Internet Backs Woman Asking Dollar for 'Pregnancy Jar' Over Baby Questions

The internet has backed a woman who asks friends and family to put money into a pregnancy jar each time they ask her about when she and her partner will have children.

Posted in the popular "Am I the A**hole" forum, user u/thasyojar2013 shared her story, which can be seen here, and it clearly resonated with the comment being upvoted some 27,000 times since it was uploaded on Saturday, April 30.

She explained she and her husband, both in their mid-30s, had become stressed after friends and family kept on asking them when they would have a baby.

The user said they had been asked on several occasions and that one family member expressed concern they "don't have much time left" to have a healthy baby.

Stock image of dollar jar
Stock image of dollar jar. The woman's post about her pregnancy jar quickly went viral on Reddit. Getty

According to a 2018 report from the Pew Research Center, women in the U.S. are waiting longer to have children than in the past.

The report said the average age that a woman in the U.S. becomes a mother is 26.4 years old, which is much earlier than in many other Western countries, such as Sweden, the U.K. and Germany.

But the user explained she came up with a genius solution to avoid being asked when the couple was expecting to have a child, namely a "pregnancy jar."

The user posted: "I carry it with me in my bag whenever I'm with friends and family and every time someone asks about when my husband and I are gonna have a baby, I pull my jar out and ask them to pockets/ wallets/ purses and pull out a dollar and out it inside the jar. It actually worked because most of them stopped asking after 4 months."

She then shared an occasion when her brother asked her the question during a family dinner with their parents, which prompted her to get the jar.

The user added: "Everyone was looking at us. He said no, he didn't have to pay but I told him he didn't have to ask so here we are. I could tell he felt embarrassed, he immediately reached out to his pocket, pulled out his wallet and put a dollar in my jar."

According to the user, she was accused of embarrassing her brother and causing an argument with her family.

Unsurprisingly, the post attracted thousands of comments with many praising the innovative solution to the problem.

One Reddit user posted: "NTA [not the a**hole]. How creative: 'I don't have to pay you.' Yeah well, you didn't have to ask something that's none of your business but here we are. Love it."

Another added: "NTA. Furthermore, OP [original poster], I will be stealing this idea for both myself and anyone I ever advise on the issue. It. Is. Brilliant.

"It is because it does exactly what happened: it brings the absurdity of the question (and by extension the questioner) to an even more absurd plane. You have figures out how to out-crazy people that ask without looking crazy yourself."

A third commenter posted: "It's petty, but in like the best way possible. Constructive pettiness and it worked. Hopefully, you got them to reflect on their behavior."

Newsweek has contacted u/thasyojar2013 for comment.