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Those who cannot make a substantive case against Barack Obama for president charge him with being naive. Anyone who believes that a former state legislator who became a senator from Illinois is naive knows nothing of the rough-and-tumble politics of that state. Obama is no political neophyte. After only a few years in the Senate, he is known for being able to work effectively with members from both sides of the aisle. He's a skilled politician with character, integrity and vision, a phenomenon in U.S. politics.
Geraldine Beckford
New York, N.Y.

Commitment to Marriage?
Bonnie Eslinger tells us she does not need "a piece of paper from the state" to strengthen her commitment to her partner ("Yes to Love, No to Marriage," My Turn, Jan. 14). That piece of paper, however, represents one of society's rituals that hold us together. Do we need a piece of paper that says we have been educated before it's true? Do we require a document from the state to prove we're alive? It's not the paper, it's the ritualistic and accepted process it makes tangible and legal. Is Jeff just some guy Bonnie is living with, or is he someone she is committed to and whose children will have the legal stature afforded to those of a marriage—insurance, citizenship, inheritance?
John Gholdston
Cedar City, Utah

I read Bonnie Eslinger's essay with the smile of someone older and wiser. My first marriage lasted 32 years, and then I lived with someone for six years. I too experienced "intense, affirming love." But when he died, the consequences of shacking up hit home hard. No matter what conventional wisdom says these days, the reality is that most family and friends are uncomfortable with this kind of prolonged uncommitted relationship. I married again four years ago. The comfort, security and honorable, lasting love that can grow out of marriage cannot be compared with the uncertain outcome of an uncommitted love. Eslinger should accept Jeff's proposal while the offer is still good.
Susan Thompson
Bakersfield, Calif.

As wife to a partner with whom I lived for six years prior to marriage, I appreciate Bonnie Eslinger's belief that a marriage license is not a requirement for true love and intimacy. However, Eslinger overlooks the legal rights and protections marriage offers, such as ensuring government benefits like Social Security and the right to make medical decisions if the other partner is incapacitated. And while I support marriage rights for homosexuals, this should not impede heterosexual couples from allowing themselves the securities and safeguards that marriage provides.
Ayne Ray
Austin, Texas

Measuring How Smart a Child Is
I read your article on parents' obsession in pushing their children to be "gifted" with a combination of bemusement and sadness ("They're No Baby Einsteins," Jan. 14). I was home-schooled in rural Maine and spent the first 10 years of my life running around in fields and playing with Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle action figures. What sort of underachieving life has my intellectually deprived upbringing given me? Well, by middle school I had started to get more serious about academics, and I am now a senior at MIT. Parents should calm down and tell their young kids to go play.
Jamie B. Edwards
Cambridge, Mass.

Possible Perils of Baby Bottles
As a nurse who educates expectant and new parents, I feel that the concern over BPA, a chemical found in many plastic baby bottles, is legitimate, especially when parents are microwaving these bottles to warm baby's milk ("The Baby Bottle Blues," Jan. 14). Whether the chemical leaches out in amounts that are harmful to an infant seems debatable, but why take the chance? While it's great that consumers have driven the market to produce alternatives, such as glass and BPA-free bottles, why not mention an even safer, more ecofriendly option than expensive bottles—namely, breast-feeding. This is a great option for parents who will accept nothing but the very best for their baby.
Molly Veltz, R.N., B.S.N.
St. Louis, Mo.

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  • Posted By: MissyE @ 03/11/2008 9:45:41 AM

    Hilary Clinton doe s indeed have experience but very little of it has to do with serving the community, bringing people together, listening,shaping policy, managing her campaign staff, or trying to maintain a successful marriage. A lot of men, women, children, and minorities who have not snapped to attention and jumped on her bandwagon have been hurt by her bimbo squad (for tellng the truth), gone to jail (for doing her dirtywork), stepped on/victimized/exploited (for being poor), and have never received a single thing but her shaking finger in the tv screen telling us how strong she is and how much she likes to fight. No one wants to sign up for 4 years of that.

