The Choice: His Country or His Partner?

Some labeled your early retirement a symbol of protest against these policies. Was it?
No. It was the recognition that I have to go overseas in two years and I've seen no sign that this administration is willing to change these policies. I'm not going to go overseas again with my partner without those changes. I have done everything I can to raise the attention [to the idea that] this is all about the safety, effectiveness and fair treatment of people who are covered by the same American flag and are going overseas to do jobs that the country needs done. The government shouldn't allow itself to lose dedicated employees over these issues.

What has it been like to choose between obligations to your partner and service to your country?
I felt sad to make that choice, but I am very hopeful. I know in my heart that this is going to change, in time. I know it's going to change, because Americans are fair-minded.

What are you going to miss most about the work you did?
I'm going to miss my colleagues. There are some really terrific people who work for the State Department and have untold stories of valor, courage, initiative and great ideas. They are really trying to help American foreign policy succeed. And I'm going to miss the chance to effect change. You hate to leave a job where you can really help your country. That's why I came to Washington. I'm sure whatever I do next will be involved in something that allows me to make change.

Is there anything else you would like to say to those who could change these policies?
To think of the people who serve loyally and the people who are trying to help this country and who signed on for this very difficult, challenging and very rewarding career. No one should leave their career simply because their family obligations can't be met.

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