Woman Telling Cousin to Stop Wasting Money on IVF Treatment Sparks Outrage

The internet has slammed a woman for telling her cousin that she should consider stopping IVF treatment.

Telling all on Reddit's popular r/AmITheA**hole sub, user throwrasister6566 shared the story about the interaction with her cousin and cousin's husband in a post that now has over 10,000 upvotes.

The poster explained: "My female cousin Lauren and her husband have been struggling with having kids and are suffering from health issues. They've begun IVF treatment which is expensive where I live. So far they've had several rounds but no luck.

"We were conversing at dinner and the IVF got brought up. Everyone at the table said a prayer and wished them luck, but I told Lauren that after spending this much money and already going through several rounds in addition to other factors contributing to their infertility issues, she should consider stopping IVF and taking a break – also saving her money."

According to the University of Iowa Stead Family Children's Hospital, the average IVF cycle can cost anywhere from $12,000 to $17,000.

Data from the National Survey of Family Growth states that around 9 percent of men and about 11 percent of women of reproductive age in the U.S. have experienced fertility problems.

While a survey by the Pew Research Center found that 33 percent of American adults report that they or someone they know has used some type of fertility treatment in order to have a baby.

The suggestion to stop IVF by poster throwrasister6566 was not well received, she wrote: "Lauren and her husband looked offended, Lauren said they aren't struggling with money so it's ok. I explained that they may not be struggling now but will be in the future seeing as they'd spent thousands and wasted money for no benefits, while they could've financially helped some struggling family with kids.

"Lauren's husband looked at me grudgingly and said 'I think you should just mind your own business and keep your opinion to yourself' – from there, the argument ensued."

She went on to explain that the argument resulted in her cousin and their husband leaving, and her mom telling her that she "had 0 say in anyone's reproductive choice and should have kept my mouth shut."

Explaining that her mom later insisted she call and apologize, the poster said: "My husband sided with me and told me to give it a few days and Lauren will cool off," she ended the post with "AITA here?" – an abbreviation used on the popular forum to mean "Am I the a**hole?"

In over 3,000 comments, Reddit users slammed the poster for her behavior.

"YTA," wrote one commenter (meaning "you're the a**hole"): "Their reproductive choices are none of your business."

Shocked by the story, one user wrote: "OP gave not only an unsolicited opinion about her cousin's reproductive choices but also made suggestions as to how their finances would be better spent. I literally cannot fathom a more hurtful thing someone could say to someone struggling with their fertility... This is beyond monstrous."

Later in the comments, others shared their personal experience with IVF: "Well, it definitely wasn't a waste of money in my case, my beautiful twins would have been worth ten times what I paid for the treatment!" wrote one user. While another commented: "My IVF babies are 7 now. They are worth every tear, procedure, and injection that took to get them here. Until you know the heartbreak of infertility mind your own business."

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