Knocking Yourself Up

http://www.theonion.com/content/node/28616

It's amazing how professional psychologists ( and other related fields ) indicate a child need to with both parents to achieve goals in life, be a positive individual, and have good morals. I'm a single parent with two sons. Their father was absent from their life, because he didn't want to develope a relationship with them. As a mother you fulfill his responsibility in a positve manner. I raised my kids to be respectful to him, reguardless of his decision ; because some men are not emotionally challenged in fatherhood and lack direction in learning how to accept responsiblity. Be advised, I'm not defending any man who don't or didn't take the iniative to inquire ; but life goes on with or without their presence. I taught my sons to be forgiving and non judgemental , to be respectful and respect others opinions, to disagree constructivly, to be attentive , to accomplish goals of interests, to accept life challenges / obstacles without complaints, to importance of education , and to have life laughter for unexpected adventures. My oldest was ranked in the top ten of his high school and now is serving in the US Navy. My youngest is a honor roll student who have interest in the US Airforce, his goal is AirEngineer. I always had a positive communication level with them, and listen to their opinion , complaints, and personal issues. Personally, I think if people stop focusing on " the single parent " and assist them on materials / courses to establish a positive / meaning relationship with their child, it would be less criticism. People are to judgemental with circumstances they don't understand or have experienced. The definition for a single parent is " unexpected adventures ".....I have no complaints, but two beautiful blessings.

I think people have missed the point of the article. No one is saying that a child doesn't need a father. What I think they are pointing out is that just because a woman hasn't found her "Mr. Right" doesn't mean she can't have a family of her own. I think people are forgeting that it takes more than a mother and a father together to raise a child. It takes the Mother and the Father having a happy life together to raise a child though the child won't have a happy life either. You can't have the blanket statement that only 2 parent house can raise "good" children either. All people should be a certain age and be on a certain level of maturity before they have children. No matter if it's a single parent home or 2 parent if the people involved are immature and not prepared to have children the child involved will not be raised right.

After reading through most of the discussion thread on this article, I've come to an understanding of a portion of society that is juxtaposed to my life processes, my theology, and my opinion of what is needed for an ordered, purposeful society. There are those in the world - in the past, present, and future - that believe in the saying "laws are meant to be broken." This view fits easily into their lives because it helps them cope with what life has given them. Governments' laws, nature's laws, God's laws -- it doesn't matter. They want life to be perfect, easy, fruitful, secure, predictable and happy. They really would like to circumvent life's problems, prevent failures, never have to deal with a problem, and have everyone involved love, adore, and respect them. Yeah, I would like all of these, too. However, so many times I have had challenges thrown at me. Life is not equal, but it is supposed to be fair.

Why is everything always a religious debate? We're mammals, just like all the other mammals on the planet. We procreate, just like the other mammals on the planet. It's not magic, or some mystic being that makes this possible, it's genetics and science. Does it really matter if the sperm is implanted in some procedure, or if it enters through sex? No, it doesn't matter. There is no soul in the sperm, it has no effect on the child (or animal, or fish) that gets created.

The environment the child grows up in is what matter. If they grow up in a loving caring household where their parent(s) are there for them and teach them right, they will be well adjusted and productive members of society. Doesn't matter if there is 1 parent or 2, male or female.

We are all products of our environment in one way or another. Some can overcome a bad upbringing, some can be in a good household and still take the wrong path. Until you are a parent you don't truly understand that.

In case you're wondering God is not going to raise you kids. Praying that they turn out ok isn't going to help. Making them go to church and confess their sins isn't the solution to everything. Single parent households are just as loving and caring as dual parent households.

Being a parent, single or otherwsie is tough, and as a single dad I applaud any parent who chooses to take on this challenge for the right reason. Whether they take this on alone or with a partner does not matter. Anyone who can be so selfless, and put the needs of a child before their own needs, and devote their lives to such a worthy cause deserves some admiration, not this ridiculous ridicule.

Marriage and raising children is not about money or physical requirements. In the past, a man was defined by his ability to earn money, not only to provide for a family, but as a source of power to be a mover and shaker in the community. A woman was defined by her beauty and allure, both used for the purpose of persuading a man into marriage, and then providing him with convenient sex, and looking good while managing his household and social events. These days everyone can be prosperous and physically attractive. Both genders are capable of hiring decorators, cleaning services, caterers and nannies. Orgasms are readily available to both genders from a variety of sources none of which require the cost or commitment of marriage. Sexual intercourse isn???t even required to conceive a child. So what???s the point? Why do women continue to yearn for Prince Charming to come along? Why do men secretly imagine being the heroes they know they could be? Why does the human race consist of two distinct genders if both genders can do exactly the same things? Are they completely interchangeable? The answer is, they can???t and they aren???t. Men and women, each gender, is capable of doing things that the other can???t. Why? Because they are wired differently ??? they THINK differently. And because they think differently, they feel the same emotions in different degrees of intensity about the same things. Marriage is about the harmonious blending of two distinctly different points of view (THOUGHTS) on subjects in common to produce a fully intense shared FEELING of completion, of wholeness. Complete satisfaction. The commonly known term for this perfect feeling is love. Not only are genders different, but all individuals are unique, be they male or female. Every single person has a unique perspective on life, and a unique set of strengths and weaknesses. Every individual has a unique contribution to make to the world, a personal responsibility to do his or her part to make life a better experience for everyone to share. More, life is designed so that we each have one special person, uniquely complementary, to help us be the best we can be, to share in the work and produce great joy in the results. We call that relationship marriage. In order to have that perfect relationship we must learn about ourselves and look for the qualities in the opposite gender that bring out the best in us, that extend our thoughts and complete our feelings. We must be willing to give and receive; be willing to learn and look at things from another person???s point of view, and then decide what???s really right. And we must be willing to do what it takes to be the hero or the princess we really can be. Once you have marriage figured out and working properly, you can together teach your children the truth you have learned from each other about what they are and what they can accomplish in life.

knicknaime:

What are you talking about? That didn't even make sense. Did the Tourettes just get a little out of control or something?

My parents stayed together all their lives and raised four kids whom they put through college. Two kids never married; the other two had marriages that failed 18 months. None of them achieved much professionally. The two sisters are single moms. One of their children is smart but flunking out of school as a rebe, and perhaps a drug abuser. Who knows whether two-parent families are better. Statistically, half of marriages end in divorce, anyway.

When a man's semen leaves his body into anything other than a woman's vagina, is it whole? Does the half-seed of a soul within it die? Is a "turkey baster baby" soul-less? Until we are sure, babies conceived this way should not be allowed full citizenship. They and their mothers should be brought up under observation in minimum security prison until the child is 18. That will teach liberal mothers to use loaded basters for making bastards. They want to abort natural babies, but create artificial ones? In-conceive-able!!!

Well put, JBo6. One thing you forgot to mention is modern woman's work habits. She never misses work due to PMS, pregnancy, or childbirth. She never spends more more time in the bathroom than do male employees. She never uses sex appeal to gain unfair advantage over men.

Well we can't have it both ways.You men want to be men and don't help raise the kids or pay the bills.Therefore the women have to do what they gotta do for their kids.Two incomes are always better than 1.No I don't think daycare should raise your child but without children home, your day can consist of more than dinner and soap operas.There is only so much cleaning and laundry to do.