Six Ways to Avoid Holiday Booze Blunders

It's so sad that we have to tell people how to act in situations... I'm assuming these are adults you are referring to when discussing alcohol and parties... shouldn't they know how to act? Much like smoking (when you are an adult) this story is trying to demonize drinking at holiday parties! Loosen up, please!!

This is ridiculous. You have to ask Emily Post and an Internist (MD) what to do in case someone is not drinking at a function? Get a life. I have not had a drink in 27 years and have never had a problem at a party (and I have attended plenty of them) by turning down booze. When they ask, simply say "no thanks"...simple? Exactly! If you are trying to fool the other guests into thinking you are drinking when you are not, you better not go to the party in the first place.

This article is utterly bunk and I don't think the author would know a good time if it danced naked in front of her!

Pull your insecure head out of your overtightened hind end. Stop overthinking the holidays.

They could put their (OPENED) booze -
they brought w/ them to the party, but, did not finish and now taking home --
in their TRUNK!!

I have a subtle way to handle those that over booze at my house. basically when I see they are going to drink to much, I just ask for their keys and usually they don't want to give me their keys, so I give them a card for duidefenseattorney.biz of couse they slip it in there pocket, and what sucks is I have to wait until they are about to leave and then call a taxi. But many times they drive off with too much to drink. It makes me not want to have parties anymore. And the problem is is that I can be liable if they get drunk at my house and something happens, even if they byob.

I just wanted to comment on the 3rd point that is made above about "Be Subtle", mostly the last line, "Post describes teetotaling relatives who invite guests to bring their own liquor???and take it with them when they leave". this could cause trouble as there are laws in some places about driving around with an open container of alcohol. You maybe can get a ticket, or arrested. So before doing this is would be extra careful.

Lora

Many AA's talk much about "The Program" and the people that got them sober. I think we would do well to remember what is written in chapter 5, and the three pertinent Ideas( the A B C's ). And may I also suggest , read the long form of tradition 12

Many AA's talk much about "The Program" and the people that got them sober. I think we would do well to remember what is written in chapter 5, and the three pertinent Ideas( the A B C's ). And may I also suggest , read the long form of tradition 12

I just say I??m the designated driver. That usually ends all questions.

Kieran

I have been in recovery for over 5 years now. AA is the only way that I know that works for long term recovery. Yes, I admit I am an alcoholic, but now I can say I am a recovering alcoholic. It has been mentioned previously about "AA arrogance or Self Righteousness". Those are characteristics of a true alcoholic. If a person is working the program of AA correctly arrogance and Self Righteousness should no longer be and issue. While we are all human beings we all make mistakes from time to time. What we do after we make those mistakes is what truly matters. Do we just go on thinking we are "right" or "superior" to others. AA teaches me to not judge other people because they drink or how they act. AA is a selfish program ONLY in the aspect that I am taught to take care of myself and not try to run or judge other people, whether they are sober or not. AA is about making myself a better person and helping others.
As it has also been stated about AA's failure rate. It is not AA's fault or any other programs fault that a person does not succeeed in sobriety, it lies within the person to succeed. Are they willing to do whatever it takes to stay sober. I have not gone to parties because I know the primary focus of the party is to get drunk. If being sober is important to the individual, then they are will to go to any length to stay sober. AA does not put a drink or a beer to anyones lips. It is the individual that puts a drink or beer to their lips. It is a decision to drink alcohol, just as they have the decision to stay sober and working the program. AA teaches me to be humble and grateful that I don't have to drink to have a good time.
I am not saying AA is a perfect place because it is not. Nothing in this world is perfect, including me. The person who had a bad experience with AA, is not the only one who has had that problems, we are all human beings and we are all individuals who think and act in different ways. I would suggest that the person who has issues with AA go to other meetings and find one that works for them. Meaning finding people that they get along with.
If a person is a true alcoholic and wishes to stay sober, "why in the world would you go to a party where the main focus is to get drunk?" If people judge you becasue you are not drinking they are not your friends anyway or they may have a problem themselves and a sober person may make them feel uneasy because deep down they know they have a problem. I was taught by AA not to judge anyone drunk, in sobriety, social drinker or one who simply doesnt drink. If people feel uncomfortable because you don't drink it is on them not on you. Do friends who drink stop drinking because you don't drink. I don't think so!

I can see why Chuckie feels that way. Had a friend who joined AA. He NEEDED

I can see why Chuckie feels that way. Had a friend who joined AA. He NEEDED

chuckie, I hope you dont look at the many blessing in the world the way u look at AA, If u dont agree dont go....sounds like your misery has already been refunded.....AA arrogance as you call it has never caused me to lose my family, job or caused me to get another dwi .

chuckie, if u feel AA is full of arrogance and self rightousness then u have not been to the same meeting i have been and as far as a phenomenal failure rate.......its true MANY people dont recover but not because of the program but because they DONT WANT TO I will as you say trade my addiction of alcahol to one of my group EVERY SINGLE DAY because in five years theat group has never helped waste my work check, miss an appointment,cheat on my wife ,threaten others lives while driving drunk or caused me the endless days of guilt and remorse i had while drinking,,,,,,,ty

There seems to be an echo in here. I hope you all can get a grip on yourselves befor the New Year party starts. And remember, not to many of you in the same room at one time, don't take yourself too serious and above all, try and play nice.

obviously CHUCKIE is an alcoholic and hasnt faced it yet or he would now the true facts on AAs sucess rates.when u hit bottom chuckie,even you will be welcome to aa. bob h