Want to Have Kids? Desire for Babies Stifles Sexual Appetite in Men

Want to make babies but struggling to get in the mood? A desire to have kids might actually hold back your appetite for sex, a new study has found.

Researchers surveyed nearly 300 Italian men to get to the bottom of their sexual desires. They evaluated the psychological and social factors behind their sexual cravings and found the desire to have a baby may stifle the desire to have sex.

2_17_Bed sheets The desire to have a baby might actually hold men back in bed. Maria Morri/Flickr

The study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine evaluated factors like quality of life, sexual function and emotions to investigate sexual desire in the men.

Some predictors of low sexual appetite were unsurprising. Fear and a lack of erotic thoughts were linked to a lack of desire. Wanting to have a baby, however, may come as more of a shock.

Weaker factors included fatigue, sexual conservatism and compatibility.

The reasons behind their surprising results, study authors wrote, could include an underlying fear about the responsibilities and lifestyle changes that accompany child-rearing.

The study was limited by its sample size. While wanting to have a baby held some men back in the bedroom, the results can’t be generalized, the authors wrote.

Study author Filippo M. Nimbi of Sapienza University of Rome and the Institute of Clinical Sexology said the research left open a number of questions surrounding the complex factors behind sexual desire, AskMen reported.

“How sexual desire is understood has profound implications for how sexual behavior is treated in ethical, medical, social, legal and religious contexts,” Nimbi said. “We like considering this study as a starting point towards a deeper understanding of sexuality for both clinicians and researchers, but also the general public.”

“What is clear is that male sexuality is considerably more complex than previously thought: A hard and rigid erection is not enough to explain men functioning,” Nimbi added.

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