Knocking Yourself Up

Look. As long as I get my my Starbucks fix three times a day, my intake of Jerry Springer, and my internet porn; I don't care what everyone else does. Hell, I don't even vote because I'm looking at porn all day. But don't judge me by my sexual preferences. Someone else will make sure are nations integrity is stable and secure.

I'm tired of hearing about how fathers have so much that a mother can't offer. Get real...let's not talk about all the deadbeat dads out there. Most of the time, they're the reason the child is all screwed up. Sorry Billy, I can't make it to you're soccer game...I have to work...what a load of crap. Or the total no-show on the kids borthday...gee thanks dad for nothing. Let me be clear, I have a wonderful father, but I see this happen all the time. Men need to start taking some responsibility sometime, even if they CHOOSE not to be a part of their kids lives. Come on people...get it through your skulls, fathers don't bring more to the "table" than mothers do...they're equals. Having one over the other may not be ideal but that's life...deal with it.

I am 37 having my 2nd child with my husband, I have two friends that would love to be mothers (37 and 38 years of age) neither one of them have a boyfriend. I have had some complications in my pregnancy because of my age and I would had for them to miss out on the chance of being a mother because they have not found the right guy. It is hard to have children later on in life so I believe this to be the perfect chance for those motherly types that haven't found Mr. Right.

Making the perfect child with a Turkey Baster? Wow! Next thing you know, these wealthy independent women will start a campaign for cloning the perfect man... Spooky Thoughts... very Spooky...lol

Making the perfect child with a Turkey Baster? Wow! Next thing you know, these wealthy independent women will start a campaign for cloning the perfect man... Spooky Thoughts... very Spooky...lol

Being one of those children, I believe that I reserve the right to label myself, thank you. And I'm not the only one. There are many who have posted on here their damage due to their lack of a parent in their life. Take us seriously...we are "those kids"...we know!

I cannot understand all the hateful opinions of women choosing to become single mothers as a back-up plan. There are all these negative comments that children with only one parent turn out less accomplished than those raised in two parent household. Yet the actual research is not well done as it is only taking into consideration single mothers who brought children into the world at a very young age, in a lower socio-economical background and less educated. What next, if a woman becomes widowed, is society to take her children away and give them to a married couple, just because you think children raised by two parents fair better? And what about children of divorce? Is there not a lot of negative stigma on those children? So maybe, those kids should also be taken from their single mothers and fathers and placed into households with married couples... and when that couple divorces, keep shuffling them around. Geez, let us all make our own decisions. (And those who think single women should just adopt a kid, um, how is that so different from bearing out own). Bringing children into this world is a God given right. If it wasn't then the government would prevent parents with the ability to pass on genetic defects not product offspring.

verosol.. Very well said in my opinion.. Congratulations!

DOOOOOM!!!!

Listen to yourselves. Blaming other people for faults you see within a world you refuse to get out and change. Instead you would rather sit at home (or worse, at work) and point the finger at people who have their life more together than yourselves.

Go moms! Go women! I hope you find those special someones in your lives, and I hope the idiots leave you all alone.

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To Disgustd4U: You must understand that there are many happy families out there- you make it seem as if that is the process every marriage in America undergoes- one gets married, then the husband runs away, and in the end there was no point in getting married. But what about the majority?
And lets not look at it just from the mother's perspective. Since women are becoming more and more independent, and many women work, whose going to stay and raise the kids? Its already hard for a child to not have one parent at work, but if you have only one mother, and that one mother is gone, what's left? If a child's parent is divorced, than they at least have hope of get what they need from each parent. But if one is born into the world with automatically only one parent, that's rough. Women today find it hard to raise children with a spouse, nevermind without.

Gone are the days when a baby began as "a twinkle in her/his father's eye". Nowadays babies are little more than marketable commodities, and twinkling eyes or not, fathers are more and more free to abdicate their parental responsibilities. Also, what will happen to these sperm-donor children when they come of age and begin playing "Where's Waldo?', seeking the face of their mystery father?

I agree with RayannaLoo, often times, 2 parent homes can consist of more liabilities than a single parent home would. If a woman is in a place and space to assume such tremendous responsibilities- she should knock herself up. Often times, the majority of parental responsibility is not equitably distributed anyway and falls on the shoulders of one. Marriage might help- and marriage might get in the way- just depends.

Johnny Neptune.. LOL!

I am a single parent of a 23 year old son and if given the chance to do it all over again, I definitely would do things very differently. Luckily I was blessed and my son grew up to be a wonderful and well adjusted man. Growing up he always excelled in school, being in a gt program all through elementary and high school. Now I am very proud to say he is a U.S. Marine. I say to those women out there you can to do it on your own just as long as you are willing to dedicated your life to that child.

I see a lot of women talking about how they raised kids by themselves and how they turned out to so well. That's because you cannot understand their situation, you are not in their shoes because, THEY DO MISS THEIR FATHERS... and it is a deep scar in their lives. Period. Nobody is saying you cannot get a baby by yourself, sure it's your right. But think about what that child is going to go through all their formative years without a father. Why put them through that pain. it is a known fact it hurts children. NOTHING CAN REPLACE THAT BIOLOGICAL FATHER ROLE. So, if you want the best for your kids, they need their biological father in their lives.

I am so passionate about this, i will give you women tips on finding and keeping a husband:
- keep your legs closed when dating! whoever told you sex makes men stay with you is high. A man sees his wife as a prized possession, a lady, who RESPECTS herself enough not to give it up until she is married. Once you give it up, it's pretty much over

- Be a lady. This bull-dog, independent, fault-finding, nagging, i can do it myself stuff is very unattractive. Let him be a man,and dont feel inferior because he wants to be the provider, the care taker, and the rock in the house. Stroke his ego every now and then, play the damsel in distess and let him swoop in and save you. It is in showing some weakness he feels obliged to support and cleave more and more to you. I mean, what woman in her right mind wouldn't want to be kept?

Do this and you'll be alright. They all hinge on the word of God, wait until you're married to have sex.

I believe every child has the right to come in to the world to a mother and father. Regardless if a woman can provide, educate do everything right. Where is the male figure he needs all the time. To have that surety of knowing that the male figure will always be there! Yes a grandparent friend could help but really is he going to be there all the time... A father provides more than what I could explain. I am thankful for having my father for all that he is in my life. I Believe that we should think of the children in everything that they would be missing out. Yes sometimes thing don't work as happily but those are other stories.

Gentlemen,

This article should be a wake up call to all of us. This article implies that all we???re good for are sperm donors. Take the road I took and get a vasectomy.