'Their Dad Made My Life Living Hell': Internet Backs Poster Refusing To Help Half Siblings

The internet rushed to offer advice to one user after they revealed they were being pressured to split their late father's sizable estate with their half-siblings.

In a viral post titled, "AITA for not giving my younger siblings anything out of my inheritance?" Redditor u/nourmoney explained that their father died unexpectedly, and that his house and all of his money would soon be theirs. Posted in Reddit's popular r/AmITheA**hole subreddit, the original post has received 10.7K votes and over 1,000 comments.

Explaining that their parents were divorced and that their mother remarried, u/nourmoney described their stepfather as an "a**hat," and said he mistreated them throughout their childhood.

"He always bullied me for playing video games, and because I'm fat," u/nourmoney wrote, adding that they moved out of their mother and stepfather's home and in with their real father when they were 10-years-old.

Following their father's death, the Redditor said that their mother is pressuring them to split their father's house with their half-siblings, despite the fact that they were not his children. u/nourmoney also said that their grandmother pressured them to give their half-siblings a portion of the money they are set to receive from their father's estate.

"My grandma keeps saying a little something won't hurt me financially," they explained. "But I don't want any of them thinking they can ask for money in the future."

While there are guidelines for how to split an inheritance based on the last will and testament of the deceased, there are fewer guidelines for how to split an inheritance based on familial pressures. According to Forbes, equal and unequal inheritances are the most common ways to divide an estate between multiple heirs, and are usually determined by the deceased while they are alive.

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One Redditor said their mother and grandmother are pressuring them into splitting their inheritance with their half-siblings — who have no right to any of it. iStock / Getty Images Plus/designer491

If an individual dies without a will, their estate goes into 'intestacy,' and according to Investopedia, "a court-appointed administrator will compile all of the deceased's assets, pay any debts or taxes, and distribute what remains to the beneficiaries based on the laws of their state." Inheritance laws vary from state to state, and operate within three systems: community property, common law, and elective community property.

However, those laws only apply to potential beneficiaries, not half-siblings of beneficiaries. In their original post, u/nourmoney acknowledged this, and assured that they would not be splitting their father's estate with their half-siblings. Despite pressure from their mother and grandmother, u/nourmoney said their half-siblings will not receive anything, and pointed at their stepfather's mistreatment of them as the reason why.

"[My father] wasn't their father, and their dad made my life living hell," they wrote. "I was at my lowest when living with him."

In the post's top comment, that received over 12,000 votes itself, Redditor u/Jintess offered the original poster financial advice, and encouraged them to let legal experts handle their inheritance.

"[Not the a**hole] OP," they wrote. "If I can offer advice, put the money in a trust ... rely on the Executor of Estate that your father named to set that up for you. Not only is it a great idea for you financially, it also legit allows you to say that 'it's out of my hands.'"

"Honor your father's wishes," they added.

In a fiery response to the original post, Redditor u/Prestigious-Cell3755 took aim at u/nourmoney's mother.

"If your mom picked such a winner on her second go around that it was worth alienating her child in favor of her husband, she can take that 'win' and kick rocks," they wrote.

Other Redditors agreed, and said that the original poster's mother and grandmother had no right to tell them how to divide their father's estate. One sentiment, however, was echoed throughout the viral thread: OP's half-siblings are not entitled to any of the inheritance because they are not OP's father's children.

"Never give them a cent," Redditor u/SnooWords4839 commented. "It is from your father, not theirs. They can get money from their own dad."

Newsweek reached out to u/nourmoney for comment.