Mom Backed for Leaving Kids in Daycare All Summer Despite Being Off Work

A user on Mumsnet has been accused of being "judgmental" for criticizing a teacher friend who leaves her kids in nursery during the summer holidays.

The user, Willwejustbehotforevernow, posted: "Just seen a friends post about being happy to be off for the whole summer (teacher) because now she can pick [up] her kids from nursery (they're in full time whilst she works). Would you still put your kids in full time nursery if you worked full time and then had summer off 6 weeks, where you could be with them."

This prompted a range of responses, with many people backing the teacher, but others saying that it's not right to miss out on that time with your children.

One user commented: "Don't judge her. She probably needs. Rest and a break," while another agreed: "It's her choice, not your place to judge."

"A real friend that actually exists or a hypothetical friend designed to work MN into a frothing bunfight?" one person wrote.

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A file photo of a toddler in early development. A mother on Mumsnet has been accused of "judging" other teachers for not spending the summer break looking after their young children. Getty Images

A fellow teacher sided with the original poster, writing: "Teacher here also. I think it's awful tbh. Surely one of the perks of the job is having the holidays off together to make up for the number of hours worked in term time? I would never do this. Mine are going in for 4 random days when I have made plans with friends. 4 days in 6 weeks and I'm already feeling guilty."

Some users commented on the need for some young children to have continuity throughout the summer with one user writing: "Two days max for continuity," while another wrote: "I did. DS is autistic and needed the stability."

"I think I might still send them a couple of times a week – for continuity," a user said, "so that the return in September isn't quite so jarring, and so that they are happy and busy doing things that they love. Nice to have some time to do schoolwork, chores, grown-up lunches without them too."

Chicago-based childhood development organization Start Early says on its website: "Research has shown that children have better educational and developmental outcomes when they have continuity in their child-care arrangements because safe, stable environments allow young children the opportunity to develop the relationships and trust necessary to comfortably explore and learn from their surroundings."

The National Association for the Education of Young Children also talks up the benefits of continuity of care: "Continuity of care (COC) has emerged as a strongly recommended practice for infant and toddler care and education...In COC, children and their caregiving team are kept together in a consistent group of familiar caregivers and peers over a long period of time—up to two or three years. COC is based largely on attachment research that recognizes that infants and toddlers thrive in secure relationships with a small number of key adults, that secure relationships take time to develop, and that these important relationships are best if long lasting."

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