Internet Sides With Woman Who Won't Attend Sister's Wedding Due to Expensive Gift Demand

A woman received a wave of online support after she claimed in a now-viral Reddit post that she would no longer be attending her sister's wedding because the bride-to-be demanded a "very, very expensive" wedding gift.

According to the poster, the gift would cost nearly $5,000 — a price that far exceeds the average amount of money experts recommend family members spend on a wedding gift.

In the Reddit forum "Am I The A**hole," a woman under the username u/Naviers2 wanted to know: "AITA [am I the a**hole] for saying I won't go to my sisters [sic] wedding after she demanded a specific gift?" The post has received more than 11,000 votes and over 1,500 comments.

"About three weeks ago she [my sister] sent me and my husband a link to this gift she wanted us to buy for her. It was a very, very expensive and weird gift for a wedding," the poster said. "But she said this was what she wanted us to buy her.

"My husband responded that we appreciated the suggestion and would take it in mind when buying her gift," the poster continued. "She responded that no, it wasn't a suggestion, it was what she wanted us to buy."

In response to a curious commenter, the poster revealed that her sister was asking for a $4,900 gaming PC.

The poster explained that she and her husband did not have it in their budget to buy the PC; however, she told her sister that they would do their best to find something similar. But the bride would not relent.

"She told us we need to show up with a gift and this is what she'll accept from us," the poster continued. So, after more back and forth, the poster finally told her sister that she would no longer attend her wedding.

When it comes to buying a wedding gift, some wedding experts recommend that family members spend more than the average guest.

According to Brides, the average wedding gift amount is around $100. "If you're very close or related to the couple (and have the wiggle room in your budget), you may choose to spend more—about $150 per guest (or $200 from a couple)," said the publication.

Vogue also reported that the average cost for a wedding gift was around $100, and said that family members are projected to spend a minimum of $127.

Of course, these figures can fluctuate based on a variety of factors including wedding location, dress code, etc.

Still, the bride was asking for a gift that cost approximately 25 times more than what experts say her sister and brother-in-law should spend.

Commenters were quick to side with the poster.

"NTA [not the a**hole]. Skip the wedding, or show up with a toaster," said u/BunkytheClown.

"NTA. What the hell is wrong with your sister? It wouldn't be a gift, it would be extortion," commented u/Poekienijn. "She is seriously deranged. Screenshot the conversation because she will probably tell all kinds of lies about you when people ask why you are not attending."

"Seems like the gift is more important than you guys being there for her big day," added u/Supergoch.

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A woman received a wave of online support after she claimed in a now-viral Reddit post that she would no longer be attending her sister’s wedding because the bride-to-be demanded a “very, very expensive” wedding gift. Julia_Sudnitskaya/iStock