Redditor Asked for New Roommate After Embarrassing Secret Was Outed and the Internet Is Torn

Going off to college can be an exciting time for any student. Between independence and making new friends, life after leaving the nest should be a positive experience. This wasn't the case for one young woman who took to Reddit's "Am I the A**hole" (AITA) forum to ask whether she overreacted by requesting a new roommate.

"So I (18 F) am a freshman in college and until recently I loved it!" u/throwaway65677568 wrote on the thread. "But I have discovered I have one embarrassing problem when I drink, I wet the bed. It's really humiliating for me and makes me super self conscious."

She continued by explaining that she doesn't "black-out, but the alcohol disturbs her bladder when she sleeps. "This has happened about 5 times since I got to school," she said. "The third time it happened my roommate discovered me trying to hide the evidence. I begged her not to tell anyone and thought she was sympathetic."

Things took a turn when the woman went to dinner with friends saying, "we were discussing Halloween plans and one boy made a joke about my bed wetting. I've never been more embarrassed in my life. I sobbed for hours knowing that my whole friend group knows about my problem."

The Redditor said she became so "angry and embarrassed" she left school then put in for a new roommate request. The roommate texted to say the woman was being "dramatic," to which the woman went to Reddit to ask whether she was right or wrong to react the way she did. The internet immediately took sides.

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"The fact that this is just you being unable to hold your liquor, knowing that, and drinking too much anyway makes you less sympathetic here," u/tryandbereasonable14 commented. "Doing things that you know will make you piss the bed in a shared space with other people is pretty gross and inconsiderate too."

The commenter continued: "If you're drinking to the point of peeing yourself, you're probably partying pretty hard. This, along with you saying you 'love the party scene' means you probably are just getting wasted, despite your claims that 'you don't even black out!', which isn't saying much by the way. Everyone has a few too many sometimes, but regularly doing stupid stuff while trashed gets annoying pretty quick." The post had 17,000 upvotes at the time of this article.

u/keeley_jones weighed in saying, "It's so, so gross. Especially in a dorm room space. And wetting the bed that frequently, OP's mattress has to STINK. Eventually it's going to make the whole room smell."

"Dude i HAD this exact kind of roommate my freshman year, who was notorious for wetting the bed- and let me tell you it was MISERABLE being the one to share a closet sized room with this person," u/limpbiscuitsndtea added.

However, some readers had a different perspective deeming it a possible medical issue.

u/Doc-93 said, "I have seen things like a low grade chronic UTI cause wetting the bed after only a few drinks, so if it's true that you're not blacked out you really should see your doc!"

"I have a friend who, along with some of her siblings, have a similar issue. One of her brothers, who was notorious for constantly wetting the bed after drinking started wearing an adult diaper when going out. Worked like a charm," u/just_add_cholula wrote.

The post had nearly 11,000 upvotes at the time of this article.