Knocking Yourself Up

It is amazing how quickly this issue turns into man vs woman. To tiffanymcdon, you say that you are waiting for men to catch up and women and men roles are reversed and what are men really for? Guess what, that is exactly what they are trying to figure out. Men have been preverbally neutered, I have an idea for all the women that want the career without having to be responsible for everything, don't find another go getter - find a guy that doesn't mind being home to cook, clean and take care of the kids, shopping, etc- then truly roles will be reversed.

I have been married and divorced leaving me a young single mother, and now I have met someone and we are engaged. I have seen the effect that not having a father around can do to children, and I have seen the immediate improvement upon regaining that person. There are going to be effects either way we look at the situation, but I can't help but wonder how the child will feel when he/she wants to get to know her/his biological "dad" and can't. Are these women thinking bout the children or just themselves?

Oh and for all of you out there that talk crap about dead beat dads and horrible fathers... how about you make better choices who you lay down with !! Every guy isn't a bad dad !! And i do not want to hear "oh he works too much" yeah no sh*t he has to pay for stuff ... like a house and a car... women need to stop complaining and own up to their mistakes !!! and no i do not mean their children i mean all the stuff they have to deal with because of their own choices

Great, we'll have millions of the virgin Mary. That's confusing.

How many times to children have to get molested in the shower and bath by "gay" men and women before people and government cares?

Wow...reading this board has been disturbing. I find it hilarious that so many men on here think that all or most children coming from homes run by a single mother are going to end up troubled. It's also ridiculous to say that a woman who is divorced chose to be a single mom by divorcing her husband or she chose a bad partner. What about the man's responsibility in the divorce? While I agree that in a perfect world every child would have a mother and a father and that this would be the most ideal situation, the reality is that this is not always a possibility. I'm sure there are men out there who would love to be fathers but can't find the right woman. If they could give birth, they'd probably be having kids of their own. Stop harassing single mothers and blaming them for the world's troubled youth. Many troubled youngsters come from homes with both mothers and fathers. A person from either sex can be a lousy parent, not just women. I think we have all heard plenty of horror stories about bad fathers single or otherwise.

Im 33 and have yet to come close to marriage or even a stable relationship.. insemination is an option for me because i KNOW that i would be a good mom, but I no matter how i have tried and NOT tried, I cant seem to find the right guy. There are thousands of amazing, intelligent women out there who are going through their 30s single and might not find Mr. Right by the time their biological clock is up.. why not take matters into your hown hands.. i will when the time comes because i know i can count on me to be a great parent.

So the kid doesn't have a father? What a nightmare for the child and people act like they don't care. It's shameful and depressing. Growing up altchkey kid was a nightmare of saddness and searching for allot of my friends. And this lipstick lifestyle whitebred tramp trusts some other men to not rape her child?

but the turkey baster is your god's way, lol. Learn your own religion... what did he call it again? oh yeah! immaculate conception!

I personally now people that have made the decision to go with a doner, but if you think about the reality of what you are doing you might not choose to go that route. One thing to think about is what do you really know about the doner's health and or his family history? Will you as a mother choose to tell your child how you conceived and if not do you really think that a secret that big won't be discovered by your child someday? Have you also thought about other children that may be from the same doner and that live in the same area? Two half siblings could meet and possibly marry, stranger things have happened!

Let's be open to this option before we jump to the conclusions too soon. So far, this "Great Society" has not proved that the only way to raise children is to have both parents. Just like a couple (gay or not) can adopt kids, single parent can have kids too -- in different ways. It is amusing to see how people get so defensive about this issue even before seeing what the results are.

I had a child at 19. As a single mother I worked to provide her with good values, a middle class lifestyle and a loving, nuturing environment. She is now 32, happily married and well adjusted. I am 51, single and well adjusted. In the past, many women raised children alone due to war or the early death of a spouse. The method a woman get pregant is irrelavant. The point is that it does not matter whom provides for the child just that the child is provided for.

The truth is some of us are tired of waiting on the men to catch up. And if you look at what is being offered nowadays it's not very tempting,because now the roles for men and women are reversed and we are taking on more dominant roles in our household. Which brings you to ask yourself what are they really for? Rather than force the man into being responsible it's easier to let him be and you go on with your merry little way to avoid all of the heartache and confusion. Not to say all of them are immature but there are far and few in between.

It doesn't take two people to raise a child. It takes love, commitment and a great deal of sacrifice. I know plenty of single parents who are wonderful parents and plenty of married couples who shouldn't have been allowed to procreate. I personally have raised a pretty terrific child on my own...and by on my own I mean without financial or emotional assistance from my child's father. Would I have preferred to be married? Sure. But sometimes things don't work out. I don't think you can make gereralizations about parenthood. I know I always welcomed my daughter's curiosity about her father. I NEVER painted a picture of him as a bad guy. I would have been thrilled to have him want to play a role in her life, but he chose not to. I'm fine with that. I think that down the road, more women will seek to have children on their own because we simply cannot have children after a certain age. I'm often asked by women who are considering having a child on their own if I think it's a good idea. My answer is simple...it depends! Some women are totally capable of it, others are not.

there are many factors in a decision like this but I have a main issue with the fact that not just woman but alo men are looking for that perfect someone...HELLO they don't exist thus they find themselves single and childless at a much older age than they anticipated....We are all fixated on this idea that there are actuall "solemates" out there for us who are perfect in everyway...I'm not saying there isn't anyone out there at all; there are plenty of people out there; they just arent perfect...So maybe if we as a society started to make certain commitment to love and family then maybe just maybe there wouldn't even be a need for this discussion.

Everyone's soooo different! Get over it! Where is your respect for freedom of choice without stepping over someone else's own freedoms!?

I just want to say that my mom was 17 when she had me and it was not a choice that my mom and dad had planned. My mom finished high school through an alternative program, but never went to college. And as for my dad, he never wanted to be a part of my life. But that's not the point of this. I am 18 years old. I just graduated high school and am currently enrolled in college. I am also not pregnant. I don't think I have an advantage or a disadvantage over people who have single parents. I don't think there was anything I ever missed out on. Camping and fishing... those things you do with 'dads'... I did those with my friends and other family members. If anything, I think living and growing up in a single parent home with my mom, has made me a stronger person than anything. And the best part, I don't have to worry about my parents arguing, fighthing, or splitting up.

JEN JEN, Of course I would STRONGLY support any single mother who loses a spouse due to war or in any service of our country IE fireman, police man, or just some poor guy that was in the wrong place at the wrong time. However, they are the exception that proves the rule. Most single mothers are single due to very poor choices in very poor quality men!