Parent Backed for Letting Son Wear Blue, a Color Autistic Daughter Hates

A parent has been backed online for continuing to allow their son to wear blue, a color that their autistic daughter hates.

Published to Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum, a parent under the anonymous username u/BlueBlueBlueBloo shared their story in hopes to receive the opinions of the "AITA" community. The viral post has over 5,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.

The original poster (OP) began their story by describing their son's love for the color blue. The things he's passionate about are all associated with blue. His favorite superhero wears blue, his favorite tv show has plenty of blue in it, his room is painted blue and he wears blue frequently.

Autistic teen not liking the color blue
A little girl holding a teddy bear. In a viral Reddit posted to the r/AmITheA**hole forum, a parent has been backed for allowing their son to wear blue, despite their autistic daughter not liking the color. M-Production/iStock / Getty Images Plus

However, their 13-year-old daughter with autism hates the color.

"She finds the color blue incredibly upsetting because it is associated with a hate organization that advocates for harming autistic people. Seeing the color is painful for her. My son's room is painted blue, and many of his outfits are blue. My daughter wants him to not wear blue clothing anywhere she can see. He refuses," u/BlueBlueBlueBloo wrote.

"I talked to my son, and he said he feels he should be allowed to wear his favorite Tshirt in his own home. I think he is right, although it hurts me to see my daughter upset. I think talking to her therapist about her aversion will help her more than banning the color, which realistically she will see in many contexts," they conclude.

Newsweek reached out to u/BlueBlueBlueBloo for comment.

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As defined by the CDC, autism spectrum disorder (ASD) is a developmental disability that is caused by differences in the brain. ASD is also more than four times more common in boys than girls.

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Newsweek has published many articles regarding conflict with teens including a father slammed online for not partaking in his daughter's hobbies, a teen was slammed by the internet after selling his brother's rare Pokemon cards and how a mom sparked backlash for telling her child it's "her own fault" she missed out on her dream college.

Redditors' reactions

"[Not the a**hole] She's going to have to deal with things she doesn't like all the time in life. She can't demand for everything to be her way," u/Orangesunset98 wrote, receiving the top comment of over 12,000 upvotes.

U/Wazlad said, "[Not the a**hole] daughter is allowed to dislike it but can't control what others wear... The colour blue is literally everywhere, she needs to work this out in therapy."

"[Not the a**hole], accommodations need to be reasonable. If she hates blue it's reasonable that her room is painted some other color and she bans it from her wardrobe. She has no right to make demands on other people's bodies," u/Odd_Trifle_2604.

"[Not the a**hole]. You shouldn't limit what your son wears because your daughter has obsessive thoughts about the color blue being associated with an organization. She needs help to understand that just because an organization uses the color, that doesn't mean all uses of the color are related to the organization. In the mean time, she needs help dealing with her feelings about the color appropriately without making demands of other people," u/Scrabblement explained.