Knocking Yourself Up

Insanity! Before all you weirdo???s go out and get artificially inseminated please stop and think for a moment. Why do you want a child? Is it to fulfill some gap in your own being, to fill some empty void you have, because everyone is doing it or because some idiot promotes it in a TV show. What do you genuinely have to offer this child. If you???re main defense is based on how much you will love this child or how you will raise it ???correctly??? then please go see a shrink and get your tubes tied. It???s painfully obviously these single women could not make a relationship work with another adult. So, what???s the next best thing, having full control over the relationship, i.e. having a child to control. We need licensed parenting, the simple most important action that affects us all goes unchecked while the simplest things require permits, licensing, qualifications and some amount of aptitude.

There is no reason an independent woman in her 30s can't raise a child on her own. The reason why so many children raised by single mothers have serious issues is because many were raised by teen mothers. There is a huge difference between a successful mature single mother in her 30s and teenager with no education,

Also, most of these women can get a partner through no fault of their own. There is just a lack of quality men out there. I'm a classically attractive slender 20 year old and have never had a boyfriend. I'm not a ***. I just rarely see guys I'm attracted to. I don't want to lower my standards just so I can have a child. I'd be much happier raising one on my own. My mother did it(although divorced) well. There is no reason I can't either.

There is no greater joy than giving birth and raising a child. My children will be the most loved kids in the world whether they have a father or not!

Insanity! Before all you weirdo???s go out and get artificially inseminated please stop and think for a moment. Why do you want a child? Is it to fulfill some gap in your own being, to fill some empty void you have, because everyone is doing it or because some idiot promotes it in a TV show. What do you genuinely have to offer this child. If you???re main defense is based on how much you will love this child or how you will raise it ???correctly??? then please go see a shrink and get your tubes tied. It???s painfully obviously these single women could not make a relationship work with another adult. So, what???s the next best thing, having full control over the relationship, i.e. having a child to control. We need licensed parenting, the simple most important action that affects us all goes unchecked while the simplest things require permits, licensing, qualifications and some amount of aptitude.

It's disturbing to think that women feel a child does not need a fatherly figure in their lives. This is quite selfish. These women are only looking to fulfill what they want, and not looking ahead at the impact this has on the child and their futures. Not all children who grow up in a single parent home fall into a category of dropping out of school and not being as successful as those who had two parents in the home, however you cannot replace the value a father has on a child, male or female. A mother will never be able to bring to the table what a father can, and it's sad that these women choose to cut that out of a child's life.

Modern day parents make enough mistakes as evidenced by the levels of crime, drugs and teenage pregnancies with our youth. Making the conscious decision to "Knock Yourself Up" will only compound these issues. Read the reports and study the statistics, children benefit from a full time mother and a full time father in their lives from birth. A drive by uncle or a weekend grandfather is nice but not a substitute. It would be interesting to know what percentage of woman choosing this method were the product of a single parent?

I find it amusing and scary how the minority of people on here who keep quoting from their bible or claiming that their god is somehow more important than the rest of our gods and goddesses refuse to consider other lifestyles. The Romans didn't feed enough of them to the lions I guess, lol. As for the open minded christians on here, cheers and glad to have a real discussion with you.

The rest of you, please stop quoting from your religious textx here as they have no relevance. Thank you.

I am not married and I want kids. I have tried to "find" a husband and it is not as easy as DGAR379 makes it out to be. I am not an a workolic or have any mental problems. It just hasnt worked out for me. If my child asks me where is my daddy I will cross that bridge but when he or she gets old enough to understand it I will explain it to him or her. I don't think it is shelfish to have a child. I think my life will be incomplete if I dont

I think America would be a better place if we stopped judging people. Who are its not or we to say, ???That???s not Christian??? or a healthy life style. I don't have children, but I???m also only 23 and just starting a career. If someone wants to go to a sperm bank why should anyone care. It's not your business. If someone wants to adopt good for them. There are some people that have children the "Christian way" and quite frankly.... some people should not reproduce. People who adopt and go to sperm banks want to have children, and are prepared to take care of that child and give it a loving home. I am Catholic.... but you don't seem me pushing my beliefs on someone else. You crazy Christians need to realize that not everyone cares what you think. You live by your values and morals and stop judging everything that is different from you. Christian sects are so afraid to step outside the box so they judge and make people feel bad for what they are doing. That doesn???t sound very "Christian Like" to me.

are mothers better than dads? I think not im a single dad because the slut left to be a slut. But at least my kids will still know both parents and i would never bad mouth their mom to them. very hard to be single with kids, why would anyone in their right frame of mind do it. maybe all these single moms wanting to go that route should be examined and committed instead

I married just had a a baby boy and we are blessed and very happy to be a family of 3 now. But if you want to go ahead and have a child on your own Im no one to judge you. I think people here leaving these comments calling other people selfish are just plain nasty!

