Man Slammed for Insisting Daughter Pays Him Back for Child Support

A father took to social media to get the opinion of the internet about his complex situation. Instead, the internet came for him.

In a viral post with over 15,300 upvotes and 3,200 comments, u/metalvito took to Reddit's popular "AmITheA**hole" forum to get a little clarity on whether he is the "a**hole."

The Redditor began his story by explaining that his 21-year-old daughter Aria left him and his step-family at the age of 15 to live with her biological mother, Sandra, and Sandra's hew husband. With custody over Aria split in half, the original poster (OP) was more strict on Aria than her mother was while the OP maintained all child support payments.

In research done by the United States Census Bureau, it was estimated that an average monthly payment for child support is around $430, though it could be more or less, depending on the number of dependents as well as income.

"She's always let Aria do what she wants and has never had any home rules," he explained. "She also buys Aria everything she wants so she will want to live with her."

The man detailed his level of "strict" saying that years ago, when Aria wanted to meet up with her friends from high school, he'd have to drive 25 minutes to drop her off. The next time Aria wanted to hang out with said friend, their parents had to bring them to the father's home. If they refused to drive, Aria wasn't allowed to see them again while living with her dad.

Aria crossed the line when left the country with school and only sent her father a few texts over the course of 5 days, which angered the OP.

"I decided to ground her, because she had to learn to respect and show some love for her family," he wrote. "She insisted she had sent messages to her mother but we had barely heard from her. She's never had a lot of friends, but she had been invited her to some popular girl's birthday party. This was my punishment, not going to that party after forgetting about her family."

Upset by her father's action, Aria wanted nothing more than to go to her mom's house, because she knew she would be allowed to go to the party. Since it was the father's week, that wasn't an option. However, once her mother picked her up, Aria never returned.

"I waited, but I heard nothing from her again," he said. "Her sister kept asking me why she didn't come back, and I didn't know how to explain to her that she didn't love us and that she preferred staying with her mother, her parties and her free-of-rules life."

Since then, the only way they've spoken has been through lawyers. Even though Aria is now 21 years old, both Sandra and Aria's lawyers insisted that OP pay child support and half of college tuition. U/metalvito decided to keep track of all the money that he sent to them in hopes that Aria (or Sandra) to pay him back — which they both refused to do. The overall price stands at $18,000.

Since then, the OP admitted that Aria has been trying to reconnect.

"I told her that we can't fix the emotional part unless we fix the money part first," he said. "She needs to prove to me that she doesn't only care about the money."

His ex-wife has been calling the OP an a**hole, but argued that she has only pushed Aria away from him.

The users of Reddit did not hold back their opinions in the comments.

Receiving over 60,000 upvotes in just 24 hours, u/Emiliodash88 wrote, "YTA you are a horrible father and I can see why your daughter left."

U/Laurelinn left another popular comment gaining 16,800 upvotes. "Even after reading the first sentence, 'my daughter abandoned us', I was pretty sure OP is going to turn out to be an insufferable a**hole. And... yeah," they said.

"YEP. You don't own your children, and they don't owe you anything (physical things, respect, love) U/helenwithak added. "Sounds like you were/are a very controlling parent. 100 the a**hole."

Father and Daughter Arguing
The Redditor created an Excel sheet and typed out all the payments he had to make for his daughter. The total came out to $18,000. Prostock-Studio/iStock / Getty Images Plus