'She Wasn't Growing, Was Drinking Alcohol': Wife Slammed for Fake Pregnancy

The internet is behind a person who told their brother his wife was faking her pregnancy, even though she showed no signs six months along.

Posting to the infamous Reddit forum r/AmITheA**hole, u/tryingtowork-890 asked if they were wrong to tell their brother they didn't think his wife was pregnant. Titled "AITA for telling my brother that his wife was 'faking a pregnancy,'" the post has received over 7,000 upvotes and nearly 500 comments.

The original poster (OP) said that at a family lunch, their sister-in-law announced her pregnancy.

"At first everyone I including me was excited about having a new niece or nephew," u/tryingtowork-890 wrote.

But, they write, after six months, there weren't any signs, and that "she wasn't growing, was drinking alcohol, never had any ultrasounds." The OP wrote that their brother wasn't allowed to go with his wife to her hospital appointments, and that she would still bend over and pick up heavy things at work. When the OP asked about it, she said that she never told her workplace she was pregnant.

"One day I was annoyed at her behavior and asked if "Anthony" (brother) asked if he ever saw a pregnancy test. He said he didn't. I said to him I doubt she pregnant and should confirm she is," u/tryingtowork-890 wrote.

The poster said that three weeks later, they found out that Anthony had forced his wife to let him go with her on a hospital checkup—where the doctor confirmed that she had never been pregnant. Anthony demanded a divorce, while his wife blames the poster for interfering. She also said that the reason the hospital said she wasn't pregnant was due to a miscarriage.

The OP also clarified things to Newsweek, adding that fake pregnancy claims were not out of the ordinary with their sister-in-law.

"Yeah. Like I feel bad but it's not the first time she's tried to say she's "pregnant" then a couple of days later she'll say 'false alarm' to only be pregnant a couple of weeks later," u/tryingtowork-890 told Newsweek. "My brother is autistic and doesn't always realize what's going on so when she does this kind of thing he just go alongside and believes her."

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A woman is being dragged over telling her husband she was pregnant for at least six months despite not showing and continuing to drink alcohol. Andrii Zastrozhnov/Getty

While a false pregnancy is an actual medical condition where someone experiences all the same symptoms of a pregnancy—missed periods, growing belly, changes to skin and hair and morning sickness—there is no actual fetus, according to the American Pregnancy Association (APA).

Though the condition is rare, it can be seen in people of all genders. The cause of pseudocyesis, the medical term for a false pregnancy, is unknown, though the APA says the most common cause is when someone wants to be pregnant so badly they convince themselves they are.

However, this case does not seem like a true false pregnancy, since the sister-in-law didn't appear to have any symptoms. The magazine Woman's Day compiled a list of reasons some women faked their own pregnancies. Reasons ranged from wanting time off work or wanting to ditch an irritating roommate to trying to keep a boyfriend or make an ex look bad for leaving.

Redditors widely backed the original poster, with some suggesting that before they called her out, she was intending to fake a miscarriage as well.

"Except that like a miscarriage after 5or 6 months along takes a LONG time to recover from and is highly traumatic. We're talking usually hospilization. Many women who lose babies so late term also often have to end up not only naming the baby but burying or cremating them. No way would she have EVER been able to pull this off. Not unless she had a bunch of plans to essentially steal a newborn," u/LittlestEcho wrote.

"[Not the A**hole]. If she was pregnant she was an asshole for not letting your brother be involved and for the abuse with all of the alcohol, and if she wasn't pregnant then she's an asshole for lying about it," u/annedroiid wrote.

"[Not the A**hole]," u/BogwitchOfTheBog wrote. "...but what was her endgame here, exactly. Like. How did she see this otherwise playing out."

"[Not the A**hole] - Brother is in a tough spot but I think the divorce would spare him from who knows what else from a serial liar," u/gr33ne wrote.

Update (4/21/2022, 9:20 p.m.): This article has been updated with comment from u/tryingtowork-890.