34 year old woman. I've struggeled wih the issue of children. Do I or don't I? Time will tell. When I know, it will happen; with or without a husband. I grew up southern baptist but I also grew up in a broken home. I can honestly say now that I'm older, it was a blessing indisguise my father was not around. I would not have the values and the disipline I have today. My point is, it's better to have a stable parent (mother or father) than an unstable parent bringing the family down. Children need stability and direction. They can get that from both parents or just one.

Write it down, put it in a box and bring it out in 50 years. This outlook on making babies, families and relationships is going to be part of the upending of us all.

OH YA JIM FLINT I PAY MY OWN DAYCARE BILL THANK YOU

I continue to be amazed at the popular belief that financial independence will solve all our problems - parenting included! Parenting is not about finances (as important as that is) but rather about raising a psychologically balanced child. Psychological equilibrium takes the full input of both parents and even then we still miss the mark.
It is a fallacy to assume that a single parent can accomplish that task. We wrongly assume that our kids are ok because they are succesfull academically and working at good jobs. We are woefully unaware of how infantile, crazed and confused their inner worlds are. We only catch glimpses of it in their failed relationships, or lopsided commitment to work or other interests.
If we do care for our offsprings, we will give them the best chances at psychological equilibrium. We would commit to manage the best we could if we are single parents by fate (a very unfortunate circumstance). We should, however, never make the CHOICE to be single parents. Frankly, such a choice serves our interest than the best interest of our children.
No wonder each succeeding generation, though increasing in riches, wax poorer in love of self and others.

Let me see.....1 parent isn't good enough.......2 parents are better.......what does 3 or more make? I personally believe that couples should marry together and that way there would be plenty of love, etc for the kids as well as the parents. Financially more stable and probably one person from the group who would be able to stay home and be the home manager/caregiver for the kids. Plenty of emotional, financial, sexual, and parenting support. Seems like the real way to go. You could even have the single people joining in to be part of the whole family. Kind of like a large extended family. After all it takes a village...........

ITS OK FOR JIM FLINT TO CLIMB THE CORPORATE LADDER BUT NOT HIS WIFE, AND PEOPLE WONDER WHATS WRONG WITH OUR KIDS

this is the problem with today's well educated financially independent women, they have gone to the extend where they trivialize the role a father plays in a child's life, women actually believe that now they are bread winner themselves all that is missing from their utopia is a sperm donor. A child needs a mother and a father, just because you have grown up and don't want your father in your life that does not mean your child does not. mother cannot be replaced by a father so what makes you think you can replace father's?
nima

Humm well lets see. I am a single mom in her late 30's; cause when the DONOR didnt get his way he booked it. I call him a donor cause he chose to not be around for his kids reguardless. I didn't want kids at all but I am raising them; loving them and teaching them to be good young men.
Think about this in that class of 20 yo single moms... maybe there would be fewer teen and 20's single moms if GUYS LISTENED when told NO!! All 3 of mine took place when I told my former other half no; and he didnt listen. There are more reasons other then to hurt your tender male egos that us gals do say NO. We know our bodies; we know the conciquiences of the actions and most of us will not commit murder of an innocent. So GUYS if you really want a cut back on single moms in the world; try behaving yourselves... teaching your sons to behave them selves and to respect the girls and women around them instead of using them to get off and run. Real reason why alot of women choose to stay single moms is we are alredy raiseing small kids why would we want to have to raise an adult male who acts just as bad as a toddler when he doesnt get his way as well??

I have served in 2 branches of the military; ama medic in civi life; and run my own photo business... plus spend time w my kids on the ground playing and camping all the time and teaching my 13 yo how to work on cars... what are they losing out on ?? What do you do? other then complain your not wanted?
sincerely
a mom of 3 beautiful boys who are growing up right.
ps my grades went up once my own father was gone; so did my self estem.

I've got to read this book! I am a 43 yr old single parent by choice. I chose not to live the rest of my life being intimidated by a man just because he is my daughter's father. Somewhat different approach, but same outcome. Although, I always knew that raising a child on my own was a viable option. With that in mind, it has made single-parenting the most attractive course. I am glad to hear that there is much attention being paid to this topic and that research statistics are available. Even more so to discover that there are resources geared towards supporting this obviously growing culture. Good job for bringing into the light what a great job we can do when raising our children alone BY CHOICE.

It cannot be true that women - no matter how eager, well-adjusted, or financially independent we are - have a "right" to have children. Biology is not "fairness." We are so intent on fulfilling desires we think we have somehow "earned" the satisfaction of that we disregard nature itself. It is erroneous to believe a child is owed to us as a measure of self-fulfillment, and we are especially confused to think that science should provide that fulfilmment simply because it can. By embracing whatever would satisfy us most conveniently - a turkey baster, of all meaningless things - we effectively divorce ourselves from real human experience and generate children who are equally isolated from themselves.

I think too, that all of this rampant individualism and "independence" is effectively robbing men of the joys of parenthood too. Let's not be total man eating bitches, please.