Internet Slams Mom Wanting To Remove Daughter's Bedroom Door After Catching Her With Boy

An argument between husband and wife about how to discipline their teenage daughter went viral online after the husband took to Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum to get readers' opinions.

The man, who goes by u/Sloth-Monkey on Reddit, recounted the conflict and received more than 11,600 votes and 2,600 comments in less than 24 hours.

In the post, u/Sloth-Monkey explained that a few days ago, he caught his 19-year-old daughter having sex with her boyfriend in the house. His daughter "begged" him not to tell her mother, but he felt that she "deserved to know."

u/Sloth-Monkey explained that when he told his wife, she was "livid" and yelled at their daughter for about an hour. She also took their daughter's phone away and banned her boyfriend from coming to the house.

"I told her she was being a bit too harsh," the Redditor wrote. "But she thinks that these punishments are not harsh enough. She said that if our daughter does anything else that she doesn't allow, then she is going to take the door off of her room."

He explained in the post that he told his wife she was overreacting which made her start to yell at him. He also said he decided to give their daughter her phone back while his wife was at the grocery store.

It is important to present as a united unit when disciplining children, according to VeryWell Family. Otherwise, children could learn to manipulate the less strict parent into lessening punishments while resenting the parent who holds out on disciplinary rules.

"Disagreements about parenting can easily lead to relationship problems," the publication wrote. "Sometimes one parent tends to side with the children, which can turn into 'us' against the other parent. Then, instead of working together as a team, parents begin working against each other."

In the post, he said that his wife found out and got angry. She also told her parents about the situation and they began texting him.

He explained that his in-laws were "blowing up" his phone and said he was "encouraging underage pregnancy and premarital sex."

Mother and daughter arguing
In a now-viral Reddit post, a man explained that he got in a fight with his wife about removing their daughter's bedroom door. He said the fight ensued after he walked in on his daughter having sex with her boyfriend. gpointstudio/iStock

At the end of the post, u/Sloth-Monkey posed a question for readers: "WIBTA for not letting my wife take the door off of our daughters room?"

After receiving several questions in the comments, the Redditor decided to add a few updates to the post regarding the situation.

"I have talked to my daughter and apologized for telling her mother what happened," the update read. "I told her that if she would like to look into moving out, I would help her pay for an apartment for a few months until she can pay on her own."

He also added that a few recurring comments asked if he and his wife had premarital sex, but he said they waited until a few days into their marriage when they were 23 and 26.

In the latest update, the Redditor said he wanted to clarify that he did not go into his daughter's bedroom because she was with her boyfriend in the living room.

"My wife was not home, and I just came home from the store to find my daughter and her boyfriend.... going at it.... in the living room," the post explained.

More than 2,600 readers flooded the comments and the Redditor was voted "not the a**hole" by readers. Many users mentioned that the daughter was 19 and deserved privacy at her age.

"Your daughter is 19 and she deserves privacy," one user wrote. "It's one thing to ask your daughter to please refrain from having sex in your house, it's a whole different thing to take her door."

"Taking her door away isn't a suitable punishment and honestly she shouldn't be punished for having sex anyway," another comment read. "This is 2022 not the 1950's, your wife and her family need to understand that healthy sexual expression is fine, what's needed is good (non judgmental) sex education, discussions about birth control and consent."

Newsweek has reached out to u/Sloth-Monkey for additional comment.