Teen Backed for Threatening Parents Who Sabotaged Sister's Relationship

Members of a popular internet forum were outraged after one 17-year-old revealed how her parents sabotaged her 27-year-old half-sister's secret relationship.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/aitatrashcan_ (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) described the tension that's plagued her family for years and detailed the events that left her hurling insults and empty threats at both of her parents.

Titled, "[Am I the a**hole] for threatening to call the cops on my parents and calling my dad a human trashcan after what they did to my sister?" the post has received nearly 6,000 upvotes and 600 comments in the last day.

Noting that she and her half-sister (called Jasmine) aren't close but keep in touch, the original poster said her father (also Jasmine's father) is incredibly demanding of the 27-year-old, and that her mother simply "doesn't like her much."

The original poster also said that her half-sister has a "friend" (called John) who lives in a neighboring state and is likely "a lot more than a friend"—much to her mother's dismay.

"She refers to him as a friend in front of mom and dad," OP wrote. "Although they also suspect otherwise."

Recently, the original poster said Jasmine was supposed to take a train to visit John, and had arranged to be picked up ahead of time.

The original poster's mother, however, had other plans.

"Mom got hold of Jasmine's phone when she came over at some point and blocked John's number," OP wrote. "This caused a HUGE misunderstanding between them [when] she basically went to the station, waited for hours and he didn't show up.

"I couldn't believe my parents could pull something like that, so I asked them and mom said she and dad thought this needed to be done for her own good," OP continued. "I shouted at them, threatening to call the cops if they don't apologize...and try to make things right.

"[My] dad said I was butting into 'adult matters' and that I was too young to understand [but] I said I understood enough and called him a human trashcan," OP added.

Unlike some overbearing parents, who try to include themselves in every aspect of their adult children's lives, toxic parents exert control of their children's lives, often resorting to sabotage to achieve whatever result they desire.

Earlier this month, mental health platform Better Help examined the qualities which qualify a parent as toxic, as well as the behaviors they exhibit as a result.

From constant criticism and guilt tripping, to passive aggression and other humiliation tactics, Better Help reports that toxic parents have little respect for personal boundaries and feel entitled to make every decision for their children—no matter how old those children may be.

These tactics, however, are mostly mental. So when toxic parents sustain their toxic behaviors years beyond legal control, the seeds they planted when their kids were still kids blossom into resentment, escapism and eventually, the complete deterioration of the parent-child relationship.

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Members of Reddit's r/AmITheA**hole forum were appalled after one teenager revealed how her parents blatantly invaded her adult sister's digital privacy. interstid/iStock / Getty Images Plus

Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors were appalled by the original poster's mother and her invasive actions, and suggested that her older, half-sister cut off their parents completely.

Responding to the assertion that the original poster was "butting into adult matters," Redditor u/ghostofumich2005 pointed out that neither her mother nor father acted much like adults when they snooped through their nearly 30-year-old daughter's cell phone.

"Butting into 'adult matters,'" they wrote in the post's top comment, which has received nearly 11,000 votes. "Mom said, after stealing her adult daughter's phone to block the number and email of a man she is with."

"If [your] mom and dad are going to act like children, they should butt out of adult matters, too," Redditor u/YeeHawMiMaw added. "Who seriously does this to another adult?"

Redditor u/SnazzySusieQ, whose comment has received nearly 4,000 votes, echoed that sentiment and warned of the potential danger OP's parents put her half-sister in by meddling in her private interactions.

"[Not the a**hole]," they wrote. "Blocking John from Jasmine's phone was vile and awful. The way the world is today, Jasmine could have been robbed or abducted waiting around a train station for hours."

In a separate comment, which has received more than 1,200 votes, Redditor u/ConsiderationCrazy22 offered advice to the original poster's half-sister.

"Jasmine is a grown a** adult and can choose with whom she dates," they wrote. "Your parents were way out of line by blocking him on her phone, her private property.

"If my parents did that I'd be going [limited contact or no contact] for a long while, not just for interfering with my dating life, but also for the gross violation of privacy," they added.

"Your sister should cut off your parents if they're gonna treat her like that," Redditor u/ElectroguyTJ chimed in.