Husband Refusing to Pay for Kids as He and Wife Split Bills 50/50 Dragged

The internet has dragged a husband after his wife revealed how she is being left out of pocket despite their agreement to split finances 50/50.

Mumsnet user financesplitting shared the story Monday which has since received more than 100 responses.

In the post, she explained: "My husband and I own all major assets 50/50. We've always put down the exact same amount of deposits on our house, flat, cars, etc. I used to make more money than my husband for a while, but he's overtaken me and I'm also currently on maternity leave, so my pay packed is smaller than usual."

Despite the agreement to pay for their bigger expenses equally, the Mumsnet user explained that she felt she was being left out of pocket and paying for more than her husband.

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A stock image of a couple looking through their finances while a woman looks stressed and upset. The internet has dragged a husband for not better financially supporting his wife while she is on maternity leave. tommaso79/Getty Images

"I feel like I pay for a lot of our day-to-day expenses," she wrote: "All food shopping pretty much, nappies, children's clothes, takeaways, cleaning stuff. My husband tends to pay for stuff like tools and kitchen pans occasionally."

The couple recently had work done on their house that the husband paid a little more for, but the wife explained that she has paid all of their son's nursery fees since January.

"Whenever I bring up that I feel like I pay more stuff than him day to day, he says he also pays for a lot of stuff," explained the poster: "But the fact remains that he's making double what I am making on maternity and I have basically no savings as I spent most of it on the house and I'm unable to save much now due to me paying mortgage, car, nursery fees and basically all food and cleaning."

While splitting your finances equally in a couple may seem like the obvious answer to keeping things fair, it doesn't always work perfectly.

Financial advice site Kinda Frugal says that balancing what each partner contributes and how much they spend is often more important than a simple split down the middle.

For example, if there are significant differences in income, spending, or financial obligations between a couple, a 50/50 split can be unfair. An alternative to the usual 50/50 split can be to look at your contribution based on income.

Kinda Frugal suggests: "Calculate the percentage of total household income each person contributes. Add up all the shared expenses and bills you've agreed to split, [then] multiply the total from the expenses you're splitting by the income percentages. The result is each partner's share."

Whichever way you choose to organize finances with your partner, it is an important step in ensuring a successful and happy relationship. A 2013 study by Kansas State University reported that arguments about money are by far the top predictor of divorce.

In a study using data from more than 4,500 couples, results found that regardless of how much money was involved, disagreements about finances were linked to poor relationship satisfaction, increased stress, and harsher arguments between couples.

On Mumsnet, users agreed that finances should be fairly split between the couple to ensure that one was not left out of pocket.

"You are a family unit," wrote one commenter: "One of you shouldn't be struggling while the other is ok."

"It sounds like you both need to sit down and have a proper run-through of your finances," suggested another reply.

One Mumsnet user pointed out that things may need to be different as a result of the couple's new baby: "Things need to change now because you have a child. You are facilitating him working and earning more than you."

"Start billing him for looking after the baby or suggest shared parental leave and you will go back to work and he can take the financial hit," suggested another commenter.

Another user wrote: "I have no respect for a man or woman who would see the other short while they're hoarding what is actually family money."

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