Internet Backs Woman Who Went Head-to-Head With MIL on Christmas Over Fake House Key

The internet has come to the defense of a woman who said in a now-viral post that she went head-to-head with her mother-in-law at Christmas dinner.

Posting to Reddit's "Am I The A**hole" forum on Wednesday under the username u/Checkinout2022, the woman explained that the altercation occurred because she'd given her mother-in-law a fake house key.

The post, found here, has quickly racked up more than 31,000 up-votes and over 3,600 comments.

"My husband and I purchased a new house recently. My MIL [mother-in-law] kept pushing to get an emergency key," the woman wrote.

"She promised that she [would] only use it in an emergency but [given] the fact that she had an emergency key to our old apartment and walked in on us being intimate twice ... I just couldn't trust her so I just sent her a fake key ... and she had a smug [look] on her face after I hand-delivered it to her," the woman continued.

The woman's mother-in-law attempted to use the key sometime before Christmas and quickly discovered it was a fake. Upset, she decided to call her daughter-in-law out during Christmas dinner. But, her daughter-in-law defended herself.

"I reminded her, 'didn't you promise you wouldn't use it unless there's an emergency? So, you tried to get in when there was no emergency and you broke the promise you made to us!'"

The woman's mother-in-law was so upset by this that she excused herself from the table and threw a "tantrum" in the kitchen. Later, the woman's husband berated her for "ruining Christmas dinner for the whole family."

Writing for HuffPost in 2014, author Deanna Brann, Ph.D. defined the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship as the "most critical relationship in any family system."

"When a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not get along, the resulting tension affects everyone in the family," Brann wrote. "Many often feel the need to take sides—whether openly or in a quieter, more subtle way."

To fix the relationship, Brann said that mothers and daughters-in-law need to first recognize that their relationship with each other does affect the entire family. Then, Brann said both parties should "take a step back" and "take an honest look at the bigger picture."

"Ask yourself, 'Is this really how I want things to be in my family? Do I really want my family to see me as either the villain or the victim?'"

Finally, it's up to both parties to find solutions.

"Give it some thought. Whether you feel it is your mother-in-law or your daughter-in-law who is really causing the problems, remember that you are the one who has the power to turn things around," Brann advised.

Commenters of u/Checkinout2022's post felt that she was right to give her mother-in-law a fake key, adding that her husband was wrong to defend his mother.

"NTA [not the a**hole]. I'd rethink my marriage of my husband put his mother over me," said u/YouretheAH.

"NTA. But your husband seems to have NO Problem [with] you being humiliated and shamed in front of people. He seems to have NO regard [for] your need of privacy and dignity," wrote u/CakeEatingRabbit.

"NTA, your MIL sucks but your husband is the real problem here. Time to set some boundaries with him and if he wants to live with mommy so she can always get in his bedroom then so be it," commented u/Khanover7.

Redditor u/VinnyCapistrano added: "You DID expose his mom, and rightfully so. She needed to be exposed. Your husband is out of his mind for enabling and encouraging his mom's demented behavior."

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The internet has come to the defense of a woman who said in a now-viral post that she went head-to-head with her mother-in-law at Christmas dinner. JackF/istock