Mom Making Her Teen Daughter 'Weigh Herself' Before School Blasted

Reddit users are raging over one couple's failed attempt to address their teen daughter's weight gain, telling the pair to "get on the same page" before they harm their child's mental health.

In a post to Reddit's r/AmitheA****** forum on Thursday, u/ReadyPercentage9350 was accused of "dropping the ball" by his doctor wife during the confrontation with their 17-year-old daughter.

Mom Making Teen Daughter Weigh Herself Blasted
A stock photo of a plus-size young woman's legs standing on a set of scales. Reddit users told the couple they had handled the situation in "all the wrong ways." RyanKing999/iStock/Getty Images Plus

However, the poster said he disagrees with her approach to the situation, which involved forcing the teen to weigh herself and "lecturing" her about weight-related health concerns.

At the time of writing, the post had received almost 6,000 upvotes and more than 1,300 comments, many from people slamming the couple for handling the issue in "all the wrong ways."

Obesity Rates Are Rising Among Young People

According to the Centers for Disease Control, the number of children and teenagers who are overweight or obese has been rising for a long time.

In 2020, 22 percent of young people were classed as obese, based on their BMI, a 5 percent increase since 2011 and a total of one-in-five 2- to 19-year-olds.

There is evidence that the rate of obesity among young people has been exacerbated by the outbreak of COVID-19.

A 2021 study found that children with a BMI in the healthy range gained 5.4 pounds a year during the pandemic, 2 pounds more than pre-pandemic figures. Those who were already "moderately obese" gained an average of 12 pounds, up from 6.5 pounds.

Physicians have put this increase down to decreased activity and more screen time during lockdown.

Nevertheless, addressing weight issues with young people can be tough, with many adolescents struggling with their body image because of factors such as social media, bullying and societal pressure.

'You Both Owe Your Daughter an Apology'

In his post, u/ReadyPercentage9350 described his wife as "a pretty straight arrow" who doesn't go for "beating around bushes."

The couple noticed their daughter gaining weight over the past year, with the situation "escalating" during the summer.

"My wife noticed, I noticed, we discussed it amongst ourselves and always left it at, she's a smart girl, let's let her deal with it, she'll make the right call," the Redditor wrote.

However, after his wife saw the daughter struggling to fit into her school uniform, she decided the issue needed to be addressed.

She "proceeded to come find me and said that this was kind of it for her and that she was going to do something," the poster wrote.

"She asks my daughter to weigh herself, turns out she's about 75 pounds overweight."

After reading the result on the scales, the poster's wife began to list the health risks of gaining weight, telling the teen she'll need to start dieting and exercising.

"My wife proceeds to lay out the health risks of being this overweight to our daughter, things like high cholesterol, blood pressure, diabetes, etc," the Redditor said.

"She goes on with saying that my daughter is going to need to diet and do some exercise (she proposed walks together as a family). This became a shouting match between them."

Mid-argument, the wife said: "Your father and I...," to which the poster interrupted to say "Your mother...", denying his involvement.

After the teen had left, the wife confronted the poster, asking why he refused to present a united front to their daughter.

"She never really collaborated with me to begin with, she just went upstairs and asked our daughter to weigh herself," he said.

"We should've decided if that was the most nuanced thing to do."

Users felt that both parents had let their daughter down by refusing to work together.

"This was handled in all the wrong ways," wrote trashpanda44224422.

"You were wrong to interject and make it crystal clear that you and your wife are not presenting a united front. Your wife was wrong to stick your daughter on a scale and assume the weight is coming from something simple, and to start lecturing her immediately.

"The two of you have got to get on the same page for your daughter's sake."

MeanderingDuck agreed, commenting: "Horrid performance on both their parts. It's doing their daughter a great disservice."

Others were concerned by the wife's approach to her daughter's weight gain, especially as a medical professional, with mydahlin calling it "heavy-handed."

"You can really mess people up by handling this conversation wrong," she warned.

Mabelisms said: "The way your wife approached this was horrible, and you should have dealt with it to prevent your daughter from enduring it.

"Something is going on with your daughter and you need to get to the bottom of it, not lecture and berate her."

While ikeddiggety commented: "You both owe your daughter an apology and a reboot of the whole conversation that is based on love and respect for her no matter what she looks like."

Newsweek has reached out to u/ReadyPercentage9350 for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

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