She’s Gotta Have It
Both books offer comprehensive advice on how to identify the problem and work through it (that is, if you think it's a problem). But the most salient suggestion may just be that well-worn Nike adage: Just do it. Even if you're not in the mood. According to Weiner Davis, many men with low sexual desire can get into the mood for some carnal gymnastics if they simply follow their wives' sexual overtures and allow her to get things started physically. "Desire often follows arousal," she says, and sometimes all men need is a little "jump start." If that doesn't work, says Weiner Davis, a husband can still be sexually attentive to his wife. "Marriage is supposed to be a partnership," she says. "A woman will feel very good about herself, and the whole relationship can improve, if a husband with low libido says, 'Honey, I'm not in the mood, but I want to make you feel good'." Not good enough? Then counseling or sex therapy may be the next step.
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Posted By: Alchemist65535 @ 12/01/2008 1:34:32 PM
Comment: My libido, and testosterone, plummeted when I started on certain medications. In addition I had chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia. With the sleep disorders that came along with these things I couldn't stay awake in a darkened room in a horizontial positiion. My sense of touch had changed and normally pleasant touch had become painful. All of this together had a horrendous effect on our sex life. Sixteen years later with changes in medications, vitamins etc, I have recovered in most all ways but my wife is long gone. There can be medical reasons that desire and ability for sex disappear. Sometimes these can be treated. Testosterone supplementation made a big difference for me and helped with the fibromyalgia too.
Posted By: bonbon326 @ 11/04/2008 4:23:43 PM
Comment: how about male menopause and low testirone my husband was found to have it with med he is doing better n so is our sex life
Posted By: 4432dc1 @ 11/04/2008 3:14:16 PM
Comment: I am a very attractive, very sexual person, married to a man who is not into sex.
After 10 years of cryong, begging, then bringing my self esteem to zero. I realized I had to get my needs met.
When ny husband and I have sex it is wonderful. But occasionally is not enough, (8 times a year)
For five years I have had a friend, no one knows, we NEVER socialize. We don't mix love and sex. I love my husband, he fullfills my needs.
I am against cheating on your spouse. But people cheat for all kinds of reasons and this is out of self preservation