Internet Backs Woman Refusing to Give Ex's New Partner Her Wedding Dress

An ex-wife has won unanimous support online after revealing on social media that she said no to a bizarre request from her former husband's new girlfriend to wear her wedding dress on her own big day.

The ex-wife took to popular Subreddit "Am I The A**hole" to share her dilemma, and how she was concerned her feelings of anger were uncalled for.

Explaining that she has been divorced from her ex-husband, who she called "K" for three years, she added that they have a five-year-old son together. The formerly married couple have remained friends and have a "great relationship with each other."

The ex-husband, she said, began dating the new girlfriend, who she called "G", around 10 months ago. Surprisingly, the poster and new girlfriend hit it off, and have "become really great friends and enjoy being around each other."

Although they aren't engaged, the new couple have discussed plans to marry in the future, wrote the Reddit user.

"I guess G saw some old pictures of me in my wedding dress and has been raving about how pretty my dress is. The other day we had coffee together and G brought up getting married soon. I told her how happy I was for her. Things changed though when she asked if she could wear MY wedding dress," she detailed.

"I was really shocked she even asked. I immediately told her that I was flattered, but no. She immediately got extremely pouty and started to ask why. I explained that I just wasn't comfortable with her wearing my dress to marry my ex husband. She got really upset and started to cause a scene. I walked out knowing that she was not going to calm down."

"About an hour later my ex husband called asking what happened. When I told him, he completely understood and was on my side, but it didn't end there. G has been having her friends and family call me and my work calling me an asshole for not 'sharing'. G is claiming that I'm not over K and that I'm just doing this to ruin her wedding.

"While it's true that I'm not over K, part of me just doesn't feel comfortable having her wear my dress. This whole argument has really put a strain on my ex's and I's relationship and the relationship around my son. Part of me feels like I should give in, but I still just don't feel comfortable with it."

Being friends with an ex is far from unusual. In fact, a survey by dating site Match found that half of men and 42 percent of women would stay friends with a former partner after a breakup. Research by the University of Kansas found that security, practicality, civility and leftover romantic feelings are the main reasons for staying friends after a breakup.

What is far less usual however, is "G"'s eagerness to recycle the ex-wife's dress, with 95 percent of brides choosing to purchase a new dress, according to data from The Knot.

Unanimous Online Response

The response to the ex-wife's post was unanimous, in agreement with her confusion and anger over the unusual request.

"It's honestly creepy that she wants to use your dress. What's going on in her head that she doesn't see this as weird? The best advice I can give you is perhaps to advise your ex-husband to try to encourage her to make buying a dress a big sappy event. Advertise it like it's a say yes to the dress moment that as a bride she can't miss out on or something," wrote one user, in one of the politely put responses.

"Why on earth would a woman ever want a dress that their partner's ex-wife wore? That just boggles my mind. That's some super bad juju right there," added another.

One Reddit user wrote: "She needs to buy her own dress. She and her family are out of their mind to think that having yours is the right way to do this wedding. Surely she can find another dress that is either the same or similar. Better yet - a dress all of her own. I'd be asking her why she wants to look like you on her wedding day."

The ex-wife was voted as "not the a**hole" by the online community, with her adding that the new girlfriend has however decided on an engagement ring different from hers, to her great relief.

Bride trying on dress
A file photo of a bride trying on a wedding dress. Getty Images