Internet Slams Parents Asking Nanny To Quit Job for Less Pay

The internet has slammed a family for asking their former au pair to return to work for much less money than the current national minimum wage.

The au pair who goes by the username FormerAupair posted the story on Mumsnet on Wednesday, asking the community what to do about it.

In the post, which has so far reached 183 comments, the user explained that when they were 20 they began a stint of about one and half years as an au pair for the family. Even though the conditions were not great, they were nice and kept in contact. Now they are in their late twenties and they contacted them to take the old job back.

"They had a planned baby last year and they [asked] me if I can leave my online job and babysit the baby because they don't have another option. Now I have 7 years of experience as a nanny/nursery teacher, related studies and also living by myself for a while.

"With my experience families normally offer me £11-13 ($14.5-17) but they were in a hurry so I told them that I can drop the price [to] £9.5 ($12.5) the minimum wage. They were upset with my offer saying that [it] was too much, unreasonable and that I should be there for them."

According to a study carried out by Zippia in December, there are over 217,213 Nannies currently employed in the United States and 87.4 percent of them are women. The average age of an employed nanny is 38 years old, and the average annual salary is about $40,005. In terms of hourly rate, that is about $20 per hour, which is much higher than what FormerAupair was happy to settle for but the family considered unreasonable.

FormerAupair also explained that the family is quite wealthy and could afford a nanny and they didn't understand how the family could not take into account the fact that they have bills to pay.

"The job offer sounds dodgy to me," they wrote. "Half of the minimum per hour, being on call Mon-Fri, not a minimum of hours guaranteed, no contract. Even suggested [giving] it to me by cash so I don't have to pay taxes so it's cheaper for me (this is not true because: no tax/no contract = no rights/benefits). Or as an alternative give up my apartment and go to live with them as an Au Pair again."

After the family's attempt to guilt trip the former au pair into taking the old job back, at the same old rate, they didn't know how to react and turned to the internet for help, explaining that they are not even friends with the family but doesn't want to ruin the relationship especially with the kids.

Mumsnet users were outraged by the offer, and didn't hold back their thoughts about the family.

One user, violetbunny, commented: "Lol what cheeky f*****s. Honestly, I would just say that the arrangement was mutually beneficial when you were starting out in your career but now that you have x years of experience they need to pay the going rate for that level.

"Otherwise it doesn't work for you and you wish them well finding someone else who their proposed arrangement will be suitable for. They're trying to manipulate you by playing on your emotional attachment to their kids. It's very much deliberate so don't even hesitate to tell them it just doesn't work for you!"

User Jenjenn wrote: "I wouldn't go to them even if they paid 13 and offered fixed hours. They have blurred the lines between personal and business by trying to guilt trip you to being there. You sound like you have your life sorted without minding their baby. In a nutshell, they are offering poor terms and a [guilt trip], [I] would say no thanks."

User LivesinLondon200 said: "Agree with the other posters. They are being completely unreasonable and trying to take advantage of you. If they can't see that, then they're not very nice people I'm afraid."

Exhausted nanny taking care of children
The internet rallied behind an au pair who told her story of being offered well below minimum wage. Stock image shows a frustrated carer and a screaming child. Getty Images