Knocking Yourself Up

Wow. The selfishness of these single mothers is stunning. They're so intent on pursuing THEIR desires to have children that they don't stop to consider what's best for the child. I don't think there can be any question that a two-parent family is what's best for a child, and it's like these women just don't care. I'm appalled. As a married mother of a daughter, I see the difference my husband makes in our daughter's life, in her self esteem, and in her approach to life. I'm a better mom because I have somebody to share the load with me. (We all love children, but we all need downtime at times. I don't have to farm out my child to others when I need to handle other obligations: that's time when daddy and daughter get to bond.

As a child of a single mother...not by choice. I "existed" with my mom and my 5 siblings in so many homes, even an abandoned one, that I don't remember all the addresses. There was never enough of anything, and the burdens of life weighed down so much on my mom at times, that she even suffered a nervous breakdown. That break left us to be preyed upon by a host of things. I am Black American, and for women considering single motherhood as a viable option to having a child, I can only ask this...If you do, please make sure that you do it with sense. Have a good income to take care of the child. We paid dearly for my mother's ignorance and her poverty...Have a male role model somewhere. All but two of my siblings (myself included) have criminal records, have been in abusive relationships (all of us), smoked and drank early, and I am gay (though I think I would have been if I had a father, but who knows). I feel set up most the time, because my mom was so selfish, that she just kept adding to misery. Don't bring a child into the world to become a dysfunctional adult. Kids are not puppies that grow into dogs. We are humans that should grow into independent, psychologically sound adults.

SIngle parenthood isn't the best way from my experience. My sister is now in the situation, and she is catching hell, even after watching my mother struggle. My brothers? All but one have walked away from their children. They don't have a role model on what a "family" is supposed to be. We don't know the role of a father and a mother, even if they aren't together...we didn't have one, and we didn't have a choice. What about that? What about the choice of the kid to "NOT" come into a screwed up life of some half wit. The selfishness and vanity of it all. What about the kid!

As a child of a single mother...not by choice. I "existed" with my mom and my 5 siblings in so many homes, even an abandoned one, that I don't remember all the addresses. There was never enough of anything, and the burdens of life weighed down so much on my mom at times, that she even suffered a nervous breakdown. That break left us to be preyed upon by a host of things. I am Black American, and for women considering single motherhood as a viable option to having a child, I can only ask this...If you do, please make sure that you do it with sense. Have a good income to take care of the child. We paid dearly for my mother's ignorance and her poverty...Have a male role model somewhere. All but two of my siblings (myself included) have criminal records, have been in abusive relationships (all of us), smoked and drank early, and I am gay (though I think I would have been if I had a father, but who knows). I feel set up most the time, because my mom was so selfish, that she just kept adding to misery. Don't bring a child into the world to become a dysfunctional adult. Kids are not puppies that grow into dogs. We are humans that should grow into independent, psychologically sound adults.

SIngle parenthood isn't the best way from my experience. My sister is now in the situation, and she is catching hell, even after watching my mother struggle. My brothers? All but one have walked away from their children. They don't have a role model on what a "family" is supposed to be. We don't know the role of a father and a mother, even if they aren't together...we didn't have one, and we didn't have a choice. What about that? What about the choice of the kid to "NOT" come into a screwed up life of some half wit. The selfishness and vanity of it all. What about the kid!