'A Tad Selfish': Girlfriend Dragged for Expecting Rich Partner to Pay Debts

Thousands of internet commenters were left stunned after one 25-year-old detailed their girlfriend's reaction upon learning about their substantial wealth.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/gfis2mad said that their family is "low key wealthy," but assured that they make a conscious effort not to flaunt it. The Redditor also explained how their sister recently revealed the family's wealth to their girlfriend.

Titled, "AITA for getting mad at my sister for telling my gf about our family's wealth," the viral post has received 8.4K votes and 2.1K comments in just 9 hours.

Explaining that generally, their family makes sure they're "spending money on experiences rather than objects," u/gfis2mad said that their girlfriend learned just how much money they have while car shopping with their sister.

"Apparently [my sister] flashed my dad's credit card and talked up the salesman about how much money she has to spend," the Redditor wrote. "My gf was shocked."

"We had a huge discussion and ended up fighting about it," they added. "She was shocked at roughly how much money we had and told me I was a tad selfish for not mentioning it when she had college and medical debt."

Partner's student debt
A recent viral Reddit post sparked debate about wealthy partners, and if they should be responsible for paying off student debts. Zinkevych/iStock / Getty Images Plus

In the United States, student loan debt totals $1.75 trillion and, according to Education Data, grows six times faster than the American economy.

Despite seemingly-endless political commentary surrounding its elimination, more than 43 million former and current students face federal student loan debt. When Americans with private and federal student loan debt are included, that figure jumps to 44.7 million, per Nitro.

For those 43 million Americans, Education Data reported that the average federal student loan debt balance is $37,113. For those facing private student loan debt, as well, the average balance increases to $40,904.

With nearly a quarter of Americans facing student loan debt, and a recent Debt.com survey which revealed that 50 percent of Americans also face some form of a medical debt, people across the country have struggled to support themselves on a day-to-day basis, while also keeping up with various repayments.

Although My Bank Tracker recommends that couples in long-term relationships consider helping each other with student loan debts in order to improve credit, the independent financial comparison website also warns of the potential dangers involved with that decision.

"Unfortunately, when you give someone money to pay off their student loans...there are no guarantees that they will pay you back," the website reads. "That's what makes helping a partner pay off their loans risky. You could give your partner thousands of dollars to help with loans, but never receive something in return."

In their original Reddit post, u/gfis2mad said they had recently begun considering helping their girlfriend with her student and medical debts, but acknowledged that their sister's carelessness had sped up the timeline substantially.

"It's all happened a little too soon," they wrote.

Commenters responding to the viral post were less sympathetic, and took aim at the original poster's girlfriend for insinuating that her partner should be responsible for her debt, simply because they are wealthy.

In the post's top comment, which has received nearly 20,000 votes, Redditor u/NUT-me-SHELL told the original poster that their girlfriend's reaction to their wealth could be a potential red flag.

"The biggest a**hole here is your girlfriend for assuming that because you come from a wealthy family, you're obligated to pay off her debt," they commented. "Is this really the kind of person you want to have a relationship with?"

Redditor u/DanDan_notaman, whose comment has received 5,000 votes, echoed the same sentiment.

"Your parents' money has nothing, and will never have anything to do with her college and medical debt," they wrote.

Receiving more than 2,800 votes, Redditor u/abrokeinheart offered a fiery response to the original poster.

"Sorry she wants YOU to pay off her debt? Just because your family is wealthy?" they questioned.

"The audacity and entitlement she has," they added. "Yours and your family's finances are really none of her business unless y'all get married."