Internet Backs Mom Refusing To Buy Lunch for Daughter's Boyfriend—'Moocher'

A woman has taken to Reddit to share how she refused to pay for her daughter's boyfriend's meal, and many online have rallied around her in support.

Posting to the discussion-based site on January 16 under the account name Unspoken-promise1879 the woman started by revealing that her daughter Christine is 24, and she has recently moved back into town after obtaining her college degree.

Christine is currently dating 30-year-old Simon, who the woman "is not a big fan of." She then went on to reveal that she had invited her daughter to lunch, but the latter arrived boyfriend in tow.

This was not what the mother had hoped for and she explained: "The bill came and I told Simon and Christine that I was only paying for myself and Christine, Simon asked why was that and I told him because I didn't invite him."

This upset the young couple, as the Redditor reveals: "She got offended and said they're both one and I should either pay for both of them or not pay at all, I told her this was not fair to both her and I but she said no this was unfair to !Simon!.

"I asked if he had money to pay and he shook his head 'no.'"

The woman then decided to pay for just herself and left, resulting in the cash-strapped couple having to call a friend to come to the restaurant and settle their portion of the bill.

The Redditor continued: "She said she's hurt, Simon's hurt and they expect an apology and the money their friend paid since it's a debt they need to return now.

"I told her it was her doing for bringing uninvited person with her then insisting that I pay for them both or not pay at all."

Later in the comments the woman clarified that "Simon is unemployed and Christine is barely able to cover the bills."

Since the meal has caused a rift between the mother and daughter, she ended the post by asking is she was being unreasonable and whether she had caused this by "not paying for both of them."

The story has gained lots of traction on Reddit, having attracted more than 15,600 upvotes.

Additionally nearly 3,200 people have rushed to the comments section to share their opinions on the woman's actions, with most offering their support.

One Reddit user, DeepDarkBlues_96, wrote: "You didn't invite the boyfriend and your daughter was rude for inviting him without letting you know first.

"Also, how is a 30-year-old and a 24-year-old going out without bringing their wallets? And to basically blame you for embarrassing them when all you wanted was a nice lunch with your daughter."

Another person, Heavener, added: "The entitlement of the boyfriend is crazy. And it's embarrassing.

"If I had decided to show up and eat with my future mother-in-law at a restaurant I wasn't invited to, I would have offered to pay for her, too, or at the very least paid for me and my gf [girlfriend]."

Thesafflower agreed, explaining: "Yeah, seriously. If Simon wanted to win Mom over, he should have paid for all their meals. And if he can't afford to, that's fine, but then he shouldn't be tagging along on a mother-daughter outing expecting a free lunch."

Trania86 commented: "If the daughter insisted on adding another guest, she should have also insisted on paying the bill. I love how OP continues parenting her child by sticking to her guns."

Swamp_Donkey_7 typed: "Sounds like an unemployed moocher who showed up for a free meal."

Paying bill
A stock image of a woman paying a bill in a restaurant. On Reddit one mom has shared how she has fallen out with her daughter because she did not pay for her boyfriend. iStock


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