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  • Posted By: Nanty Glo @ 12/06/2008 6:23:43 AM

    It used to be that children were placed for adoption because they were orphans, illegitimate, or because poverty left their parents no other alternative.

    In the current "adoption market," parental instability (primarily mental and emotional ) seems to be the common denominator in children ending up in the adoption sector of society. I believe this is true in America by a longshot and, with respect to certain areas overseas, -- primarily Russia and some Eastern European populations -- this is also true, despite claims by adoptionists that oppressiveillnesses are the key reasons for relinquishing children to the adoption system. economic conditions serve as the principal catalyst for the parental decision to surrender children for adoption.. No. Parental Alcoholism, drug addiction, abuse of all kinds (including sexual abuse) and mental illnesses are the key factors influencing the decision to place children for adoption. Later on, some or all of those ills become apparent in the offspring as well.

    Here's an idea: Reward and remunerate citizens who reliably practice birth control; ensure that the remuneration is greater than the amount these people would receive in public assistance for an average of three kids. If such a proposal seems like an outrageous expense, think of the projected financial implications a hypothetical government will suffer should the current trend continue unabated. Until we put a cork in the dike of indiscriminate reproduction, we'll continue to witness the continuation of a long line of sociopaths and severely mentally impaired people being marketed to prospective parents as "adoptable."

    Either that, or start putting the money where it really belongs: into the hands of the heroes who adopt these otherwise unadoptable children.

  • Posted By: AboutRight @ 12/06/2008 4:55:54 AM

    This is so sad. It seems not only terribly tragic for the child(ren) involved, but for the adoptive parents, especially the ones who elected to adopt rather than pursue a totally "self-driven" path (i.e., spending thousands on fertility treatments, IVF, etc.).

    Besides the unfairness of the whole situation to all involved, it seems an especially cruel irony that adoptive parents are paying thousands of dollars to adopt these types of children. Shouldn't the adoptive parents be the ones receiving payment???

  • Posted By: janis009 @ 12/05/2008 12:52:32 AM

    Actually, the prevalence of abortion and the loss of stigma for having a child out of wedlock are major reasons why it is difficult to adopt an infant in the US. In the 50s and 60s domestic adoptions of infants was fairly common. It was unheard of for the birthmother to "choose" the adoptive parents. It is easier to adopt overseas, where there is no issue of birthparents changing their mind or rejecting someone because they are single or "too old" or whatever. I adopted an infant (she is now a teenager) overseas and it has worked out fine. I never seriously considered domestic adoption because of the various complications.
    tha

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