Dad Praised for Calling Wife 'Homophobic' After He Reveals Bond With Son

A dad has been praised online for calling his wife homophobic after he revealed his strong bond with his son.

In the viral Reddit post shared on the Am I The A**hole page, user u/Separate_Recipe explained that since his twin boys were seven he had kissed them on the forehead as they watched TV together and that it was one way they had forged strong father-son bonds with one another.

The dad added he and his current wife—with who he now shares a 4-year-old daughter —married three years ago and that she saw him kiss his sons on the forehead multiple times.

He added: "My kids are no longer living with us because they left for college, but they come to see me every now and then.

Stock image of a father and son
A stock image of a father and son. A dad's behavior was praised online after he stood up to his "homophobic" wife. Getty

"My boys are 20 now but they still like to put their heads on my chest while I wrap my arms around them, they do it every time they visit and I'm watching TV."

The dad then revealed his son Liam came out as gay two weeks ago and introduced him to his boyfriend and that he recently arrived back home for the first time since doing so.

He continued: "My son visited me again last Wednesday (since he was here two weeks ago, so the first time 'officially out'). I was watching 'Red' with my daughter (she was on my left) then my son Liam arrived, he was tired and sat on my right, put his head on my shoulder while I wrap my arm around him, then I kissed his forehead and said, 'good to have you back buddy.'

"We went to sleep and the next day my wife told me that it made her feel uncomfortable (me hugging and kissing my son) and asked me not to do it again. While she doesn't mind me doing it with Lucas (my other son, straight) she doesn't want me to do it with Liam.

"I told her that she has no business being in my relationship with my sons, I also called her homophobic. She accused me of not treating her like an equal parent, (to my sons) thus I said 'that's ok because you are not.'"

Since the comment was shared on Sunday, the post has attracted some 23,100 upvotes and more than 1,755 comments.

Many of those who shared their thoughts were supportive of the dad and praised him for his behavior toward his son and for confronting his wife.

One Reddit simply said: "NTA (not the a**hole). She is being homophobic. The world needs more dads like you."

Another added: "NTA. He was gay all those times that you showed him affection when he was young. Nothing changed.

"Bravo on you for being an amazing parent. Be sure to continue to protect your son from her. You can bet that she either is or will display other homophobic micro-aggressions toward your son.

"People will look you dead in the eyes and tell them that they aren't homophobic and do things that they are only doing because they know someone's gay."

A third commenter praised the dad and commented: "You're an amazing father. NTA."

Newsweek has contacted u/Separate_Recipe for comment.

According to information gathered by the Pew Research Center in June 2019, dads in 2016 were more involved with child care than they were 50 years ago and spent about eight hours a week looking after their kids, three times more than in 1965.

It added that 63 percent of dads in 2017 said they spend too little time with their children compared with 35 percent of mothers who said the same.

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