Mayim Bialik on 'The Big Bang Theory' Season 11 Finale and Her New Book 'Boying Up'

It's a big night for both The Big Bang Theory and the characters on the show. As the series wraps up its eleventh season, Mayim Bialik's Amy is set to marry Sheldon Cooper. Bialik has also tapped into her real-life science background to write her second novel, Boying Up: How to be Brave, Bold and Brilliant, to give advice to both boys and parents about what it's like growing older and turning into a man.

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The Big Bang Theory star Mayim Bialik talks about her big on-screen wedding and her real-life new book Michael Yarish/CBS ©2018 CBS Broadcasting, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

Newsweek caught up with Bialik ahead of The Big Bang Theory's season finale to talk all things "bazinga" including what it was like working with Mark Hamill, internet comments and what her own boys think of her latest book.

Editor's note: this interview has been lightly edited for length and clarity .

Your new book Boying Up about raising boys follows your previous book Girling Up, was your approach in writing this different in coming from an outsider's perspective? Whose male experiences did you draw on for research?

It was definitely different writing about the process by which boys become men versus the process I underwent as a girl who became a woman. As a scientist, I'm trained to understand the development of the male body as well as the female body. As a mom of boys what I have been learning over the last 13 years that I've been a mom to boys is that even though you think that you know things, there are still a lot of things to learn, to understand better, and better ways to communicate with your boys.

Did you draw from your boys or were there other men in your life you did research or from your experience?

I included in every chapter a "That's what he said" box because we wanted to include voices of actual grown-up boys speaking in their own voice about the things each chapter talks about. There's definitely stuff about my boys and ways I've learned to communicate with them. That's definitely in there, but it's not like a memoir style of like "here's what my children did when this happened." It's not like that kind of thing. There's examples about how they communicate and things that we do to kind of keep them mentally healthy as a family especially when there's differences between the way I might think to stay healthy as a girl versus the way boys often like to.

Were there things you learned when writing the book?

I feel like as a scientist and Dr. Mom I should have it together. There's still a lot to learn about the process of parenting boys. Also every family is different, every child is going to be different. My boys continue to surprise me. I do have a tendency to overtalk, and over communicate and overprocess. Boys don't always want to communicate that way. You can't take it personally. That's something that I learned as I took a step back and researched this book.

What do you hope people get from reading this book?

There are a lot of takeaways from Boying Up that are in common with Girling Up. A sense of empowerment, boys knowing about their bodies and their psychology and where they fit into our culture. I think this book can also be used as a guide book for parents to open up conversation with boys about all sorts of things ranging from puberty to dating to having an impact in a world that often gives boys mixed messages.

You've used your vlog to interact with fans and share personal stories with them as Mayim. Why is it important for you to have people know you beyond your characters?

I started a website almost three years ago called GrokNation and I also have a YouTube channel. I don't watch YouTube videos, it's new for me to watch even myself on YouTube. I started both the website and the YouTube channel as a way to put myself out there in a culture that seems to be interested in hearing what goes on in people's minds. Not always public people or celebrity people, but with the way information is now being transmitted we're used to hearing more about people's stories and I really try to share things I feel will be interesting to people, but also helpful.

I don't share every single detail of my life or my kids' lives or my dating life or anything like that. I do try and bring things up that I hope people will gain some insight into, or open up conversations so that even if people don't agree with me we can start modelling what it's like to have healthy online communications.

The video you did in regards to the wedding on The Big Bang Theory, it was a very personal video. You asked people for feedback on the dress. What kind of feedback have you got from fans in anticipation for the episode?

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Bialik says her wedding dress was surprisingly hot and uncomfortable to wear during filming Michael Yarish/CBS ©2018 CBS Broadcasting, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

People seem to be really excited from the pictures they have seen of Amy's wedding dress, which is actually like three separate pieces all put together with the giant hoop skirt underneath. It's extremely uncomfortable and very hot in case anyone was curious. People seem very emotionally attached to their wedding dresses, even the ones they didn't like very much. We're getting a lot of that kind of conversation online, which is great. It's important to feel like a part of those kind of conversations online.

That video was hard to do, I shared a lot of personal stuff. I remember someone commented 'I guess my dress worked, I've been married forever.' I thought 'I got divorced. I thought my dress was pretty nice at the time. Maybe I picked the wrong dress.'

Do you read the comments on your videos?

It's very tricky to decide whether or not to read comments or which comments to read. There have been times in my life when I read a lot more comments and while there were many positive comments and things I was really grateful to read, there's also the other side of that which is people giving unwanted opinions about what you look like or your personal life or a lot of other things. It's kind of a mixed bag. We have a team at GrokNation that reads comments and is part of giving me information I need and making sure I get to see some nice stuff.