I've discussed this with one of my friends over the past few months. She's attractive and with a man who wont commit to marriage. She wants kids, I've suggested the go it alone. She has a career, good mental health, and wants a kid. For the 30 something woman and man is not necessary to raise a child (might be nice, but we've got the resources to do it alone). Regarding the studies, I' like to see the research on children from single parents, in their 30's, with a decent income.

As much as you may want a baby, it takes a stong commitment to do so on your own and leaves your baby at a disadvantage role model wise. Single Mom, Single Dad, w/boy or girl; a new person needs a perspective from more than one source. Stable, secure and loving sources. Thats what a parents are.
You are not important, your child is.

Many women have a choice on who they want to date, unlike men who have to chase it or try hard to get a date with a woman. If a woman has a bad relationship than its because she was stupid enough to pick the wrong guy. Media has influenced a lot of women and they end up dating the good looking, funny guy who ends up being the bad parent. wham bamm thank you maam. If woman want the same life as men, than they will suffer the same experiences even if it is vicariously through their children

I can't help but agree with comment number one and three. I believe there is a difference between using a sperm donor and adopting. I am a single female still with hopes of being married someday and having children of my own, but I won't deny the fact that I've considered adopting. This is not a selfish act to better myself by becoming a mother. It is an attempt to give an unfortunate child a better life with a family that loves them.
Using a sperm donor, in my opinion, is selfish. It is bringing another child into the world for the pure fact of "fulfilling your dreams" of motherhood. There are so many children in need of loving homes, creating another child will only leave a hurting child without the chance to have a home. Consider the broken and alone. Not yourself.

Hey ladies.... now we are control freaks. God, that just makes me want to runout and raise a family with someone like him!

I feel aweful for fathers or men who do not play the role, even if its a mistake. A child needs both parents. I was raised by a mother and a father, they both played important roles. Roles that are needed. I learned to be caring and thoughful and to repect women, and my father taught me to be a man and a gentlemen. But both roles can not be taught by only one person. In my teenage years, all tought a good kid, I did misbehave a few times. Nothening worked better then "Wait till your fathers gets home."

Children need a full time father; not an uncle, a friend, or a nother loved one.

Women don't mistake your needs with and sunstitue the needs of a child.

I am a 28 year old single woman, about to graduate from law school and start a career. This article voices an idea that I myself have voiced on several occasions. I see no reason why a woman in her late 30s who is still waiting for Mr. Right to come along should pass up her opportunities to have a child just because he hasn't. Isn't it better for a woman who is well educated and ready (financially and mentally) to be a mother better off self-inseminating rather than entering into a meaningless marriage just so that she can have a child? Mr. Right may come along and make a great dad, but a woman only has so long before those child bearing years are over. I see nothing wrong with women taking the power into their own hands in some cases.

I am constantly amazed that people feel it is their right to tell other people how to live their lives. Whether it be couples choosing not to have children, having children later in life, or becoming a single mother by choice, it is the choice of those people. Not anyone else. What business do you have telling someone else what they should choose for their personal life choices? Mind your own business and take care of yourself and your own kids. Plenty of children who have 2 parents make mistakes or become pregnant or drop out of high school. So watch out for your own and let other people choose their own happiness.

The concept of the mother and father/nuclear family is very western and not necessarily the one and only "right" kind of family. People from Asia could be criticizing us for not having our grandparents live with us in the same house. America has become very diverse and full of open-minded people. There are many resources for these children coming from single-parent homes. A child raised by a loving single parent with help from other family members and friends is probably better off than a child being raised by two people who don't love each other and fight all the time (I know many people whose lives have been scarred by divorce and parents who hated each other).