Internet Backs 16-Year-Old Who Says Date Called Her a 'Gold Digger': 'Run for the Hills'

The internet has come to the defense of a 16-year-old girl who claimed in a now-viral post that she was called a "gold digger" on a recent date.

Posting to Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum on Thursday under the username u/No-Strawberry-6721, the girl explained that the date in question was the "first date of [her] life."

So far, the post has received more than 6,700 up-votes and over 700 comments.

At the beginning of her post, the teenager said that her date—a 17-year-old male—took her to a "fancy restaurant" that was fairly expensive.

Despite her telling him that she wasn't hungry, her date ordered multiple "costly" dishes and insisted that she try them all. So, operating under the assumption that he wouldn't ask her to pay for those dishes, she did.

When the check arrived, however, the girl's date asked her to split the bill. She agreed and handed over all the money she had on her, which was just enough to cover her portion of the meal. But this upset her date, who argued that the bill should have been split evenly because she "tasted" some of his food.

In his anger, the 17-year-old called u/No-Strawberry-6721 a "gold digger."

"I would have had no problem if he had paid it [in] full & told me to treat him at the second date," she wrote. "But he chose to call me [a] gold digger."

Still, she wanted to know: was she in the wrong?

While there are no hard and fast rules about who should pay for what on a first date, some experts recommend that the topic should, at the very least, be discussed during the date.

"If you would like to take care of the check, it's best to gauge how the other person feels about it first," suggested Harvard Business Review. "For instance, you might say, 'How should we handle the bill?' Likewise, if you want to split it, you can suggest, 'Do you mind if we split this down the middle?'"

Of course, etiquette doesn't demand that restaurant bills be evenly split. In a conversation with Forbes, Money Under 30 founder David Weliver argued that if there is a significant difference in the cost of both parties' meals, "the choice between an even split or an itemized bill is a no-brainer."

"I think it's totally awkward, but there's no way around it: you need to be confident in saying, 'I'm on a budget, I'm trying to save money, I specifically ordered these things [to save money]. Can we take that into account?'" Weliver told the publication.

"If you're going to argue over $2, I might give in," he added. "If you got something that's significantly less expensive, stand up for yourself, at any age."

The majority of Redditors were aligned with Weliver's way of thinking and assured u/No-Strawberry-6721 that she wasn't wrong to only cover her portion of the dinner bill.

"It's kind of hilarious that a 17-year-old would think that 'gold diggers' are after him... 'yes I want to spend all your allowance,'" wrote u/SilliusSoddus. "NTA [not the a**hole] though, and also big warning signs about his personality in general and what he thinks 'fair' means."

More than 15,000 people up-voted u/SilliusSoddus's comment in agreement.

"Please don't go on a second date. for the hills. Throwing up red flags all over the place on a first date. Not a good first impression and it won't get any better," said u/Princess_Mia-11.

"NTA. Choosing an expensive restaurant, ordering a bunch of expensive stuff and then asking your dining partner to split the bill is actually CRAZY RUDE. Splitting the bill is common, but it's generally accepted that if you're going halves you don't expect one party to cover a disproportionate amount of the bill," offered u/mrlesterkanopf.

Redditor u/Complicated_Disaster added: "What an entitled boy. If he wants to go to an expensive place he should check if you can afford it first, or pay himself. NEXT!"

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The internet has come to the defense of a 16-year-old girl who claimed in a now-viral post that she was called a “gold digger” on a recent date. Some experts recommend that the topic of splitting the bill should be discussed during a date. Merlas/istock