Mother-in-Law Secretly Installing a Camera in Son's Bedroom Sparks Fury

The internet has slammed a woman for secretly installing a camera in her son and daughter-in-law's bedroom following a viral post on Reddit.

Shared Saturday on the popular r/AmITheA**hole subreddit, the poster asked: "AITA for banning my mother-in-law from the house after I discovered that she's installed a camera in the bedroom?"

The user, posting under the handle throwraOP96657, explained: "My husband got into a car accident almost a month ago. He's been bedridden due to a back injury and I've been his primary caregiver. The pressure has been too much from my mother-in-law, she keeps telling me to take care of him and be there for him constantly.

"She visits every day but doesn't do anything to help, alternatively, she'd list all the things I should or shouldn't do. The family keeps telling me she's just worried sick for her son so I try to stay calm."

The poster said that a few days before, her mother-in-law had called to berate her about not replacing the sheets quickly: "I had no idea how she found out since my husband didn't call her. My sister-in-law called me to tell me that her mom installed a camera in the bedroom to see if I was taking proper care of her son."

Stunned, the user searched around the room and found the hidden camera in her bedroom. She explained: "I called my mother-in-law and had a huge fight with her. She admitted it and said she was feeling very concerned and wanted to make sure her son was being cared for. I yelled at her telling her she's no longer allowed into my home after this."

She explained that the family has since asked her to go back on the decision, but she has stayed firm after the breach of privacy.

"My husband is upset, telling me I'm being vindictive and that if his mom can't come then he'll move out there with her. AITA?"

According to research conducted in 2020 by the National Alliance for Caregiving (NAC) and the AARP (formerly called the American Association of Retired Persons), 53 million Americans provide unpaid care for family members, with family caregivers now encompassing more than one in five Americans.

Women are more likely to be caregivers, with 61 percent of carers reported as female.

The post on Reddit now has over 23,000 upvotes and thousands of comments, with users overwhelmingly slamming the mother-in-law for what they say is a breach of privacy.

"Let your husband move out then. That woman should be arrested! What kind of family is this?" wrote one user. While another said: "Jesus. I have a sick feeling she never would have uninstalled it. Check the rest of your house and block anyone who doesn't respect your autonomy and privacy."

But the poster expressed concerns about this too and replied: "If he goes to stay with her I might get more guilt and harassment than I had already received so far since the family is hinting that I'm looking to start fights to get out of taking care of my husband."

Shocked by the story, one Redditor wrote: "You're not stopping her from seeing her son, you're preventing her from literally breaching your privacy in one of the worst ways she could possibly do again." Another agreed and said: "Let the mama's boy move out. Use this time to reflect on the relationship and whether you want to stay with that kind of partner."

Newsweek has reached out to throwraOP96657 for comment.

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