If stuff is bad I hear about it in other ways, usually from my mother. She'll say 'Why did they say this about you?' Generally speaking I think it's like reading reviews. It's all there. You don't just get to read good reviews about yourself or your work. It's a mixed bag.

Do your boys watch any of your work or are they going to read the book?

My boys don't watch The Big Bang Theory. They've seen a couple of episodes when they visit me at work. I don't have TV, we don't watch TV at my house. They watch some cartoons, but they haven't really entered the world of episodic real-life TV shows yet, which I think is fine. We watch movies and other things, they aren't totally out of touch with pop culture.

My oldest son read Girling Up. He was my first editor. He hasn't read Boying Up, or if he has, he hasn't talked about it I think because it hits closer to home. He knows he's going to have to have all those conversations with me so why read them and then have to have them with me.

How does your Ph.D. in neuroscience affect your acting on Big Bang Theory - are there times when you fact-check your lines?

I had never seen the The Big Bang Theory when I was asked to audition for it. You don't need to be a scientist to play one on TV. I'm very grateful that I get to be the face of a woman scientist publicly because I taught for years and I'm a proud female member of the STEM community. I think that actors in general don't like you to tell them when they're doing things wrong. Our writers, generally speaking, get things pretty much correct. Many of them have science backgrounds or are partnered with people who do. They're always googling something if they don't know it. Generally, I just get to go to work and act.

There are a lot of big stars that came in for tonight's episode like Mark Hamill. Was there anyone you were particularly excited to work with or what was it like having so many people in one episode?

Doing a wedding episode is a lot like putting on a real wedding because all of the things needed for a real wedding are needed for a TV wedding. We have to fit the dress and rent the tuxedos and there's a florist and the photographers and all that stuff still has to come together. Having all these big guest stars kind of felt like family coming in from out of town because, in a way, that's what they're playing.

Having Mark Hamill was exceptional. I wrote about it for GrokNation about how unbelievable it was meeting someone you may not even want to meet. Your image of them is so perfect the way it is. That was really, really amazing. He's a very funny actor. I think people will be surprised that his timing is really perfect. He fits into the sitcom world so well. It was really, really thrilling.

What has been one of your greatest moments from filming The Big Bang Theory and playing Amy so far?

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Bialik said her co-star Jim Parsons had the flu when filming their characters' first kiss Michael Yarish/CBS ©2018 CBS Broadcasting, Inc. All Rights Reserved.

There are a lot of episodes that I remember very fondly that fans may not think about as much. Amy and Sheldon's first kiss, which was on a train, that was one of my favorite episodes. In real life, Jim [Parsons] had the flu that week. In between kisses I was rinsing my mouth out with hydrogen peroxide trying not to get sick. I didn't get sick, so that was good.

People like the tiara moment. There are other things people often bring up like 'pass the damn butter.' There's an episode where Jim and I got to dance that was really fun. One of my favorite episodes was the scavenger hunt episode where Wolowitz and Amy were doing a scavenger hunt and they end up singing Neil Diamond in the car.

Amy is a non-traditional character and you describe yourself as a non-traditional actor. Are there things that connect you to this character?

I think because I'm used to being a minority as a woman in science. When I was in academia, women are certainly outnumbered by men. That's a kind of kinship I feel with Amy because she is also a scientist. A lot of the world she operates in is male. Also, because the show is centered around a group of guys, a lot of our 'hangouts' are definitely picking up on that vibe of 'there are three females and the rest are males.' She's a late bloomer, I'm a late bloomer too. That's also something I wrote about for GrokNation and that led to Girling Up. I spoke about being a late bloomer was the impetus for Penguin to reach out to me.

Do you feel someone on the cast or crew for The Big Bang Theory has a passion for science that matches yours?

I'm certainly the only science geek and comic book geek and superhero geek on the cast. We do have a physics consultant on the show. His name is David Saltzberg and he's a professor of physics at UCLA. It's nice having him around. Eric Kaplan, one of our executive producers, he's also a super science nerd. Bill Prady, who created the Big Bang Theory and is one of the executive producers, he's a big science geek. There's plenty of us who love to geek out together. But among the cast, no one wants to hear about how excited I am when it's a comic book episode.

So what do you think? Are you excited to see Amy and Sheldon tie the knot on The Big Bang Theory? What has been your favorite Amy moment in the series so far? Let us know your thoughts in the comments section below.

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