  • Posted By: bps422 @ 02/08/2008 11:49:43 AM

    Inspirational vs. Informational

    Thanks to 24/7 cable news channel, I have been able to hear and see a lot more of Senators Obama and Clinton. I have concluded, based on this information, two candidates are waging a philosophical war about their view of the world and issues our country is facing. And that is: What it should be vs. what it can be.

    When I hear the inspiring speech by Senator Obama, I visualize this possibility of what our nation/world should be ???with 100% probability. When I hear Senator Clinton, I visualize the reality of our what nation/world can be, a possibility tempered with a dose of probability. Senator Obama in many respects is a clean sheet of paper- no history, no record and no baggage- which bodes well for him as candidate. But as a president, one can conclude that his idealistic vision and the choice he makes of advisors in his inner circle and cabinet, who most likely will share his vision and will shape his presidency. This, big unknown and uncertainty should be a concern to lot of democrats and independents. We know a lot about Senator Clinton and know how her presidency will look like and what her policies will be regarding National Security, Foreign Policy, and And Universal Health Care. We quite don???t know what Senator Obama will do when faced with the reality of these issues.

    We have potentially three presidential candidates -Senators McCann, Obama and Clinton, one of who will be next president of our country. Based on the positions of these senators, my conclusion is that Senator McCann is conservative right; Senator Clinton is centrist, and then Senator Obama who are in the liberal left. No matter who becomes the president, the country will experience a change in direction. With Senators McCann and Obama the change will be hard right or hard left .I believe the country is not ready for either of these directions. The expectation set by Senator Obama of what our country should be and in the relations with foreign government leaders, that there is a real concern that those expectations will be never be met and that world will see us a preacher and not as a world leader. Our willingness to readily engage in dialogue with every political leader in the world, will very likely raise the expectations an demands from these countries and drag us in the regional and local political issues from which it will be hard to extricate ourselves. The policy that citizens of our country will ratify is the policies in the center. Therefore at the end, Senator Clinton, with her feet on the ground, is well suited and well positioned and is the right candidate to provide a realistic policy approach to deal with problems with enormous implications to our country

  • Posted By: shiva1 @ 01/23/2008 9:24:35 PM

    The spectacle of a former President assuming the role of a Hit Man for his wife???s primary campaign is a repulsive disgrace. In the recent South Carolina debate Hillary Clinton attempted to dismiss the enormous influence and power of a former President???s advocacy by making the ridiculous assertion that each candidate had a passionate spouse supporting their cause.

    Bill Clinton???s ???passions??? have been painfully well documented and have nothing to do with Michelle Obama. Senator Obama is committed to ending the partisan divide that has debilitated Washington and build a broad based, inclusive majority to drive change. In contrast, the Clintons are lusting for the opportunity to fan the flames of scorched earth politics, perpetuating the dysfunctional status quoi.

    The Clinton two-headed machine will do whatever it takes; pander, distort, triangulate, fabricate, smear, lie, and pretend to cry, in order to hold onto and expand their power. As a former supporter of Bill Clinton, I will sit on the sidelines in November, as will millions of other Obama supporters, if his wife prevails in the Democratic primary. With 87% of Republicans strongly disapproving of her, she would energize their base to a degree that would be beyond Karl Rove???s wildest fantasy, thus ensuring another loss for the Democrats.

    The country faces enormous challenges and can not afford to continue the twenty year Bush/Clinton infighting and gridlock that has polarized the country in a Red state/Blue state mentality. Barrack Obama will build a diverse coalition to bring people of every persuasion together in pursuit of the common good. In addition, he is uniquely suited to restore our nation???s tarnished global image and articulate an eloquent, inspirational voice to an America that we can once again be proud of. It is time to have the courage to elect Barrack Obama as the next President of the United States .

    Robert Luciano
    Atlanta, GA

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