Fury As Woman Dubs Bridesmaid 'Selfish' For Bailing On $456 Bachelorette Party

A woman who called a bridesmaid "selfish" for pulling out of a $456 bachelorette party faced scorn from the internet with one branding the cost "obscene."

The woman took to Mumsnet to share her frustration that one bridesmaid dropped out of a bachelorette party, known as a 'hen do' in the U.K., in Liverpool, northwest England.

Posting under the name AnnoyedEveryone on Wednesday, the woman explained she organized the party six weeks before her friend's wedding in Spain.

She added those attending would pay £340 ($456) for the party and that all were footing the cost for the bride-to-be as well.

However, the woman expressed her annoyance that one bridesmaid pulled out and claimed she could not afford to go to both the party and wedding.

The poster then asked if she was being unreasonable for calling the bridesmaid's decision "selfish."

She said: "One of my friends who was attending the hen and the wedding has text over the weekend saying she can't afford to do both, and is therefore pulling out of the hen do so she can still go to the wedding.

"The thing is [she] had told us she was coming so now it means that we are short for the activities we had planned, and either have to now do less than we have told everyone, or ask the bride to pay for herself.

"She said we can keep the £60 ($80) deposit she paid. AIBU [am I being unreasonable] to think that she's being a bit selfish as she already committed to coming?"

But, true to her username, the woman indeed managed to annoy everyone in the Mumsnet group, with many bemoaning the cost of the bachelorette party.

As of Thursday morning, some 510 people raced to share their opinions in the comment section.

One posted: "She shouldn't have signed up, but having a destination wedding and separate weekend away hen do is asking a lot of people."

Another said: "To be honest I think having a hen weekend for that kind of money when it's a destination wedding is ridiculous. I'll be so glad when hen nights go back to a night out somewhere not far."

A third commented: "Did she know how much it is? £340 on a hen night is obscene from my perspective. She has every right not to attend something which will impact her negatively."

According to a 2019 survey by the wedding planner website The Knot, found the median cost of a one-day bachelorette party is $150 and the average cost $317.

It added: "But when the bash takes place in a pricier location (aka a major metropolitan city) that number" goes up by 61 percent, and one in five celebrants are actually spending closer to $1,000 to have a party.

Stock image of bridesmaids
Stock image of bridesmaids. Mumsnet users turned on the woman over the post. jacoblund/Getty