Teen Praised for Refusing To Share Room With Mom's New Baby: 'I Said No'

A teenager has been praised for refusing to allow her half-sibling to share her bedroom, after her mom said that's where the new baby would be sleeping.

The 17-year-old took to Reddit's Am I The A**hole forum to ask for advice over the situation, under username u/Perfect_Ad5464, explaining she lives with her mom, stepdad, and 19-year-old half-brother.

They have a three bedroom house, consisting of the master suite, her brother's room, her bedroom and the basement, which also has a bathroom.

But bucking the trend for new parents, she said: "When I found out my parents were pregnant one of their first requests was that the baby share my room.

File photo of woman and baby.
File photo of woman and baby. A teem has raged against sharing her bedroom with her baby half-sibling. Artfoliophoto/Getty Images

"I immediately declined because they wanted a newborn not to sleep in their room, but in mine, while I was finishing my last year of highschool and preparing for college.

"I said no and the baby should sleep in their room, and when it was old enough to have its own room I would already have moved out."

She claimed she has plans to move into a friend's apartment for "cheap," but in the meantime was still against sharing the space with her new sibling.

The teen continued: "They got really mad at me and told me how much stress they would have after having the baby. Now I understand pregnancy is hard and all, but I really don't want to have to listen to a baby crying, have them run into my room when I'm sleeping, doing homework etc."

She told her mom and stepdad it would be better if the baby stayed with them, or if she moved to the basement, although she admitted it would be "annoying."

The student asked the internet for advice, acknowledging that she might be being "rude", adding: "But I feel like that's going to be a incredibly stressful time even for just the fourish months I'm staying here, you know with school ending, college entrance exams, waiting to see if I got in, etc. all the works.

"And on a more personal note I hate babies, they weird me out. I'm thinking I could be in the wrong because their room is more cluttered than mine, and they could have a problem making space. And my parents have their ideas yk, so I could just be biased so am I in the wrong??"

The post, which can be read here, has amassed more than 8,000 interactions, while the top comment, from Anneisangy, was upvoted more than 12,000 times.

It said: "NTA. Baby cries a lot in night and it's not your responsibility. You will not be able to sleep whole night if the baby moves in with you."

Others agreed, with Mortgage_gurl saying: "Stressful for the actual parents to have their baby in their room but it's fine if the make the daughter have the baby in their room? Wow."

"They want her to be the night nurse. Possibly the day time cater as well," _coolbluewater_ added.

And on a more personal note I hate babies, they weird me out."
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Lipslikemorphinee thought: "They'll use the excuse of not looking after the baby at night because they don't want to disturb her by coming in and out every few hours. NTA."

Rhuthbarb commented: "The baby's gender doesn't matter. Parents are being selfish and sacrificing daughter's privacy and sleep. Yes babies are stressful. But the stress is the parents', not the siblings."

International-Rice10 joked: "Daughter? you mean third parent silly."

Plantsandanger agreed, saying: "They expect the 17 yr old daughter to do all night care, I think. If it's "too stressful" for the actual parents to sleep in the same room as the newborn then it would be similarly "too stressful" for either parent to get up at night to tend to the newborn. They straight up expect op to be sister-mom."

Seed_Planter72 wrote: "With their oldest kid being 19, this must've been quite the surprise baby. They definitely plan on having OP raise this baby for them."

While Both_Cartographer831 raged: "They are beyond selfish. I would go no contact with anyone who was actually stupid enough to even ask for something so ridiculous."

The chart below, provided by Statista, shows sleep across the U.S.

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According to Stanford Children's Health, newborns spend much of their time asleep, but they often wake every three hours during the night.

They said: "Because they have a small stomach, they must wake every few hours to eat. Most babies don't start sleeping through the night (6 to 8 hours) until at least 3 months of age.

"But this can vary a lot. Some babies don't sleep through the night until closer to 1 year. In most cases, your baby will wake up and be ready to eat at least every 3 hours."

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