'Men Have Problems, Too': Woman Defends TikToker for Controversial Song Cover

"Men have f***ing problems, too," said one woman named Ky on Wednesday in a now-viral TikTok. The video was filmed in response to another TikTok created last month. In that post, a man named Laurence (@lllarsonmusic) sings an original cover of Bella Poarch's "Build a B*tch" called "Build A Dude." Many women—and some men—criticized the song, saying that Laurence was "silencing women's issues." Ky, however, jumped to Laurence's defense in a video that has garnered more than 600,000 views.

Poarch's song is about body image. In an interview with Billboard, Poarch said, "there's a tremendous amount of pressure that society and the internet put on people to look perfect or be a certain way. My whole message with 'Build a B*tch' is that I want people to realize that you don't have to be perfect."

The song is told from a woman's perspective and addresses the bodily standards given to women by media and culture; however, Laurence's version is sung from the male perspective. In his TikTok, he sings:

"This ain't build a dude / You don't get to pick and choose / Six-pack abs and shoulders, too / Bouncing pecs like Terry Crews / This ain't build a dude / You know we have feelings, too / Hey, nobody's perfect, just be cool with you."

Many commenters were quick to share their distaste for the song.

"Why does every women empowerment song have a male alternative," said one commenter. "It feels like gaslighting at this point."

"Our voices always get silenced by men," said another.

Ky, frustrated with the video's commenters, jumped to Laurence's defense.

"I need to talk about this really quick [sic]," she says at the start of her TikTok. "The comments on that video are basically pissed off women. They're saying that this man is silencing women's voices and issues by making a gender-bent version of a song.

"And I just wanted to say, if you're one of those people that's pissed off by that, shut the f**k up," she continues.

Ky claims that Laurence created his version because the original song inspired him. It's natural he would choose to sing of men's issues.

"I know a lot of women forget this," she says, "but men have f**king problems, too. It's either swept under the rug or guys don't talk about it or when they do talk about it women f**king ignore it, but they go through very similar sh*t that women go through."

Ky explains that, like women, men are also sexualized, objectified and harassed. But, because men are expected to be "manly," she says they don't talk about those issues much.

"If you're one of those women who's mad at his video, I want you to know that you're a misandrist and you're f**king disgusting."


#stitch with @lllarsonmusic not saying men/women all have equal problems or the history behind them is equal, just pointing out the double standard

♬ original sound - ♡ky♡

Male commenters were quick to praise Ky, many calling her a queen and joking that they needed to group together to "protect" her. Other commenters, however, continued to press the issue.

"I saw an activist man saying that it is very disrespectful of him to take a woman's song of women's problems and make it about men," said one commenter named Amanda. "I agree with that."

"I disagree 100%, as you could tell by my video," Ky said in response. "There is nothing wrong with a song inspiring someone. Y'all are too sensitive."

"I understand that men have issues too but when you take a song that is used to specifically empower women and make it about men, it's degrading," another commenter wrote.

But some women did defend Ky in the comments.

"I am with you girl," said one.

Both TikToks receive comments daily. The internet's discourse about the song will eventually die down. But for now, it seems commenters are eager to continue sharing their thoughts on the matter.

Woman defends viral TikTok song
One woman defended a controversial viral TikTok on Wednesday, adding fuel to an already heated debate. The original post was of a man singing a cover of Bella Poarch's "Build a B**ch" called "Build a Dude." Many women criticized the song. LOIC VENANCE / Contributor/Getty