Man Slammed for Telling His Grieving Wife She Is No Longer a Mother

Commenters slammed a man in a popular internet forum after his wife posted that he didn't get her a Mother's Day gift this year because her only child died a few months prior.

The anonymous woman, known as u/motherdaythrow19, posted about the conversation in Reddit's popular "Am I The A**hole" forum where it received nearly 7,500 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

According to the National Acadamy of Medicine, it is estimated that about 5 percent of parents are bereaved by the age of 30 and by 60, the number of bereaved American parents is about 9 percent.

For many of these bereaved parents, Mother's and Father's day can feel more like a memorial day of their past rather than a celebration of being a parent.

In the post titled "AITA for blowing up on my husband after he told me why he didn't get me a mothers' day gift?" the woman explained that her 7-year-old son died from an illness a few months ago.

Man slammed for rude comment to wife
A woman said her husband did not get her anything for Mother's Day because she was technically "no longer a mother" since her son died a few months prior. Users were quick to call him out for his "heartless" comment. fizkes/iStock

She said that the grief is still "raw" but wants to ensure she doesn't become a "burden" on others. However, she said her husband—who was her son's stepdad—said she's become "lazy and neglectful."

"He's partially right but those who have been in my place know how hard it is just to get out of bed these days," the post read. "This is my first mothers' day without my son. The hurt is at highest."

The woman said when she came home from a walk, she found touching gifts from friends and family to cheer her up.

When her husband came home, she showed him all the gifts people sent her for Mother's Day, but he just said it was nice and made a face. She noticed he did not have any gifts but asked to make sure, but he said he did not intend on getting her a Mother's Day gift.

"I asked why and he said didn't feel like I should hear it but I insisted," the post read. "He nonchantly [sic] told me that it's because he thought I'm no longer a mother."

The woman was baffled by his answer and she said she "blew up on him." He told her he meant it in the "technical" sense.

"I asked if he thought that I can no longer call myself a mother just because my son passed," the post read. "He said no but what he meant to say is that these circumstances are different and refused to expand on his argument."

The woman said she started a big fight over the incident and he went upstairs saying she was "lashing out" for no reason and that she should control her "temper."

"I don't know if I went too far here but it seems like I did because he's so upset and refusing to come downstairs and speak to me. AITA?" the post concluded.

Nearly 1,000 users commented on the woman's post, with the majority backing her for getting angry at her husband and offering their support to the grieving mom.

"NTA. Your son will always be your son, which means you will always be a mother. There is no such thing as being an ex-mom," one comment with 20,000 upvotes read. "Your husband could turn into an ex-husband, though, and maybe he should."

"The correct response would be 'I'm always a mother but I'm no longer your wife.' I'm so sorry for your loss," another user wrote.

"Oh my love, you are still a mom. A mom without her child is so awful it doesn't have a name. You have lovely family and friends but your husband...I don't have the words," another user commented. "He's more concerned with the housework than supporting you. He doesn't think you're a mother anymore? Cruel."

Newsweek reached out to u/motherdaythrow19 for comment.

In another viral post in Reddit's "AITA" forum, commenters rallied around a woman who refused to have her stepson show a PowerPoint presentation about his deceased mother.

Another woman recently went viral in the popular thread after she told her husband to "get over" his mother's death.

One boss was slammed in a viral Reddit post after he allegedly told her she had a bad attitude and needed to go to HR about time off after her mother died.